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Chris
Hello and welcome to the Ending Body Burnout Show. We are your host, Chris and Filly co-founders of a multi award winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, busyness, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic, root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready.
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Filly
To heal your body. Get your spark back.
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Filly
Deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Filly
Hello friend! I have got goosebumps from this most amazing interview we just did for the podcast with Kristy Russell. You might recognise her name. She was actually on our podcast last year. and she shared her journey of healing, 30 years of chronic pain, and also the work that she does in the music, mindset and movement space and healing space.
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Filly
And after the podcast interview with her, I actually went on to her podcast and I shared my own body burnout story. And afterwards, she reached out to to Chris and I for some help. So she was actually struggling with her third body burnout episode, late last year. And anyway, as the universe brought us together, she actually joined our ending body burnout method program in our last, cohort.
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Filly
So when our doors opened, earlier this year. And so she's about 4 or 5 months into the program, and she has so generously shared her healing story with us today. And I am.
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So.
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Filly
Excited for you to hear her journey as she has dug into the deepest root causes of her body burnout, perfectionism, people pleasing patterns. she was struggling with brain fog. Overwhelm, anxiety, stress. It was the dragon mom, and she also had some pretty intense allergies and histamine issues. And all of that is resolved now, as she's leaned into our ending body burnout method process and my hat goes off to her because she has just been a joy to experience as she has wholeheartedly lent into the process of healing.
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Filly
You know, ending body burnout method. We also we're a holistic program. So we're working on both the physical so the body systems, resetting the body systems with lab based supplements based on what you need, nutrition, lifestyle therapies. But what's very different about our functional medicine practice is that we are looking at the deepest root cause. We don't just say, I am like stress.
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Filly
This lifestyle is causing it. Most people know that. But like, let's actually change that. Let's look at why you are running, overdoing perfectionism, people pleasing patterns that are causing your nervous system to be so dysregulated that has been leading to these body burnout symptoms. And so Kristy really leaned into the metaphysical side of things of healing. She actually said, and she had already done a bucket load of physical healing work.
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Filly
She was actually in the process of desensitise ization for her allergies that were helping a little bit. But she had this really, this gut instinct that she needed to really get into the deepest root.
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Kristy
What is the deepest.
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Filly
Root here that is causing her to think, feel and behave the way that she was and which was also affecting her physical and mental health. And so we dig into her story. It is phenomenal. I know that you're going to get so much insight from what she shares. She also comes from a background of of healing and mindset and and body mind connection.
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Filly
So she is a wealth of knowledge in and of herself. And I also know that you just going to get so much hope and inspiration in as you listen to her story and as you listen to her story, I really want you to tap into your own story, because your story could be her story at the moment. You might feel fatigued, exhausted, burnt out, anxious, depressed.
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Filly
Maybe you're struggling with allergies and histamine issues like Kristy. Your gut issues, hormone issues, autoimmune flare ups, chronic body pain. You might feel like you're the hopeless case, like it can't work for you. But as you listen to Kristy story, I really want you to try on her stories. Your story. Because in our practice, we believe that 95% of what you need to heal is already inside of you.
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Filly
The other 5% is important. The lab testing might be like some supplements to restore some imbalances. People like us, a coach, a practitioner, a guide to help you along the way, the process. But essentially 95% of what you need to heal is already inside of you. And as you listen to Kristy story, I want you to try that on for yourself because you have the power to heal.
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Filly
And if you really resonate with our holistic way of healing, body burn out, guess what? Next to it next month? Or you might even be listening to this in May. So in May 20th of May, the doors open to ending body burn out method program. We only open doors three times a year. So it's actually really exciting time for me increase because we get to welcoming people who have been waiting months and months to dive into the root cause of their body, burn out and find their spark and heal.
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Filly
And as you listen to Kristy story to you recognise or realise that it's not just about feeling physically better, but it has this beautiful ripple effect into every area of your life. Your family, your relationships, your finances, your business, your career, your well-being. When we talk about ending body burnout, we're not talking about just relieving you of symptoms, although that is part of the bonus of ending your body burnout.
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Filly
But it is really tapping into the deepest part of yourself. Learning to love and connect with yourself, having rapport and trust with self, and creating the life of your dreams. And it is so possible for you. So doors open on the 20th of May. They are only open for eight days, so pop your name on the waitlist. we'll also have some really cool early bird bonuses which evaluated over $500 here.
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Filly
And we've really specifically picked these bonuses to help you make it an easy yes to join the program. so these bonuses are going to help you break through self-doubt that you can't do it. It's also going to help you get organised with your time so that you can create time to heal. We're also giving you, some money.
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Filly
So actually a voucher to spend on lab tests or supplements, because who doesn't like to save a bit of money. And we have also strategically put in a special session halfway through the program. So we'll set that around month three, month four, which we've called the halfway Get Unstuck session. Because if you've done a program before or you've started a thing, a protocol, often we start and it's all like shiny.
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Yay! Awesome new woo!
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Filly
And then it fizzles out and your motivation dies. And we do not let that happen in our ending body burnout method, we you received so much support, including one on one support that you can't get lost. And we've strategically added in processes and sessions to help you get unstuck when you feel like you can't do it any longer or it's too hard.
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Filly
So put your name on the waitlist and you can get access to those early bird bonuses. We also only have a few so many spaces left, so we can only take on a max of 80 clients in our ending body burnout method. I think we're currently sitting at 68, so literally there will be 12 spots open when the doors open, so you don't want to miss out.
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Filly
Otherwise you'll have to wait until September. Windows open again. and also to during launch. Wait, we're going to run some really cool free events. So we've got a three day stress burnout and why you got protocol isn't working. So that's all about energy, mood, gut issues. and the role that body burnout and stress plays on the health of our body and how we can actually unravel all parts of ourselves so that we can fully heal and not just Band-Aid symptoms.
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Filly
We've also got a Communicating with symptoms workshop that one is actually $27. Although if you purchased my book, in the early bird bonuses. So that would have been last year. You can get that for free if you didn't get the email. Send me an email and I'll send you a coupon to access that workshop for free. And then we also, the day before doors closed, we have three steps to Ending Your Body Burnout webinar, where we're going to take you through the steps you need to take in order to end your body burnout.
