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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Buddy Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body. Get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Filly
And. Merry Christmas.
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Chris
Merry Christmas everybody. Couple of days to Christmas. Are you ready? Welcome to this episode of the ending Body Burnout Show. Phil and I are excited to have a pre-Christmas episode to share with you. What have we got on the agenda for today,
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Filly
Well, it's not actually not about Christmas, but it might be relevant. It could be about housework. And I'm pretty sure that there might be some people listening who are just like, I feel so overwhelmed with everything in my house has gone to poo.
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Chris
There's going to be a bit of housework, pre and post Christmas, no doubt.
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Filly
But essentially we're going to be talking about perfectionism patterns underneath housework, which could also be applied to perfectionism leading up to Christmas.
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Chris
Awesome. All right, well, stick around guys. This one should be a really good episode.
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Filly
Listen. So before we dive in, I do want to just do a quick announcement that in January we are holding out free coaching live experience, a three day live all about unravelling perfectionism and body burnout. And we do love to hold these free coaching weeks a few times a year. So this is your chance to jump in and to get coaching in real time with us.
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Filly
The three day live is going to go are you've, let me actually pull it up on my computer. So day one is all about body systems. So the key body systems that burn out when you're running perfectionism patterns and day two is getting to the deepest root cause. So what's actually driving your patterns and your body burn out.
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Filly
And then day three will actually be looking, at food and movement in day three. And it coaching you through how to support your body from a lifestyle perspective with flow, not force. Because if you do run perfectionism patterns often you can burn yourself out by trying to get well or to be healthy. And we want to put a stop to that term.
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Filly
Also, this free coaching week is in lieu of our Lou. I don't know if that's the right word. It's in conjunction with the doors and opening to our six month program, the Ending Buddy Burnout method. So if you do love the content on this podcast, you know you love our holistic approach to ending body burnout. Go down to the shownotes, pop your name on the white list.
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Filly
The benefit of doing that is one you will get access to joining early, and we only have limited spaces, so you'll secure a spot. And also Early bird is on the waitlist. Get access to over $500 worth of exclusive bonuses, so definitely jump on there even if you're semi interested. Merry Christmas working with us. Merry Christmas Chris 500.
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Chris
Dollars worth of stuff.
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Filly
Okay let's get into the the episode today. The topic. So we're going to be talking about perfectionism. This is a common pattern underlying body burnout. Many of our clients come to us running some degree of perfectionism, and sometimes it can be really overt. And, you know, it's clear that this person is running perfectionism patterns. Other times it can be quite subtle, but the more that you become, intrigued with the patterns that you're playing, most people in body burnout, running perfectionism patterns to some degree.
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Filly
So perfectionism can show off anybody in your health, in your lifestyle. It can also show up in your home. And this might sound like a random topic to be talking about, but housework? Honestly, it is such a common conversation that we have with clients when it comes to healing it. Often, like often the conversation starts around. Oh, actually, I had a coaching session with a client just yesterday and she's like, oh, I'm really trying to unravel my perfectionism patterns.
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Filly
And I'm like, okay, well, where is it? Still showing up? It was all around home. It's like, I've got this big To-Do list of all the things I need to do. I need to iron, I need to meal prep. I need to like, you know, some nights I'm staying up to midnight rolling bliss balls. Wow. So housework could be cleaning, but it could also just be the running of the home in the family.
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Filly
So your relationship with the housework is such an awesome mirror and a reflection of what's going on inside of you. And I can guarantee if you have a rocky relationship with your home, it will be saying something deeper about you and it will be connected to a deeper root of your body. Burn out. Chris has a saying.
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Chris
The way you do anything is the way you do everything. Is that what you're going to lay into? Yeah, I reckon it it's not a, hold fast rule. One rule to rule the rules, you know? But but it's so common that it's a great starting point for a conversation. A coaching conversation. Yeah.
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Filly
Okay. So let's let's dig into some common things that we hear often from clients. And I'll talk about I'll talk about these things in terms of the dialogue that I'm hearing from from people. And often it's women. I don't know if I've ever had a conversation with one of our male clients around housework. Actually, no, that's a lie.
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Filly
I had one yesterday. Yeah. Okay. So this is males can feel this load as well.
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Chris
I have I've got a client who, if they're listening, hey, his version of this is is more around efficiency.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
And that's, that sounds like it's in the same book of perfectionism. Yeah. It's like the the shoes do not go in the doorway. They go in the one in the place where they're meant to be. And it's like, you know, this is something.
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Filly
It has to go there.
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Chris
Otherwise you don't love me.
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Filly
Yeah. Yeah. Right. Okay.
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Chris
Yeah. Well, that was the dig.
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Filly
Into that underlying stuff of what's going on. That's cool. Okay, so some things that that we often hear, I never get time to myself once I've gotten home from work, sorted out the kids and the housework, I am knackered. Like, how the heck can I heal and take my supplements and do my inner work and eat healthy when I never have time to myself and like everyone else in the house is taking up my energy.
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Filly
Okay, pick on, another one would be I'm so exhausted. The juggle of work and home is huge, and it literally can, like, be taxing to the nervous system. The adrenals, and it can be. It contributed to something like bloating because your your gut can't exist, can't function well when you're in flight or any other symptom. Another another thread.
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Filly
I can never relax at home. My brain keeps finding more things to do. It's almost like I, like, literally have to go on a holiday or hire out an Airbnb so I can relax. The moment I step into my home, it's like, oh, I got to do that, got to do that, got to do that. Oh my gosh, I've got Christmas is coming up.
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Filly
I've got like two weeks off or maybe like six weeks off, but oh, why can't I enjoy the holidays. And because I'm looking at all the things I need to do. Another one would be I'm sick of doing it all on my own. My partner and kids never help out. They're disgusting pigs.
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Chris
They don't care.
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Filly
They don't care.
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Chris
They don't care about me.