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Filly
it's not just going to be us talking about our program or, teaching you things. We're actually going to coach you. So launch week and the free events we're putting on is a great way of saying, if we vibe saying, if you like the way that we work with our clients, the way that we coach, the way that we ask intelligent investigative questions to get to your root and and help you access the healing power within you.
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Filly
also, one other thing is our launch week also corresponds with Natural Medicine Week, which is a nationwide, celebration of natural medicine. So I am an ambassador of Natural Medicine Week. And so I'm going to put a link underneath the show notes to you so that you can check out all the other fun things events, blogs, free recipes, free resources that you can get.
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Filly
as part of Natural Medicine Week. Okay, that was the longest injury ever, but I really wanted to give, this episode the justice and the space it needed, because it's very rare that someone is brave enough to come and share their story. And also, before we jump in, I want to just officially, read Kristy Kristy's bio.
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Filly
So, because she has her own business, which is amazing. We talk a lot more about it. So Kristy Russell is an early childhood specialist. She's a music educator, mum of two busy boys and musical mindset mentor for early years educators, teachers and parents. Kristy is on a mission to spread the spread the magic and power of music and through her business, movers and shakers, music advocates for musical learning to be embedded into every curriculum, not as an added extra.
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Filly
So if you're someone.
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Who.
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Filly
is a teacher, whether that's a music school parent or a parent with children, and you want to help your kids to understand the power and magic of music and how it can help regulate the system and bring more joy and help with development. Kristy is your woman. You need to reach out to her. So I'm also going to pop her website into the show notes.
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Filly
And for any clients listening, we are so going to be so lucky to have Kristy Russell on the 22nd of May coming to do a special guest expert workshop with us in our program, all about using the body and movement and somatics.
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To really.
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Filly
Deeply reprogramme dysfunctional beliefs that you have uncovered about yourself and also shift charged emotion, trauma, distressing events from the body when we can access, the body which holds our unconscious mind. Okay, let's dive into today's episode.
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Chris
All right, guys, welcome to this episode of the Anybody Burnout show. if we got a good one for you today, we have our client, Kristy Russell, with us. So we're excited to interview Kristy. Find out a little bit more about her journey, ask you some questions, and have a really nice conversation. Thank you so much, everyone for joining us.
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Chris
And thank you so much, Kristy. Coming on to the show as well.
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Kristy
Oh, you're so welcome. I'm so excited to be here I can't wait.
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Filly
I am so excited to I mean, I say it all the time in sessions in the anybody out method, but it's like it's so important to collect evidence. Yes, we're able to heal and not just, you know, in the standard take fit feeling, you get better. But to really, tap into your own ability to be able to heal yourself.
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Filly
Sorry this is such a gift to us and to yourself and also to the world and listeners, because I feel like so many people are going to get so much hope and understanding to around how you actually heal yourself. Yeah, through your journey.
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Kristy
We are going to make the mystery become alive, like actually practically how it actually happens. So and that's what I'm really excited about too, because sometimes it can be a little bit daunting. You've got this sort of philosophical idea of, oh yeah, I'm going to heal myself. But actually what that entails, it's it's a bit of hard work.
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Kristy
Yeah, for sure. But, yeah, it's a it's a fantastic process. So I'm excited to share my journey.
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Yeah.
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Chris
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Filly
Now, if you're an avid listener, you might actually recognise Kristy's voice because I actually interviewed Kristy last year. Hey, it would have been early last year. I think it's maybe tember. I mean, anyway, whenever it was, I'm going to pop the link in the show notes. If someone, anyone wants to listen back to our interview. But part of that interview.
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Filly
So you are, you have a business. Movers and shakers, music in mindset.
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Yeah.
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Filly
So working with children teaches parents as well to use music mindset to, you know, not just learn things that to help support development and and well-being, which I love.
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Yeah.
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Filly
So we spoke about that on the interview last year, but you also shared some of your own healing journey. So maybe if we start there, just do a little recap if someone wants to listen to the full, earlier. Yeah, burn out episode, I guess, and hit from that. But just a recap so that people understand that this isn't your first radio.
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Filly
When it wasn't.
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My first radio.
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Kristy
So true. Yeah. So a recap would be good because, that was really a before. It's a significant before and after story. And I as you said, I had already done some healing there with three. There have been three pivotal, points in my life of personal transformation and personal personal development. And now that I've got the the language for it, three burnouts basically.
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Kristy
So one, the year I was 30 going to 31, which is 2008, back in 2020, which probably a lot of people had some burnout during the Covid times. And then again recently, I would say November last year. but the one, when when I talked about that earlier, that earlier podcast, I was explaining things like I'd had stomach pains and migraines since I was I think my first migraine was ten.
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Kristy
My first sort of stomach ache that sort of was recurring was around 7 or 8, which then led into all these other physical and, emotional symptoms of chronic back pain, just kind of like fibromyalgia or just all manner of things. And there was a big list of things that could have gone wrong. Then it was probably tweaked, you know, and tried, you know, going down the roots of, medical practitioners, alternative therapies, natural naturopathy, to the point where, you know, I was even considering back surgery, all of that.
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Kristy
So.
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the, the.
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Kristy
The big when I was in my 30th year, that was where I really just tapped into more of a general spiritual transformation. So I, got a lot into crystals and I did a lot of workshops to do with meditation, and I learned how to meditate and do yoga. And I had also been practising tai chi for several years.
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Kristy
And then the one when I was about 41 back in 2020, that was, chronic pain. I'd had chronic back pain for probably before.
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Kristy
A good 12 years. I'd say. And I work through a process through curable. It's a.
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Kristy
An organisation, I suppose, that talks about mind and body and how pain is an emotion. it's usually repressed emotions. So there was a lot of learning about, about mental states and sort of an amalgamation of, you know, NLP, neuro linguistic programming, CBT, cognitive behavioural therapy. There was great motor imagery. There was expressive writing exercises. So it was a really more of a holistic look at, look at how chronic pain develops in the human system.
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Kristy
I suppose. And that one was really transformative like that. I was able to switch off my, and somatic tracking. So that was really important because I know I use that a lot in your ending body burnout method. So that was a major transformation because it meant that, you know, leading up to that, crisis period, I was unable to, you know, piggyback on my young children or carry them for long amounts of time or run around with them and have fun, you know, and I was only like, you know, late 30s, early 40s.
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Kristy
That's that's not normal. You should be able to run around. And so so it didn't only affect me in a physical way, it affected me emotionally. And it was a lot of, you know, depression and, feelings of disconnection from my family. And then, of course, the mother guilt that comes with not feeling like you're doing right for your children and just, you know, the knock on effects were quite wide.
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Kristy
I really dive into that process, mind body process for about 16 months before it really had a, a proper like it was embedded into the way I thought. And I was, you know, even when I felt pain signals coming back, I was able to switch them off using my the methods, you know, the, the strategies. And I also started taekwondo and training, for which I absolutely loved, and that became also a mental and a physical booster for, you know, for everything.
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Kristy
And I loved it. You know, it's looking back, it was more.
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Of.
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Kristy
Now what I know about proving and overdoing. Like there was certainly an element of that. I'm going to you know, I've switched so many is not being able to run around and do this.
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I'm going to.
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Kristy
Do it like at 200%.
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That.
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Filly
I'm going to chop a board with my hand.
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Kristy
Exactly. There's a lot of power that came from that.
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Yes.
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Kristy
So and then the, the latest one in November last year, that was a year. Last year was a year of many amazing growth in starting, you know, really building up my business that we kind of be in a hobby on the side. But then I realise I've got it, you know, I want to do this online thing. And I created to learn how to create a website.
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Kristy
And I learned all these amazing skills. But at the same time, I burnt myself out like literally burnt myself out. And that's.
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When.
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Kristy
I came to you guys.
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Yeah, yeah. Don't die.
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Filly
Next chapter. Yeah.
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Kristy
Next chapter. Yeah. So.
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Filly
So what did that look like for you then in terms of setting out. Yeah.
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Kristy
I actually made a couple of notes because I want to make sure I don't, you know, go off track emotionally. I was so high and so low. Really, really. I was a dragging mum with the kids, getting irritable all the time, and then feeling guilty about, like, just lashing out at them verbally, not physically, but, you know, really over critical and controlling them.
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Kristy
And, you know, I do I do find a lot of comfort still in, you know, being organised relatively, you know, most of the time and, you know, having things kind of structured. But this was next level. Like I was even looking at myself going, man.
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This.
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Kristy
There's something wrong here, Kristy. And like my husband who's really helpful and supportive, so annoying.
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It's you don't mind.
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Kristy
Me saying that. And I know that that's part of your story.
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It's unlike.
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Kristy
You and Chris, so.
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Ehm. Yeah, yeah.
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Kristy
And then physically the taekwondo training and I was progressing in a really high level. I, you know, I'm, I'm actually at the point where I, I can go and sit for my, my black belt. So if I choose to do so, but even that I was getting injuries and my muscles were cramping up and I was it was not giving me.
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The.
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Kristy
Adrenaline. It was not giving me the endorphins anymore. It actually felt like sucking the life out of me.
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Kristy
Business. I was getting the brain fog. I was not making money. I was doing, doing, doing like all the time on the computer. I have to do this. I have to organise this. Nothing was actually giving me financial revenue, even though it's a Start-Up business and I knew in my head that I have to give it time. You know, I can't make a business in six months.
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Kristy
But I got to know, you know, I'd really put an effort in some say from February to November that last year. And yeah, November kind of November ish came and I was like, I am not like I'm, I'm not good.
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Filly
I and I think it's important to to note that you were teaching as well. not only were you trying to build a business, but you was I had a.
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Job and children and a husband, and I've got. Yeah, we.
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Kristy
Live on a hobby farm, which is not really a hobby. And I don't do a lot of the I don't do a lot of the farm work, but my job is more of the the veggie patch in the orchard and the me. Like I take the lead with the meals and the kids stuff so that my husband does more of the farm work and, you know, on the weekends and he does the meals.
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Kristy
And so we have a fairly good balance there. But I was also working three days a week at my kids school in literacy intervention, which is I love that job, but it's also quite mentally draining because you're giving, giving, giving a lot. And also I have private piano students, so there was a lot going on, lots of things to juggle.
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and I was.
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Kristy
Dropping balls left, right and centre.
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Filly
And also the allergy stuff too. Hey.
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Oh yes. The allergies. Yeah.
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Kristy
So I had, that was the new symptoms that came up. I was getting, you know, potentially off the back of Covid again, had that sort of I had a lot of long Covid.
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Kristy
Symptoms that we recognised with, asthma. And I was on a preventer every day. And then I developed really acute, allergies to dust mites and pollen, grasses. We live on a farm. So I was doing the Desensitisation program, and I was having, like, asthma attacks left, right and centre. And I do look back at that and think, I do believe a lot of that was, partly panic attack, partly.
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Kristy
a typical asthma attack.
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Yeah.
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Kristy
And I remember when, you know, that first outlet when I started the ending body burnout method. you know, look at writing down what's your worst fear or something. And I, I actually thought I was going to have a heart attack or a panic attack. And I, I was that I was in that much of a crisis. That's how much my mom stacked.
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Yeah.
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Kristy
You know, you talked a lot about stacking the pain. It was way up there. And not only we had to change.
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Oh, okay.
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Kristy
Big breath.
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Filly
Oh, okay. No, this.
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Is this is.
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Filly
Good. I mean, like, oh, my gosh, there's so many, similarities between your and one.
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Yeah, there are.
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Filly
So many. And also so many of our clients or people listening to me will resonate with all of that. So the first step usually, you know, ending body burnout method is to start with it, connect the dots, which is then like let's look at where the body systems are at. So you've got some symptoms showing up. Yeah. It can't be symptoms without there being some sort of body system imbalance.
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Filly
And then from there we're looking into what actually caused those imbalances in the first place. What are the deep root causes. Now I remembering that initial consult, you said I don't want to be disrespectful. But but I don't think I want to do anything physical. Like I don't want to do any lab testing or supplements.