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Filly
On the receiving end to. Actually, this wasn't one that I had, put in put in the. No, it's. But this is probably more from a male perspective. Maybe this is very like generalised, but it also might be, I just feel like my partner is nagging me all the time. Or if you're an adult child still living with parents, they always want me to do things.
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Filly
Another one would be, I never feel like my house is clean enough. I tidy up in the next minute. Other people have made a mess and that can create a lot of, dysregulation. Because what if someone drops in unexpectedly and the house is a mess? Another one would be I have to keep the house clean in case someone drops by.
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Filly
And another one that I hear often, too is, seeing the piles of the washing and the dirty dishes and all the stuff that needs sorting constantly makes me feel stressed. I can never feel relaxed at home.
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Chris
I've got I've got a couple more to throw in there. Go for it. Okay, so I made a programme of mismatching a focus on what's wrong, not what's right. Constantly searching for things that haven't been done or that need to be done or that have to be done. And then that kind of leans into another made programme of necessity and possibility.
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Chris
Sometimes perfectionists have, necessity has to got to need to, should do frame rather than maybe could. Do you know that the, the dichotomy there then there's also, a judge made a program where it's like, this is the way it is done, this is the way it has to be done. This is the way it's always done.
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Chris
I mean, flexible in my standards. You can say what you want, and this is a free. Free speech is allowed. But whatever you say doesn't matter. You. I am the judge, the jury and the executioner. No swoop for you if you don't do the thing. And then also, overwhelmingly self-critical, running a pattern of if I don't do this.
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Chris
Well, that's a real problem. And, and it has an effect on my self-worth. If this doesn't get done, if this doesn't happen, if I don't have this one thing happen. This means a lot about me, and and it's not good.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
There's a few others, but, save them for another time.
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Filly
Yeah. Well I think like underneath all of that, the way that you would ascribing that to emotions of shame, frustration, resentment, anger, stress, overwhelm. So you can see how these say, these perfectionism patterns create the feeling in your emotions and in your body. And so then therefore it's going to affect health. It's literally going to put stress on your system.
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Filly
And your body systems are going to burn out. And it's a major reason why people struggle to heal because they feel like they have no time. Relationship conflict is a big part of this as well in terms of like these, this, these patterns, these thoughts, these feelings, the exacerbation. And then it exacerbates stress. So relationship conflict like I'm angry at my partner or the kids for not helping out or not sharing the load or not being able to be able to read my mind.
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Filly
Like, why can't they read my mind to do the things and and you said earlier to then attaching that onto it means something about me and they must not love me, or they must not respect me because they can't read my mind to do the things. Or when I ask them to do the things, they're not doing the things.
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Filly
So you can see how this is creating a lot of nervous system dysregulation. And it's going to absolutely be connected to things like hormone issues and body pain and anxiety and fatigue. It's exhaust ING, running these patterns, skinny shoes and.
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Chris
Suicide skin.
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Filly
Issues. Yeah, it's like a blow up. It's going to blow up somewhere and it often shows up in the skin.
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Chris
Well, the reason why I was thinking of skin issues, it's kind of waiting to pounce like a bit of acne coming up out of nowhere. So this is, this is something that we see sometimes is when there's unwritten or unclear rules, a bit of passivity, passivity, passiveness, happens. And swallowing, the swallowing of the tongue, you know, holding it in, suppressing the, the the broken rule or the the emotion regarding the broken rule and and holding back, that passiveness can lead to a ruption.
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Filly
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Chris
And when, when push comes to shove maybe hopefully, hopefully it's metaphorically. But when push comes to shove at it comes this passiveness becomes aggressiveness. And, an explosion and skin issues. It's really common. As as a symptom.
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Filly
And that happens. Yeah. Okay. Did you want to share something. You pulled something up or is that for later.
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Chris
It was Not yeah. This is for later. But but yeah, I think eruptions and passive aggressiveness holding things in when you don't speak a truth, when you're not really congruent, when you're not honest with yourself, especially, but then also with the people that you love and care about love and care about you when you're not honest, when you don't bring up the rules that you've got in your head and in your heart.
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Chris
And when you're not really clear on them, talk.
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Filly
About that.
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Chris
Saying, oh, we're going to I'm jumping the gun. Okay. It's interruption.
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Filly
It is. Okay, okay. Now we do what we want to do, going a bit more to what's what's what are your patterns? What is your relationship with the housework and home saying about you? But before I do, I wanted to mention patriarchy. So in, say, a male female relationship partnership more than often this shows up.
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Filly
This issue shows up more for women like I. We did touch on males, but like there is so much research to show that this, this stuff around carrying the load, I've got so much to do. No one's helping me. There's a lot of research that actually shows that this is still happening in modern families today. In my book, I've got a section called Happy Families and my book Ending Body Burn Out, which I'll put in the show notes if you want to grab a copy.
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Filly
But I yeah, it was interesting. There's a study looking at working women in 20 20,000 households. It's not a small population. Big amount of, participants in this study found that after the first child is born, women do far more housework than men and that as the child children are growing up, the dynamic only worsens and this is in working women.
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Filly
By the way, this isn't, mother who is, a full time stay at home mom. This is a woman who is also working the same as a man. So if there's any women listening to this right now and you're like, Yeah, that feels like my reality. It's like, yeah. Like this is this is patriarchy. And it's been modelled through the generations from your mom and grandma and your dad and granddad on.
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Filly
Now I've had I get this question a lot on when I'm being interviewed in other podcasts and about.
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Chris
Patriarchy.
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Filly
About patriarchy and, and I and I've found that like, and it's a woman being doing the interviewer thing and it's almost like it's almost like that. They're hoping to see my reaction or my response around patriarchy. Like, yeah, it's all patriarchy is fault. And like, we need to be more feminist. Take, interrogate. But I actually I actually just take a bit of a different slant in that, oh, we're all perpetuating it if you're if this is your reality, you're choosing it.
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Filly
Yes, it's invisible and it was passed down through generations. But you can't now with this awareness. But literally listening to this podcast, blame it on patriarchy and hate your male partner or think that they have to do better when what you allow, you encourage.
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Chris
I've got a I've got a piece from, from a male perspective. So stepping aside but coming back to patriarchy in a second, there's you can't have what you've not been given. Of course, you can't create something from nothing. So the way things have been for, millenniums, millenniums, millennia, it's it's been a really long time. It's.
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Chris
And and it's great that. Well, now females can vote. Now women have an ability to go into the workplace, race and gender. There's no barrier to to wanting anymore. You can you can want and you can you can go out there and, and do things. So now we've got this change that's just happened in recent time within my within my life over the last, 40 or 50 years.
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Chris
Right. Maybe just before I was born. And, and so now you can't have what you've not been given. You can't know what you've not been taught or shown to know. And my parents perpetuated patterns that that aren't relevant and that are dysfunctional to today. And so having a having a a desire and a drive to, to make things different and to, make new rules and to, to, do things differently, it takes a lot of energy because you starting from the start, we are at the start of a of a of a new it's a revolution in the way things are in the family.
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Chris
So it makes sense that there's going to be a lot of changes need to happen in families, and there's going to be a little bit of growing pain. It's a in our relationship as well. There's definitely growing pain.
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Filly
We'll talk about that scene.
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Chris
We talk I'm jumping the gun again.
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Filly
But like if anyone's worked with us, you know that that that unravelling the deepest root cause of your patterning and programming and beliefs like this is essentially what we're talking about as well. Patriarchy is a belief system that has been passed down, and often it's happening unconsciously. But the moment that you recognise it, then you have choice. It's like, oh, so I can either choose to continue running my household and running my patterns if I so choose.
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Filly
But actually now with more awareness, I can choose to do it a different way and regardless of whether you're a male or a female listener, because there's a little girl or boy, you still chose to agree that this system and way of doing what made you a good human being, like if you took it on, is that makes me a good human being.
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Filly
This is the way everyone else does it. So if I continue doing it this way, I won't get chucked out of the tribe. It was still your choice. Often it's happening unconsciously, but then with choice come or with awareness comes more choice and you can choose something different.
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Chris
And. And if you don't have an open communication channel with your with your partner, it's just going to end up in, in explosions and blow ups and passive aggressiveness. And it's going to I mean, it doesn't surprise me that in today's day and age, the divorce rates are through the roof and marriage rates, what's the opposite of that?
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Chris
Through the floor. Not not happening as much because it's it's too big of a risk. Anyway, I won't go there, but, communication channels, it's so critical if you want to have a good relationship and you. And there is a foundation of love and love is, is is present. And you can take that box.
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Chris
You're going to have to explore what this new, world looks like for you. Create new rules for you. For yourself?
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
For your family.
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Filly
So. So underneath, even the pattern of patriarchy, there's still a belief underneath that that causes you to continue running perfectionism patterns around housework that is, like, literally exhausting and burning you out. I'm going to read some statements, and I'll pause between each one just so that you can feel it in your body, and opening up the little gate between conscious and unconscious mind, so that if you're ready to receive anything that kind of bubbles up to your head.
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Filly
I think he's like such go data when you're when you're entering the coaching space. And essentially like, I mean, the podcast is a bit of a one way because we don't have another client on the other side responding back and mirroring and us mirroring it back. But still this these, these are coaching questions that I'll ask you right now.
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Filly
Some may be relevant, some may not. But when your heart is open, you'll start getting some really good old insights. That is that is deeper root cause stuff, causing you to feel burnt out. So if you have to make sure the house is perfect, you are doing so because you believe something unkind about yourself.
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Filly
If you feel frustrated and shame when the house isn't perfect, you are doing so because you believe something unkind about yourself. If you are playing the martyr role, you are doing so because you believe something unkind about yourself.
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Filly
If you struggle to delegate and outsource, you are doing so because you believe something unkind about yourself. And if you blow up at the partner in the kids because they're not doing enough, but then fail to train them the way you want to be treated, if you are doing so because you believe something unkind about yourself. So let's take back your power.
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Filly
Take full responsibility that what you allow, you encourage and actually start doing. The deeper work that will make a big difference. I guarantee you that there aren't other functional medicine practitioners talking to you about this. They'll be like, you've got a chain of fatigue. You've got leaky gut, you've got detox.
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Chris
And that is the root cause.
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Filly
And that is the root cause. They're not going to be talking to you about it. And how how is your relationship with your housework?
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Chris
Because the way you do anything, the way you do your housework and the way you relate to your husband is the way your body works.
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Filly
Yeah. Okay. I'm going to share my story as a teaching example, because I'm actually really proud of this story because I am 100% like, I'm actually really enjoying doing this podcast. And when I was preparing for it too, it was just like flowing out of me. I didn't even have to think about it because it was my experience.
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Filly
This is all the things around how I felt about the home and the load and the perfectionism patterns and the stress and the overall and the burnout. So prior to kids, my house always had to be tidy. And when Chris came along and we got married and we lived together.
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Chris
Chris kept doing what he was always Chris.
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Filly
Kept doing.
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Chris
What he didn't like a bachelor.
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Filly
Living like a bachelor. And I don't know if you remember, but it caused my vision. What? It caused a lot of conflict because you didn't care about how you.
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Chris
Yeah, I didn't care about the same thing. It wasn't as big of an issue for you. I was like, oh, yeah, nice. If you like that, that's great.
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Filly
It's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, if you like it, you keep doing all the tidying up.
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Chris
I'm okay with like having piles.
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Filly
And I, I'm pretty sure like your younger younger married me did not have the emotional intelligence on our. Did. So I'm pretty sure I was probably passive aggressive about it. I'd be like oh fine, I'll do it all the anyway. But I kept a very tidy house, until kids came along. And when I had.
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Chris
I have three, three pile makers.