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can.
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Filly
You talk into that? Because I actually was just, like, really excited when you said that.
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Yeah.
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Kristy
And that had come off, following you guys for a little while. And when I say a little while, we'd probably come together through Tina Tower. earlier in that year and just sort of, you know, then when we did the podcast, you got me thinking about a few things, and then I listened to your podcasts and and there was lots of there were more steps, like, I didn't just dive into you guys, you know, I did a bit of research and and felt, okay, well, what are they talking about?
00:27:35:18 - 00:28:00:12
Kristy
Does this sound true to me? because I've had a lot of, I'm going to call the medical scars because going to doctors and GP's and specialists that, treat not necessarily any fault of their own, but it's more of a system thing. Don't have a knowledge of actually what pain is. Don't have a knowledge of what alternative thing.
00:28:00:12 - 00:28:30:21
Kristy
How alternative? things can support your emotional capacity to heal. So when when I heard oh, and also that 15 minute call with Chris, the, just a discovery call. so in my mind, I had done I'd already done a lot of the, a lot of different, different types of, you know, looking, you know, the chronic pain, the mind body.
00:28:31:03 - 00:28:55:11
Kristy
I'd done your standard tests, like your blood tests and then further investigations from that, and it all showed up fine. Of course, maybe a little bit of low iron here or whatever. So I just I was very cynical of lab testing, not I, I think from, I think your type of lab testing would be a lot more, helpful to people that would be interested in that.
00:28:55:17 - 00:29:16:00
Kristy
But for me personally, I knew that there was something right down deep, right down deep that I needed to just dig around and get out. Yeah, yeah. Your face is doing what I, you know, just like there's just not enough. And I knew and I remember saying this to you, Chris, I need somebody else with the knowledge and the skills to.
00:29:16:00 - 00:29:18:09
Look through.
00:29:18:11 - 00:29:47:00
Kristy
The mask that I've created for myself because my, my mask is very, very, very, clever. And it's going to hide my worst fears about myself. But that is the thing that I need to discover about myself. And I felt like I couldn't. I didn't want to do that by myself for the first time. I, you know, with curable, I was, I was doing it by myself, you know, as working through the process by myself.
00:29:47:02 - 00:29:59:00
Kristy
This time round, I knew that there was something so deep inside of me that had to be healed, that I needed help, and that you guys were the ones to help me because of your own journey as well.
00:29:59:02 - 00:30:00:05
00:30:00:07 - 00:30:20:15
Kristy
So yeah, I didn't feel like I felt like the lab testing would be great and insightful, but it wasn't what I needed. And I'm really pleased that I made that decision and had your support from that as well, because, that was for me. That was where my journey was going to go straight into the metaphysical diving.
00:30:20:17 - 00:30:21:23
Yeah. And we do.
00:30:21:23 - 00:30:29:09
Filly
Have other clients do that too, where they where they understand that actually, before I go down, that.
00:30:29:13 - 00:30:30:21
Thing that a lot.
00:30:30:21 - 00:30:51:10
Filly
Of people, love the lab testing or the idea of lab testing, you know, and like, oh, and then I know what supplement and what diet to take and, Oh, yeah. Okay. This actually does show you that I'm really stressed and it's and it's wonderful. And for a lot of clients, they do that and it helps to reset and accelerate the process.
00:30:51:10 - 00:31:10:04
Filly
But it is not root cold medicine. Definitely not root cold medicine because you have to always look below what's actually causing the body to burn out in the first place. So that's why I was actually quite excited because sometimes the conversation is, oh no, I don't need all that other stuff. Or you know, I don't need to look underneath the surface.
00:31:10:04 - 00:31:11:18
Just give me know them.
00:31:11:18 - 00:31:20:22
Filly
And I like we don't practice like that. It's like, no, that's actually a Band-Aid approach. But we can the body systems that. So that's why I was really excited.
00:31:21:00 - 00:31:21:03
That.
00:31:21:03 - 00:31:25:08
Filly
You like you know what? I'm just going to go to the deepest part what's right away.
00:31:25:10 - 00:31:27:18
You know, do anything else physical.
00:31:27:20 - 00:31:41:13
Filly
I'll look at that later. But I have a feeling. And you also said, I know that I've been able to resolve like fibromyalgia, chronic pain, like symptoms with my mind.
00:31:41:16 - 00:31:42:05
Yeah.
00:31:42:07 - 00:31:46:12
Filly
And so I feel like or I know that I can do it again, which is cool.
00:31:46:14 - 00:31:49:18
Definitely. Yeah.
00:31:49:20 - 00:31:55:02
Filly
Okay. Well let's go into the root cause.
00:31:55:04 - 00:31:56:14
Yeah.
00:31:56:16 - 00:32:20:17
Kristy
Well that in itself was a I won't say long journey, but the process to getting there was so important, all those tiny steps. And I've said this to you guys before, I mean, I'm so in awe of how you've created this. I really am, because there is such a a logical. And I'm quite a logical, pragmatic person.
00:32:20:17 - 00:32:42:02
Kristy
So I loved that there was okay, do this first, and then once you've done that properly, do that and do that and do that and everything builds on and your knowledge becomes deeper and deeper and deeper. So if you've done the work and leaned into it willingly, with an open mind and curiosity, there's no other outcome than the truth.
00:32:42:04 - 00:32:43:14
Yeah, yeah. You know, there's.
00:32:43:14 - 00:33:07:14
Kristy
No there's nowhere else to go. If you do it half arsed, then you'll you'll get that result as well. And but in saying that there's no reason why you can't then go back when you need to. Course correct. But that comes down. So getting to the root root. Cause I was surprised at how much writing there was in the outlets, and I resisted a lot of that sometimes.
00:33:07:14 - 00:33:18:21
Kristy
And I like to write. Right. So sometimes I wrote, sometimes I did a voice memo, but there was so much value in that because when you allow yourself to get everything out, just let.
00:33:18:21 - 00:33:19:02
Out.