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Filly
Three pile makers. Well, it was also that after the birth of Poppy, our first daughter, I was just really unwell. Like, that was my first major body burnout episode. Our experience I was physically and mentally unwell. I had no energy, like I literally had no energy physically or mentally to keep the house tidy all the time. And then as the kids started growing up, they made a lot of mistakes.
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Filly
They made a lot of myths. So I lowered my expectations in terms of what I could do as an output. But the mess constantly was still a trigger to my nervous system, because I hadn't done the deeper work around why I felt the urge and the need to have a tidy house all the time anyway. So I was literally just trying to manage the situation by saying, oh no, no, it's okay, I don't have to have a tidy house.
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Filly
But still my whole body, like my bodily experience, was constantly being triggered by all the mess that I could see. So as the kids sort of growing older, I tried to delegate. I got to the point where I'm like, I can't do all of this on my own, and I want to tidy house. And it would usually look like passive aggressive resentment towards Chris, and then I'd explode and I'd scream at him in the kids and tell them that they're all disgusting pigs.
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Filly
And why do you never help me? And do you remember what I would usually do after the explosion, where it would then be like, yeah, you need to go clean the dishes and yeah.
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Chris
Oh, then you did it.
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Filly
Yeah. Then I did it. Like, literally. I wouldn't even give them the time or space. I probably would wait five minutes.
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Chris
And then Poppy and I were sitting back and we'd be like, oh, it's picked done.
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Filly
I guess it's been done.
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Chris
Don't worry kids, mummy just wanted to have a little explosion so that she could get ready to do the stuff that she said for us to do by itself. Yeah.
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Filly
Now, if you think about that from like a nervous system, even like, like essentially what was happening in my body, in my patterns was a trauma response. So it's like, go and clean, like I'm sick of it. I'm sick of doing this all by myself. But then my unconscious mind is like, it's not getting done. It's not getting done.
00:27:44:07 - 00:28:07:18
Filly
Oh my gosh, it's been two minutes and it hasn't been done. So I'd frantically get off and I'd do all the things, or they would start cleaning and I would just follow them around like a crazy rabbit. It's like, oh, I haven't done it right. Go now. I was about five or so years ago. It was definitely before writing the book because I have shared this story in my book.
00:28:07:20 - 00:28:30:23
Filly
I remember filling out a census form. So I think, is it every two years we get a census form anyway? Whatever. And I was completing the form and I was already feeling frustrated and a bit burnt out by all the housework and all the cleaning and the little help that my family gave me. And my boiler really hit exploding point when I reached a part in the census form that asked about housework.
00:28:30:23 - 00:29:04:20
Filly
So there's a question that said how much? How many hours do you do and how many hours does your partner do? And there was also stuff around. And how many hours do you work and how many hours to your partner work? And I'm like, now I'm seeing it in writing. I'm not only experiencing this, but in writing. We are doing the same amount of work in our business, but I'm doing 20 plus hours of housework, and Chris was only doing 1 or 2 awake, and I think it might have been childcare or something as well.
00:29:04:21 - 00:29:26:22
Filly
So then I'm like, okay, this is a recipe for burnout. So anyway, like I got really aggressive and I'm just like, yeah, now I've got evidence, now I've got evidence that I'm not being silly. And I stormed down into Chris's office and I had my chest puffed out and I said, the census form into his face. And I and I said to in there, see, you have to do more.
00:29:27:00 - 00:29:29:19
Filly
I'm doing like way more than you.
00:29:29:21 - 00:29:32:17
Chris
What did I say? Well, this is.
00:29:32:19 - 00:29:35:23
Filly
What you said. No, because at the start of the podcast.
00:29:36:00 - 00:29:40:17
Chris
Oh, did I well, this is really interesting because this meant so much to you.
00:29:40:18 - 00:29:41:10
Filly
Really meant a lot.
00:29:41:10 - 00:29:46:18
Chris
And it really didn't mean a thing to me. And so I actually can't remember this conversation.
00:29:46:20 - 00:30:02:22
Filly
Okay. I mean, I can't because I wrote in my book. So then I edited it many times. But it was this was like a pivotal point where I'm like, I think this is also during this, my third body burn out during like the Covid times. So it was probably like four years ago.
00:30:03:00 - 00:30:14:02
Chris
Which is, which is the yeah, keep going. I was just going to say which is clear fact, that it's like a this is less of a crisis, like it is a crisis issue because, I mean, you're my wife.
00:30:14:02 - 00:30:17:01
Filly
Well, it wasn't, but it's for you because you had no pain around it. Yeah.
00:30:17:01 - 00:30:24:21
Chris
And it was this is a Filly Filly issue to, to primarily like identify, which is I think that's a that's really interesting. Keegan. Sorry.
00:30:25:02 - 00:30:34:17
Filly
So you said you this is the thing that you said to me. You smiling at me like, what did I say? You said what you allow, you encourage.
00:30:34:19 - 00:30:35:13
Chris
Amazing.
00:30:35:13 - 00:30:39:10
Filly
That is all you said. No. I want to slap you in the face.
00:30:39:12 - 00:30:43:05
Chris
I'm so proud of that answer. Because, that is amazing.
00:30:43:07 - 00:30:54:21
Filly
Haha. And I'm like, okay, but take a deep breath and I'm like, yeah, yeah. He just coached me. I didn't ask for it, but like it's kind of true. Okay.
00:30:54:23 - 00:30:59:08
Chris
Oh that's so good. I would probably say if that. And this is again I'd say the same thing. That's so.
00:30:59:08 - 00:31:16:09
Filly
Funny. I think this is I think this is why this is a memory that sticks out in my mind. One, because of like the visual data at the census form. It's just like, wow, this isn't me just making this up in my head. And then I'll say your response. And then it was just kind of like, okay.
00:31:16:11 - 00:31:36:16
Filly
So it turned out that I was allowing all of it. You know what? I wasn't allowing others to help me out. I wasn't teaching them how. I was expecting them to use their own initiative or read my mind and just do it. Yeah. I didn't even give them time to do the chores because I kept rushing in to do it first.
00:31:36:16 - 00:32:08:19
Filly
So I was always encouraging it, always encouraging their behaviour again, like I was encouraging patriarchy, but I was still allowing that to happen. There was no clear expectation of who was in charge for what. I mean, like, you guys just expected that I would do it all because I was I was encouraging it all along. So when I was, so it was very close to this time that I then started doing some deep inner, what we call metaphysical work.
00:32:08:19 - 00:32:35:06
Filly
So it's really like, all right, let's go beyond just looking at body systems, at lifestyle. Why am I running these patterns that are literally destroying me? They're exhausting me. And that's where I discovered that I had a deep belief and old belief that I was weak and incapable. And so then when I found that, I'm like, oh, this house stuff makes so much sense.
00:32:35:08 - 00:33:15:09
Filly
So if unconsciously I believed that I was weakening capable, then that means that how could I ever be like a capable housewife? How could I ever be a capable mother? How could I ever be capable enough to keep a tidy house as well as, like, manage my children and my business and so the the housework was just really a mirror reflecting back on me, on my wiring, pressing on my wound and causing me to have these patterns where I was dysregulated, passive aggressive, blowing up, running in, not teaching, not waiting, not being patient.
00:33:15:11 - 00:33:25:07
Filly
And it was just perpetuating, Yeah. So, yeah.
00:33:25:09 - 00:33:32:22
Chris
Did it let me just think. Yeah, this could be a good time. So I mentioned piles.
00:33:33:00 - 00:33:39:17
Filly
There's there's like poo piles. No shopping. I mean, shopping, shopping piles.
00:33:39:17 - 00:33:44:07
Chris
I piles that you see on the desk, literally. Right now. Piles of all of my God bother me.
00:33:44:07 - 00:33:47:21
Filly
Chris's desk is really messy, but, like, totally doesn't bother me.
00:33:47:21 - 00:34:10:00
Chris
But it bothers me because this is my workplace. But I've got I've got Paul, I've got some work workbooks, some acting books. I've got some bushwalking books. And they're in I use them every day and to get behind the script, I have a reason for the like. There's a functional reason. Now, there's a couple other things that have no functional reason.
00:34:10:02 - 00:34:28:09
Chris
And and I think when you have a conversation with your partner, there's got to be a reason why things are the way they are, why they do what they do. Underneath every behaviour is a belief. Underneath that there has there has to be there. It's there. Sometimes it takes a few goes at this conversation for you to get there guys.
00:34:28:09 - 00:34:50:04
Chris
But I did what I did for for a really good reason. The problem was I had forgotten long ago and I wasn't even looking. It wasn't on my radar of of things to, to investigate. So I wasn't looking for answers. So it was unconscious. It was buried in there. And so that took some work for me to like, realise.
00:34:50:04 - 00:34:53:22
Chris
And then are you going to talk about,
00:34:54:00 - 00:34:54:21
Filly
Rules.
00:34:54:23 - 00:34:58:22
Chris
I know, like, why this was so important to you?
00:34:59:00 - 00:35:03:07
Filly
The cleaning. Yeah. Oh, well, it was, it was important because, we.
00:35:03:07 - 00:35:04:16
Chris
Live a minimalistic life.
00:35:04:16 - 00:35:08:20
Filly
No no no no no no no. For me, it was deeply rooted in wakening. Capable.
00:35:09:01 - 00:35:14:17
Chris
Oh, yeah. No. What? Snap me out of it was where you broke it down to, like, why this is so.
00:35:14:20 - 00:35:17:04
Filly
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Can we talk about that?
00:35:17:08 - 00:35:19:01
Chris
We can talk. Yeah, we can talk about this.
00:35:19:02 - 00:35:20:18
Filly
Okay, cool.
00:35:20:20 - 00:35:21:15
Chris
I like jumping the gun.
00:35:21:16 - 00:35:24:23
Filly
I like to be linear. Chris is very, like, flowering.
00:35:25:04 - 00:35:29:04
Chris
Like I'm in a star. Yeah, I, I come back to the senses.
00:35:29:06 - 00:35:49:13
Filly
Because I would I would love to talk about that. I want to talk about, like some real practical steps in terms of how do you actually start unravelling this coming soon. So but before we do, I just wanted to mention something like, again, this is a pivotal moment. That sounds really random, but it was like, oh, it was another connection.
00:35:49:15 - 00:36:14:18
Filly
So when I was deep into unravel ING and reprogramming this belief and I'd like identified it, I remember watching the Wolves one day and as I walked up to the wall, like who, who, who washes walls of like just a perfectionist would because I definitely don't anymore. But I like watching the wolves, and I watched a little smudge off the wall and any mat and a little imaginary mother.
00:36:14:20 - 00:36:20:02
Filly
My mum. Oh, if you don't, my showed up. Oh, and she said, good job Filly.
00:36:20:04 - 00:36:21:01
Chris
Right?
00:36:21:03 - 00:36:53:20
Filly
And I remember it as clear as day. It was like she obviously wasn't on my shoulder, but it popped into my head and I was like, whoa, what the oh my gosh. This is like, everything is coming back to childhood. Not only was the belief that I made, but I realised that as an adult, my dysregulation around cleaning was connected to feeling like I was being judged by my mom that she might drop into our house at any time and like, if our house is messy, I felt like I was going to be judged.
00:36:53:21 - 00:37:09:21
Filly
But even deeper than that, I was judging myself before others even had the chance to judge me. And so the deeper fear was that the belief I had about myself, the fear was that it was going to be confirmed by others when I told my mom this because I like it, you know, I.
00:37:10:00 - 00:37:11:08
Chris
I was wondering if. Yeah, okay.
00:37:11:08 - 00:37:31:11
Filly
Could I have had I have had many conversations with my mom and she's like, oh my gosh. Like, I'd never think that. And I know that. And even back then there wasn't she wasn't, she isn't wasn't a mom that comes in and it's like, oh, why is there mess everywhere? Like, I don't think she's judgy like that at all.