00:33:19:05 - 00:33:44:14
Kristy
Verbal diarrhoea. You've got to do it because it's through that process that you uncover the things that you're hiding from yourself because you're scared. It's a it's actually a really scary process. And I'm not saying that to scare people off. I'm saying that to give you that idea that, okay, this is going to be challenging, but my goodness, the rewards are amazing.
00:33:44:16 - 00:33:57:00
Kristy
Once you find that and build that rapport with yourself. But you've got to follow that process. So when I found the root root cause, do you want me to say what what it was for me?
00:33:57:02 - 00:34:01:11
Filly
Go for it. So we might just, for someone who hasn't done the process.
00:34:01:13 - 00:34:01:19
Yeah.
00:34:01:19 - 00:34:09:07
Filly
We in our practice, deepest root cause always comes back to the deepest dysfunctional belief you have about yourself. Yeah.
00:34:09:09 - 00:34:10:00
Because, yes.
00:34:10:00 - 00:34:18:22
Filly
That is the machine that's driving everything. Your thoughts, your feelings, your actions, your lifestyle, your habits, and also the state and health of your body.
00:34:19:00 - 00:34:19:23
Yeah.
00:34:20:01 - 00:34:42:00
Kristy
And you learn. And those are the little, you know, the little modules, if you like, that, you learn along the way so that you're not just diving into the root root cause are you. Go, oh, look, I'm unlovable. You're actually understanding how that root root cause works. So, you know, through the dysfunctional patterns of behaviour, I learned that my perfectionist patterns were running really, really hard.
00:34:42:00 - 00:35:20:11
Kristy
Like pushing me, people pleasing, pushing me to do do do and and stop my own truth from coming out and, you know, stuck in a victim drama, and a responsibility or trying to save people and being over responsible. So all of that, knowing that led me to, okay, well, why like, you know, and then looking back when you're a kid, you know, when you're all of those beliefs and patterns are formed before two and then before seven, I could see that for me, it was it came down to two really clear things out beliefs.
00:35:20:13 - 00:35:40:23
Kristy
I am worthless and I am weak now that I am weak one it read like you know, you helped us out by putting an example of things like I am weak or I am incapable, or I'm unworthy of being loved or whatever, and I kind of look through some of those. I'm going, no, that doesn't sit with me, or kinda.
00:35:41:01 - 00:35:43:22
Kristy
But when I got to the weak one, I'm like, yeah.
00:35:44:00 - 00:35:44:20
Yeah.
00:35:44:22 - 00:36:03:20
Kristy
And it's got, oh, like it kind of sinks in. But when I got to the worthless one, oh my goodness, the tears that came out at the same time like this white lifted. But this recognition came and I was like, Jesus, that's excuse me. That was like.
00:36:03:22 - 00:36:04:22
Really?
00:36:05:01 - 00:36:27:14
Kristy
That's harsh. Christi, how can you feel like you're worthless? Like that means no worth. That is that is worse than unworthy. That's nothing. That's zilch. And feeling the weight of what I believed about myself. Oh, gosh. It. And I've.
00:36:27:16 - 00:36:36:13
Kristy
I just I felt so sad that I had believed that about myself when I was really young. Now I'm only 45.
00:36:36:14 - 00:36:37:00
But that's.
00:36:37:00 - 00:36:56:22
Kristy
A long time. That's a long time to carry that kind of crap around with you, you know? And my kids came in not long. I've got an eight and a ten year old, and they knew I was working through some things. And as I, as I was doing this and I was sitting at my desk in this room here, they pop their heads in and I could see me crying, and they're like, mom, mom, are you okay?
00:36:56:22 - 00:37:06:03
Kristy
And I was like, I've just found what's carrying, you know, weighing down my backpack that I've been carrying around. And they just hugged me. And then my youngest rang the celebration.
00:37:06:03 - 00:37:07:01
Bell, and.
00:37:07:01 - 00:37:08:20
Chris
00:37:08:22 - 00:37:09:19
It was so.
00:37:09:19 - 00:37:20:10
Kristy
Beautiful. And then my husband came over and he's. Everyone just grabbed me, and like, you're so not worthless. It was. It was such a moment to get there.
00:37:20:11 - 00:37:21:01
00:37:21:03 - 00:37:28:16
Kristy
A crucial moment. And everything changed from that moment.
00:37:28:18 - 00:37:32:02
everything.
00:37:32:04 - 00:37:47:11
Kristy
there was still work to do. Don't get me wrong. Like, once you fight, if you're doing this process or you're thinking about it, once you get your root. Root? Cause I don't think that your work is done because it's then rebuilding your beliefs and your stories and your report. I've just got shivers all right.
00:37:47:12 - 00:37:55:12
At that point, you said that. Oh, I love it.
00:37:55:14 - 00:37:59:03
Kristy
I this lost track, I just yeah, that that was still.
00:37:59:03 - 00:38:00:02
Filly
Work to come.
00:38:00:04 - 00:38:01:22
It's still program. Yeah.
00:38:02:01 - 00:38:04:01
Filly
Can I say two things about that?
00:38:04:03 - 00:38:05:02
Yes, please.
00:38:05:05 - 00:38:12:16
Filly
If I can remember because I'm like, oh yeah. Okay. So some people might be listening and they're like, why the heck do we even need to know what.
00:38:12:16 - 00:38:15:05
They read for this? Yes, that's.
00:38:15:08 - 00:38:19:02
Filly
Sounds like torture. Yeah. What you don't know you can't change.
00:38:19:04 - 00:38:20:10
Kristy
Oh yeah. Definitely.
00:38:20:14 - 00:38:32:02
Filly
Yeah. So if you don't see it with clarity then you just always fluffing around, trying to heal or trying to fix or trying to change something like, basically you're chasing shadows.
00:38:32:08 - 00:38:33:01
Yeah.
00:38:33:03 - 00:38:53:21
Filly
And this deepest root cause too is literally stuck in your unconscious. Your unconscious is your body. So it's literally stuck in every cell of your body. In order to change that, you must be able to see it. and the work that you do to get there is like an act of courage and love and kindness as well.
00:38:53:23 - 00:38:54:12
Yeah.
00:38:54:14 - 00:39:05:17
Filly
For your system, for your unconscious mind, your system to get you to the point where it's safe for you to say that. Like, that's why I feel like that's why there was both heavy heaviness and lightness.