00:37:31:11 - 00:38:14:09
Filly
But my whole unconscious mind was like, my mom's going to judge me. My mom's going to judge me. Okay, so all of that point of point of all of that, like, if we just wrap up that part and then we'll move into action steps that you can take, is that what you allow? You encourage if you continue living out your deepest dysfunctional beliefs you have about yourself, if you continue doing everything for everyone else, if you continue letting others treat you poorly, if you continue overdoing and being controlling, you will not only remaining body burn out, but you'll never have an experience you'll never be able to experience, like deep loving relationships and calm and
00:38:14:09 - 00:38:34:18
Filly
relaxation. So this housework isn't just about your physical health. It's like literally about your whole life. And it's not about housework at all. I think by now you understand that, that it's the deeper baggage stuck in the unconscious mind that is being asked to review. Okay, so how people.
00:38:34:18 - 00:38:42:03
Chris
Do comments like at this point of the video, can you write a comment? What's your what's what's going on in your mind right now?
00:38:42:05 - 00:38:48:20
Filly
But you could jump on 12 socials. You can absolutely jump onto like Instagram or Facebook. Yeah, only.
00:38:48:22 - 00:38:49:11
Chris
Right now.
00:38:49:12 - 00:38:50:13
Filly
The podcast blogs.
00:38:50:16 - 00:38:57:00
Chris
But before you even finish this episode, like what are your thoughts like and then compare them to like at the end? Yeah man, be.
00:38:57:00 - 00:39:20:11
Filly
Interested in this. An email or a Facebook message instead. Love to hear it. Yeah. Okay, so how can you unravel yourself from what I call home burnout? This is this is what I do. And it's what other clients are doing too, is they're holistically healing their deep root causes and ending their body burnout. So first and foremost, you must do the inner work.
00:39:20:11 - 00:39:48:06
Filly
You must identify this deepest root root cause belief and reprogramme it, as well as reviewing and clearing any distressing events from your body that is attached to it. This will 100% free you from perfectionism patterns, because you won't have guilt or shame, or self-loathing, or people pleasing or rescuing patterns that can show up around household duties. So you're not managing your patterns anymore.
00:39:48:06 - 00:40:09:00
Filly
I know, like, gosh, I hear this a lot. Especially like with new clients or, you know, maybe we're just talking to a business colleague or a friend or something. And they're like, yeah, yeah. Like I just tell myself not to do it. Well, like, I just put really strong boundaries in place. All I can, I just drop my expectations.
00:40:09:01 - 00:40:28:00
Filly
But, like, if anyone's watching the YouTube video, you kind of see my face, like, doing this. I'm, like, about to explode right now because your whole your unconscious mind, you're fighting against yourself. So rather than trying to force yourself to change or disciplining yourself to be different, it's like, just get to the root reprogramme it, get rid of it.
00:40:28:02 - 00:40:50:17
Filly
And then the natural consequence is your patterns are now healthy and resourceful. And you'll probably be like me now where I'm just like, my house is messy most of the time. Also, if you if this is like if this is really resonating, jump down to the show notes and pop your name on the wait list to our ending body burnout method.
00:40:50:17 - 00:40:57:15
Filly
This is, I would say, this type of work is 8,090% of what we do with our clients to get remarkable results.
00:40:57:16 - 00:40:58:04
Chris
Oh yeah.
00:40:58:09 - 00:41:10:18
Filly
There is lab testing, there is supplements. There is kind of like, you know, tidying up lifestyle and diet. But essentially it's this deeper stuff that makes it like this is what heals. The other stuff is just a Band-Aid, if that's all that you do.
00:41:10:23 - 00:41:32:21
Chris
If, the obstacle is the way, this is usually the obstacle in the way of your of being able to heal in the first place. So you take supplements, you do a treatment protocol, you do some lab testing, and you work on your body systems. The obstacle there is that that what we're talking about today, especially.
00:41:32:21 - 00:41:58:13
Chris
And all the other things. The metaphysical is gonna hold you back. If you want to unlock your healing power, you you got to get to the root cause. And it's not going to be, your gastrointestinal system is got gizmos growing in it that shouldn't be there. Done. Take this thing to kill them off. It's like, yeah, it could do the thing, but but there's other stuff.
00:41:58:15 - 00:42:00:16
Chris
Yeah. That's more important. Yeah.
00:42:00:17 - 00:42:25:01
Filly
Okay, so so once you've done the inner work then you can get really clear and honest with yourself. Like what are you allowing to happen that you don't like anymore? That you don't want anyone? What are you constantly doing or not doing that saps your soul? Or that you just really don't like? And is there anything that you're doing that you're noticing resentment or hatred or drudgery around?
00:42:25:03 - 00:42:49:07
Filly
So when I started and and doing the deep inner work allows you to have these conversations with yourself so that you have capacity and it's safe to do it. So I realised I was doing way too much. So I did a few strategy things. I lowered my expectations, and this time I could do it because my house actually had nothing to do with my beliefs about myself, whether it was clean or not.
00:42:49:09 - 00:43:17:01
Filly
Still an awesome person. So I was able to lower my expectations in a way that didn't freak out my unconscious mind. And then I reviewed and upgraded unconscious agreements around the home. So, for example, any clients who have who have work through our Spock process, there's a lesson on unconscious agreements. But an example of this would be an old agreement was having a tidy house all the time means I'm capable and a worthwhile human being.
00:43:17:03 - 00:43:35:10
Filly
And it's like, whoa, that's like very like perfectionism. A goal right there. A perfectionist goal is actually unattainable. And so you constantly feel like you have to do more and more and more to reach the goal, to feel like you're a worthwhile human being. So then I'm like, oh, new agreement. The house is clean enough to be hygienic.
00:43:35:10 - 00:44:07:08
Filly
Okay, so sorry, the new agreement was that the house must be clean enough to be hygienic so that we're not, like, growing mould and having like, cockroaches running around everywhere. But stuff lying around the house is okay, and it's of no reflection of who I am at my core. And actually this is a reframe stuff lying around our house means that it's lived in, because often the stuff that's lying around is our kids toys, forts, coffee houses, craft wool, your guitar.
00:44:07:10 - 00:44:08:07
Chris
My other guitar.
00:44:08:10 - 00:44:29:22
Filly
And so now I actually like that stuff. Doesn't bother me at all anymore. One because it's no reflection of who I am at my core. But also it's beautiful. It's like our kids, like our family gets to live and be messy and through things around and our gosh, that's way rather more of that than just like lead to technology, right?
00:44:29:22 - 00:44:56:22
Chris
Yeah. And I it's just I don't know if I've, it's hit me. Maybe it has and I've forgotten. But there is a direct correlation with mess. And technology disuse. You know, like I think that the more our especially our oldest is on like the iPad, even drawing and doing things that, you know, may be not like terrible.
00:44:57:00 - 00:45:19:17
Chris
But the less time she's out saw jumping on the trampoline, running around, throwing rocks, being active, being a kid, making forts, breaking them, throwing, you know, beautiful, wonderful kid things that, glorious for development. Yeah. Versus technology. So mess is going to happen.
00:45:19:18 - 00:45:32:18
Filly
So mess actually equals, living play, play. I actually say mess, you know, like with our current children's ages is mess equals play. Yeah. And creativity. I'm like, all for that.
00:45:32:21 - 00:45:52:03
Chris
We can toe and now now that we've got that we can make art and I, I'm jumping the gun again. But now we can make some better rules that, that actually reflect that. It's like right, okay. Yes. We want you to, to play and we want you to have fun. But you know what? How about you actually just hang the towel up rather than throw it on the floor?
00:45:52:03 - 00:45:57:04
Chris
And how that happens? That's a current, current conversation we're having right now.
00:45:57:06 - 00:45:58:23
Filly
That's good. I haven't had that conversation.
00:45:59:01 - 00:46:12:00
Chris
Oh, that. That's okay. So that's a dad conversation with with, our youngest. Yeah. She thinks that the best place for for a hand towel is on the floor about 20 steps away. She pulled it.
00:46:12:00 - 00:46:14:09
Filly
Off. The tea towel. The kitchen tea towel? That is annoying.
00:46:14:09 - 00:46:26:03
Chris
No, it's every towel. It's like it doesn't matter if she's out of a bath or shower or whatever, or wipe the hands off to go into the bathroom. It's like ten steps and there'll be a towel on the floor. I'm like, babe.
00:46:26:05 - 00:46:32:04
Filly
What's. And it's actually like, that pattern for our children is to like the they're just the two of us.
00:46:32:04 - 00:46:32:13
Chris
It's two.
00:46:32:17 - 00:46:46:00
Filly
Yeah. It's like they're not present. They're like, wash the thing and then like, does it go to the next thing? Whereas it's like, especially if there's technology involved, it's like quick, go to the toilet and wash my hands fast as I can so I can jump back on TV. As opposed to the slowness.
00:46:46:04 - 00:46:58:04
Chris
Yeah. So anyway, yeah, this is a work in progress and it's and but there's such great conversations like, okay, now we've had that conversation with us and then this.
00:46:58:06 - 00:47:00:17
Filly
Past city to do it for the children. Yeah.
00:47:00:19 - 00:47:23:11
Chris
And now there's next level problems that are happening. It's like, right, okay. Now we're now we're not a shame kind of mess. Now we have to like the next step is to, to meet the new, new problems and, and have new conversations. And it's not going to like those conversations where it's like, kids will grow up, we'll grow up, blah, blah, blah.
00:47:23:16 - 00:47:43:11
Filly
Yeah. Okay. Next, next step, is getting clear on what you'd like to delegate to other family members or to hired help. So I'll give you some practical examples. So I realised there were some necessary things that needed to be done to keep a high. Janie Kass so remember, my new agreement was doesn't have to be tidy, but it has to be hygienic.
00:47:43:13 - 00:48:09:01
Filly
So there were some things that were necessary, like for example, my bathrooms. If I had during if I, I actually stopped cleaning the bathrooms every week because I lowered my expectations. And I'm like, you know what? I don't really want to clean it every week. I'd rather like, leave on my weekend. And then I started just doing it fortnightly, but then noticing that, you know, there were like little, little bits growing that really didn't need to be there.
00:48:09:01 - 00:48:28:12
Filly
That was it. Good on a hygiene check. And I am a big fan of no mould in our house. So I hired a cleaner. And she does our floors every week and she does our bathrooms. And in order for me to do that, I had to break through a bunch of blocks around being able to outsource or to hired help.
00:48:28:14 - 00:48:59:06
Filly
But far out. My life is amazing because of it. I love on it, I love you, and there she comes. Two hours a week and it's the best ever. So then before. And it comes on a Tuesday morning one times a week on the Monday night, the whole family does a clean up. So like, this is literally where we, we just, like, go through all the rooms and the kids are doing most of it because it's mostly their staff and it's like, pick everything up off the floor and put it in the kid's room or your or your bedroom.
00:48:59:08 - 00:49:19:20
Filly
And again, load my expectations. I don't care how you store it, even if it's like jammed in closets or like pushed up against the floor or the walls. I don't care if they're happy. I'm happy. They're the ones that have to sleep in their bedrooms. But you know, that tidy up, which I used to do every day, if not two, three, 2 or 3 times a day, and now only happens once a week.
00:49:19:20 - 00:49:41:03
Filly
And it's the best. And then the other one is days at clinic. So the days that I'm away from the home at clinic all day, Chris is in charge. Edina and cleaning the kitchen because the kitchen must be cleaned every day. If it's not, it's unhygienic. And so this is delegated to Chris and I had to retrain you.