00:39:05:17 - 00:39:06:07
Yeah.
00:39:06:09 - 00:39:07:14
Filly
Heaviness. Because it's like.
00:39:07:14 - 00:39:09:02
Oh my gosh, I've.
00:39:09:02 - 00:39:27:16
Filly
Been carrying this for decades and it has been affecting not just my health and my mind, but every aspect of my life. And but then that lightness is also like, and I trust you so much, Kristi allowed you to now say that because I trust that you can hold it and do something with it.
00:39:27:18 - 00:39:32:22
Yeah.
00:39:32:23 - 00:39:38:00
So good. Do you want to add anything?
00:39:38:02 - 00:40:08:22
Chris
I'm enjoying. Like I'm enjoying. Just, like, listening and, and enjoying the enjoying the journey. I, we we've had a lot of lovely, wonderful chats, one on one together and, and then also in our group container as well. it's been a real privilege and a, and, and a joy to, to watch the depth of your insights and, and change and transformation.
00:40:09:00 - 00:40:13:09
Chris
I love it. So I'm, I'm enjoying watching.
00:40:13:11 - 00:40:14:14
It very,
00:40:14:16 - 00:40:15:17
Chris
Just to just.
00:40:15:17 - 00:40:16:22
Christie. Yeah.
00:40:17:00 - 00:40:18:16
Chris
I love it. Celebrating you.
00:40:18:18 - 00:40:22:12
Yeah. I'd love to. I'd love for you to share.
00:40:22:12 - 00:40:42:11
Filly
Some of what you did in order to reprogramme and deepen root cause beliefs. trauma, because it's all tied up in that as well. yeah. Rewire your whole self the way that your brain works, the way that you're running. Perfectionism, people pleasing patterns. Yeah. Are you happy to talk about that?
00:40:42:16 - 00:40:43:15
Yeah.
00:40:43:17 - 00:41:06:23
Kristy
and the trauma therapy that, that you and I did together, I and and odd about doing that the same way that I, did. Not about joining up to the ending body. I was I was trying to tell myself all these little stories like, no, I don't need it. Oh, maybe I could ask for just doing, like, a short program or the like.
00:41:07:01 - 00:41:08:12
I remember you actually also that in the.
00:41:08:14 - 00:41:09:22
Filly
Initial consult, I'm like.
00:41:09:22 - 00:41:18:13
Man, yeah, we want the real results. We want to get in the trenches and change policing. But this, this.
00:41:18:13 - 00:41:29:03
Kristy
Is what the human and this is not just me. This is what human ego. This is the part of the ego that wants to protect you, right? It will do anything to.
00:41:29:03 - 00:41:30:05
Scramble.
00:41:30:05 - 00:41:59:08
Kristy
At just like, just just go surface mad. Don't don't go deep. Just go. Service. You need to go service. So I realised with the two step therapy that, because I was wanting to avoid it, it was the exact thing that I needed. And I've learned that that's a wonderful gift that I've learned throughout all this process that when I'm avoiding something, it's the exact thing that I need to do.
00:41:59:12 - 00:42:02:09
Kristy
And that's the obstacle is the way. You know.
00:42:02:11 - 00:42:03:08
It took me a while to.
00:42:03:08 - 00:42:08:18
Kristy
Figure out what that meant. The obstacle is the way. The obstacle is like, you know, a mountain of it. What does that mean?
00:42:08:20 - 00:42:11:08
I get it, you know?
00:42:11:10 - 00:42:18:03
Kristy
So I booked in for the trial and.
00:42:18:05 - 00:42:43:00
Kristy
Part of me was also judgemental about, oh, I don't think I've had any real trauma. And I find that that's been a real sticking point for when I told family or friends, trusted family or friends about it, they like, she didn't have a traumatic childhood or you didn't have the, like, okay, this is certainly big and little and that not there's no, I don't know how to say this.
00:42:43:00 - 00:42:54:02
Kristy
There's yeah, there are different types of trauma, but it's it's anything unprocessed that has had a significant effect on you that you haven't resolved. And that's trauma in.
00:42:54:04 - 00:42:55:00
So yeah.
00:42:55:06 - 00:43:30:03
Kristy
And so working through that was oh gosh. That was I mean you saw you saw it in action. It was so empowering. It was that I don't know if I would have got the results honestly, if I hadn't have done that. I really don't I think that that was a gift to myself that, I'm so grateful that I did it because it allowed me to,
00:43:30:05 - 00:43:31:01
Kristy
It allowed the.
00:43:31:01 - 00:43:33:03
Healing.
00:43:33:05 - 00:43:57:03
Kristy
You know, when you, when you write down your, sort of the, your timeline of the, the most significant events, it just allowed my unconscious to take over rather than me saying, well, that was, you know, traumatic for this race. And I think it was, you know, I think that my my body remembers it that way. But when you're actually doing the what would you call it when you're doing the movie scenes.
00:43:57:03 - 00:44:03:17
Filly
Yeah. Like, yeah. Dynamic reimagining. So seeing past events in the end to get them.
00:44:03:20 - 00:44:04:10
Yeah.
00:44:04:12 - 00:44:20:22
Kristy
I was really part of me was really scared that I wasn't going to do it. Well, I'm doing a talking mark for those just listening and not watching, but yeah. you know, I asked you to give me an example and that really helped. But what came out actually.
00:44:21:03 - 00:44:21:16
In.
00:44:21:16 - 00:44:29:05
Kristy
The actual reimagining was so beyond anything I would have ever thought I could do. And it just.
00:44:29:05 - 00:44:30:13
Proved.
00:44:30:15 - 00:44:45:13
Kristy
That. I was just I don't really know how to explain it. It was it was so powerful and it got it out. It actually physically left my body.
00:44:45:15 - 00:44:48:22
Kristy
And I'm still in awe of how that works. You know what I mean?
00:44:49:00 - 00:44:50:07
Yeah. Yeah, but I knew.
00:44:50:07 - 00:44:53:06
Kristy
It would be good. Yeah. Sorry. You've got something to say that I.
00:44:53:07 - 00:45:12:07
Filly
Know what, I was just going to share a little bit about what you were actually doing there as well. Sorry. So in the trauma therapy. Yeah. Going back in time, it's very safe. We're not reliving anything, but you're going back to the end of certain events and essentially you're rescuing the younger you.
00:45:12:09 - 00:45:12:14
Yeah.
00:45:12:20 - 00:45:41:12
Filly
The you're going back as the empowered adult. And you'd done the work to get to that point where it's like, I matter enough that I can rescue the younger me. And using the imagination, which is so not talked about enough. So the unconscious state, because all this trauma and these deep unconscious core beliefs and unprocessed emotion, past events get stuck in the unconscious so we can talk about it all we like.
00:45:41:12 - 00:46:02:11
Filly
But it was only really good about 5% change, because that's just sticking with the 5% of the conscious mind. The unconscious mind makes up 95% of our mind, so we must go there. And that's where utilising the imagination in such a powerful way can literally create a new memory of the past, where your unconscious state is like.
00:46:02:11 - 00:46:04:21
Whoa, that was awesome. Yeah.
00:46:05:03 - 00:46:23:16
Filly
Wow. Okay, cool. Well, I can switch off that stuff. It happened, or I'm making a new meaning around it. Neutralises the memory so that then you have this new empowering one and you're there like you've got your back, which then helps you to carry on in the present, in the future, because you're always there for you.
00:46:23:18 - 00:46:24:11
Yeah.
00:46:24:13 - 00:46:28:18
Filly
You're powerful and safe at all. That's always got your back.
00:46:28:20 - 00:46:30:05
Yeah.
00:46:30:07 - 00:46:50:18
Filly
and you did some phenomenal stuff too, which is you're actually going to be a guest expert in our ending. But I've been at method two because I loved the way that you and you have done a lot of work in like, professional development on this as well, the way that you used your body, to create that change as well, because, again, our body is our unconscious mind.
00:46:50:22 - 00:46:56:09
Filly
And so when the body gets involved, then it helps to shift stuff from the unconscious.
00:46:56:10 - 00:46:57:08
And.
00:46:57:10 - 00:46:59:12
Filly
And you became gowned off basically.
00:46:59:12 - 00:47:00:05
Kristy
I did.
00:47:00:05 - 00:47:08:22
You shall not pass it. It was not nothing okay anymore. I loved it.
00:47:09:00 - 00:47:17:18
Kristy
But I really yeah, it was such an amazing experience. And,
00:47:17:19 - 00:47:33:14
Kristy
I really, because of that, felt safety, because I really felt safe with you. But also in my own body. I had, you know, you you suggest that people do that after they find their route, because I'm pretty sure that's that way.
00:47:33:19 - 00:47:35:02
Filly
Yes. And yeah, I.
00:47:35:02 - 00:47:48:06
Kristy
Definitely because you have to feel that connection with yourself and back yourself. And I just like I, I didn't consciously move my body. I just let it.
00:47:48:12 - 00:47:49:03
Move.
00:47:49:03 - 00:48:14:09
Kristy
Itself. I, you know, I really tapped into that intuitive state there. And that was really powerful. And I remember using a similar, a similar way of reimagining a different ending with my, youngest child not long after that, when he was scared about something that he'd seen on telly and he was in bed and he was saying, I don't want to go to sleep because I'm really scared.
00:48:14:09 - 00:48:25:17
Kristy
So, well, okay, well, let's, let's make up a different ending. And we had a play and we used his imagination. He slept like a log, like it worked so well. Yeah. It was so good.
00:48:25:19 - 00:48:27:00
Yeah. It's just so.
00:48:27:00 - 00:48:28:06
Kristy
Grateful for that.
00:48:28:08 - 00:48:47:16
Filly
So I used that with our youngest to actually I haven't had to for a long time. She was having issues at school and you know, making unresolvable meanings around it. And it's like, okay, little Elsie, we're going to go on Big Elsie. Elsie. Now we're going to go back and you're going to change the ending of what happened at school today.
00:48:47:16 - 00:48:48:02
Filly
It's going to be.
00:48:48:02 - 00:48:53:01
So good in. And I think I really.
00:48:53:03 - 00:49:34:17
Kristy
Know it's a really good way of remembering that when you when you learn all the steps to get to the root, root cause and then the steps afterwards to, you know, retrain and rewire the brain and your behaviour and everything, just having that process, and the evidence and the data that is so important to come back to you when you get triggered because, you know, at this coming up to the root, root and just after having found it, my perfectionist patterns were still in the background going.
00:49:34:19 - 00:49:55:20
Kristy
You've got your triggered by something that means you haven't done it right, Kristy. Like I'm like, okay, no it doesn't. It's actually just a reminder that, okay, I just need to go back and make sure I'm using a resourceful thought or, or a supporting belief rather than a limiting belief or a dysfunction or. It's just there's a lot.
00:49:55:22 - 00:50:25:08
Kristy
Life is not perfect. You're not going to even after having done all this work, you're not going to go through life now and have no arguments, no stress, no, you know, things, things that don't trigger you. But you have so much more awareness of how you can move through that. And that's a really important thing, I think, for people starting this process, thinking about it or even working through it now is especially if you've got perfectionist patterns running through.
00:50:25:10 - 00:50:27:07
Filly
Which 99% of your clients do.
00:50:27:12 - 00:50:30:23
Yeah, I reckon. Yeah, yeah, pretty strong.
00:50:31:01 - 00:50:40:10
Kristy
But it doesn't mean that you've failed or that you haven't done it right. It's just it's new levels of growth like you've said before, I'd probably jump it again.
00:50:40:12 - 00:50:46:14
Filly
That's okay. You take us to the moment where you realise.
00:50:46:14 - 00:50:47:13
That.
00:50:47:15 - 00:50:50:15
Filly
The process program was working for you.
00:50:50:17 - 00:51:08:21
Kristy
My very first moment, and if I could share three quick ones, my first moment was, okay, my, my kids, we were doing, I think our weekly family blitz, and there was stuff everywhere in the house and it's like, you know, clothes, hair and piles of stuff here.