00:49:41:05 - 00:50:04:01
Filly
This is part of like our relationship marriage rules that we we integrated into our life. And it probably took you about a good month of me reminding you and then getting angry. And, you know, because I had to I had to build up the pain. For Chris, it wasn't painful for Chris that the kitchen was dirty because he didn't really care.
00:50:04:01 - 00:50:22:07
Filly
But I cared because I'm like, that makes it really hard to make school lunches and breakfast the next morning. So the pain, like, increase the pain. But he gave me permission to be an angry wife, and it wasn't passive aggressive this time because it was a clear you broke the rule.
00:50:22:10 - 00:50:56:16
Chris
My I didn't I didn't like my rule was I don't I don't want a wife who doesn't talk to me, who who ignores me, who when I when I try and initiate a conversation or communicate or even touch or, not even like lovey dovey sexual kind of stuff, like just connecting. I do not want to have somebody who's who pushes away and runs away and and neglects me and her kids and the dog.
00:50:56:18 - 00:51:02:06
Filly
I never, never neglected, that dog, our dog.
00:51:02:10 - 00:51:17:04
Chris
So, so so it was critical for me. It was a rule for me. I'm just like, if you've got something you I deserve, to to hear it. And she's like, yeah, well, clean the bloomin dishes. Yeah. All right. Fine. Thank you.
00:51:17:07 - 00:51:26:04
Filly
And I think you started talking about this, but I sort of cut you off. And I said, well, circle back to that at the end. But there was the part where you needed it had to make sense to you. Why?
00:51:26:06 - 00:51:30:10
Chris
Yeah. It didn't make sense. It was it was so illogical to me at that point.
00:51:30:14 - 00:51:52:11
Filly
And so a conversation had to be had. This is and also, I wasn't clear initially. I just said on the days I might clean it, you you clean the house. Now, the first night I came back, Chris had gone to basketball. I walk into the house and the kitchen. The kitchen was a pigsty and he comes home later at not all like happy with himself.
00:51:52:13 - 00:52:01:06
Filly
And I'm like, you didn't even do the thing that you said you were going to do. This is a really important agreement in our marriage that, like you agreed upon.
00:52:01:06 - 00:52:03:02
Chris
Are you talking about the floor? Yeah, yeah, I.
00:52:03:07 - 00:52:05:13
Filly
Was like, I did I did clean the house.
00:52:05:14 - 00:52:10:08
Chris
Are you not entertained? Look at the clean and immaculate ness. So perfect. Beautiful.
00:52:10:08 - 00:52:20:12
Filly
I said look, there's no space. He had vacuumed the whole house. Now, that's not what I in my head. That's not what I wanted. I wanted a clean.
00:52:20:12 - 00:52:21:08
Chris
I mopped.
00:52:21:08 - 00:52:26:16
Filly
I want to leave you mopped. You went out. You went above and beyond. And so then I felt bad.
00:52:26:18 - 00:52:30:11
Chris
Fine. I'm like I am well refined and immaculate.
00:52:30:13 - 00:53:00:15
Filly
Well. And then I felt bad because I'm like, like I'm angry and feel bad at the same time. But it was just another learning curve that, hey, Filly, say specifically what you want and then allow Chris to say yes or no. And if he says no, then negotiate on something that's going to work for both of us as opposed to using like being vague because it's very rare that I don't see you're on the same page.
00:53:00:15 - 00:53:32:20
Chris
I do not see even in business and in every aspect of life, Filly and I's brains see different things, and this is probably the same for you in your relationship as well. Your partner in your movie running in your mind, you're so busy you don't have time. That's a that's an interesting point, but you don't have time to break it down into the nitty gritty and and explain exactly what's going on in your head, like clearing out and laying out your expectations.
00:53:32:22 - 00:53:38:07
Chris
That's probably why your expectations aren't being met in the first place, cuz you're not being clear. You're not clear yourself.
00:53:38:13 - 00:53:57:05
Filly
And that will come back to probably people pleasing patterns where it's like, oh, I don't want to rock the boat. I can't oh, like, I can't really say exactly what I want because what if I put someone out? Or it could be a failure thing as well. It's just like, oh no, I couldn't ask for that. Because what if they don't give it to me?
00:53:57:05 - 00:54:24:21
Filly
Then it's just going to confirm that nasty thing I already believe about myself. So I stay quiet. Okay. This has been a fun game. Very highly of enjoyed and got something out of it. Moral of the story do your own inner work first, then you have capacity and the authority authority to retrain the family. And if you're trying to heal your body, burn out your body, burn out your body, but not doing this deepest off, it will be a continuous burn out cycle.
00:54:24:21 - 00:54:49:17
Filly
I promise you, even if you feel better for a time, it will come back. You'll be living with the same patterns, the same stress, the same relationships. All the steps and diets won't change anything long term because you can't outsource the root cause. So just a reminder that if you really loved this episode, we are going to be digging way more into perfectionism and its connection with body burnout and how to unravel it.
00:54:49:17 - 00:55:14:00
Filly
In our free coaching week in January. So check that out in the show notes. And also, if you're ready for this deep root, root cause holistic way of healing your body. We do work on the physical as well, for sure. Join the waitlist for the ending body burn out method. Doors open to our white listers on the 20th of January, and yet you will get all these awesome bonuses.
00:55:14:02 - 00:55:15:03
Chris
Merry Christmas guys.
00:55:15:03 - 00:55:19:06
Filly
Merry Christmas! Hope the house is full of joy.
00:55:19:07 - 00:55:20:13
Chris
And lived in and.
00:55:20:13 - 00:55:23:12
Filly
Probably messy. And that's okay.
00:55:23:14 - 00:55:27:17
Chris
So you guys.
00:55:27:19 - 00:55:37:21
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
00:55:37:23 - 00:56:03:21
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about that group or one on one ending buddy burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
00:56:03:23 - 00:56:04:07
Chris
For.