00:51:08:21 - 00:51:10:14
And and no.
00:51:10:14 - 00:51:12:16
Kristy
Normally that really triggers me. I'm like, oh.
00:51:12:16 - 00:51:16:02
My God, I have to do the housework.
00:51:16:04 - 00:51:22:14
Kristy
and I was like, okay, well, there's so many things on your floor, guys. You know, my kids room.
00:51:22:16 - 00:51:24:07
What are we going to do?
00:51:24:09 - 00:51:44:01
Kristy
okay, why don't you do this? And you do that? And then they started doing some stuff, and I came back, and then there was still most of the things I kind of faffing about, playing with, things I might guys have asked you to do this? we've got to get it done. So, you know, let you know, let's do it all together so that nobody has to do it themselves.
00:51:44:03 - 00:51:52:02
And my youngest looks having his mum. Why are you getting angry? Like, why? What are you. I'm trying to.
00:51:52:02 - 00:51:52:14
Chris
Trigger you.
00:51:52:14 - 00:51:58:19
Mum. He said, why are you so calm? And I was like, oh, I am hot. I and I just started.
00:51:58:19 - 00:52:21:23
Kristy
Laughing and I said, I reckon that's my new way that I'm starting, you know, my new practising about how, how I'm learning new skills and learning how to not be such a drag mum. And then they started laughing and then we just all cleaned up together. So that was the real first one. Yeah. Not long after that, my husband and I were doing something and I was helping him out with something.
00:52:21:23 - 00:52:33:09
Kristy
And, he won't mind me saying this when he. When he's doing a job and house. Right. He gets quite frustrated. And he, he it's like he's in the moment thing. You know, I think we were putting in a window or something and it.
00:52:33:11 - 00:52:34:03
It.
00:52:34:05 - 00:52:45:02
Kristy
Dropped or I didn't do it the right way. And he, he he lashed out at me and I lash back at him, like, stood up for myself. And normally I would have just gone.
00:52:45:03 - 00:52:48:04
Oh, it's yelling at me. And I didn't. I didn't do.
00:52:48:04 - 00:52:53:21
Kristy
The right thing. And I've, really messed that up, you know, I would put the blame on me. Not I just lashed.
00:52:53:21 - 00:52:54:23
Back at him.
00:52:55:01 - 00:52:58:08
Kristy
Not that that's helpful, but, you know, we both got it out.
00:52:58:10 - 00:52:58:16
Yeah.
00:52:58:16 - 00:53:10:17
Kristy
And then we finished the job, and then I walked off, and I wasn't. I didn't stay with me. Normally. I would be mulling it over. Oh, I should have been more supportive or I should have done this or should I coulda, woulda.
00:53:10:18 - 00:53:11:00
One.
00:53:11:00 - 00:53:19:03
Kristy
Of those mindset. It did not stick with me at all. And that's when I when I thought that I saw.
00:53:19:05 - 00:53:19:23
The.
00:53:19:23 - 00:53:33:05
Kristy
You know, when you learning about TTP and Judith does the graph of where a normal stress response is here and then it goes back down again, whereas if you've got triggers it constantly stays up here.
00:53:33:07 - 00:53:35:03
Filly
But flat. Yeah, fight or flight.
00:53:35:03 - 00:53:47:20
Kristy
And you never lower back into just, you know, your nervous system never really recovers. I was like, oh my gosh, I just had a stress response and I was able to come back to calm.
00:53:47:22 - 00:53:55:03
And it just even that was amazing. It was so good. Yeah. It's this is working. Yeah.
00:53:55:05 - 00:54:19:17
Kristy
and then more recently I was able to have some confronting conversation from a place of love and support but backing myself with some family members. So that was really important as well. Very good actually taking courage to have that rather than going, oh no, I'm never going to speak up about this and I'll just deal with it and, you know, make myself sick over it.
00:54:19:19 - 00:54:23:20
So yeah, it's so cool. Yes.
00:54:24:02 - 00:54:37:06
Filly
Anything like in terms of what life looks like now and also what do you burn out physical body. What what other changes have you, have you seen or have you manifested? Have you created?
00:54:37:08 - 00:54:46:11
Kristy
in terms of the business, I'm still I'm still working through that because that's a real as you know, I a lot.
00:54:46:11 - 00:54:49:03
Of,
00:54:49:05 - 00:55:13:04
Kristy
You'd, you'd understand this to a lot of entrepreneurs, because they're doing something that's a little bit different or a little bit, you know, sometimes you can be solo or, you know, starting up something that's you might not have much experience in or it's a new, new thing. I'm still working through what that looks like for me and how I want to move on.
00:55:13:04 - 00:55:36:18
Kristy
You know, when I first started the business and doing it online, I was following kind of a program, which was really helpful, but it was somebody else's program. And so now I've come back and it's almost like I've done a full circle and looking at, okay, well, what does that actually look like for me to have my own business and where do I want to go with it, and how is it going to work for me that's going to suit my family?
00:55:36:18 - 00:56:11:03
Kristy
And, really play into my values. You know, my values are family, health and wellbeing, financial wealth, like a wealth abundance rather than, not just having money, but having that wealthy, abundant mindset. And then, you know, being creative through music and art, because that's the basis of my business. It's, you know, music and movement to support connections and wellbeing and, and learning.
00:56:11:05 - 00:56:42:06
Kristy
So the if I was to sort of compartmentalise the different sections of my life, family. Awesome. I've got some great connections and really great authentic relationships happening, with my with my body, I feel so much more in tune. I'm listening to my signals. If I get a little pain or a little bit of a tension headache, you know, I'm really quick to go, oh, okay, we need to have a conversation or we need to spend some time together.
00:56:42:06 - 00:56:53:20
Kristy
Kristy, you and I just having a chat work through with the business. This is an an evolution and I'm excited about that evolution because now I can apply those areas where I have flow.
00:56:53:21 - 00:56:55:01
In my family.
00:56:55:01 - 00:57:17:16
Kristy
And, and physical health and mental wellbeing. Now I can put that and my energy into growing my business in my way. That's that's really authentic for me. So there's some there's some real shifts in the energy around that. And that has opened up some shifts in, potential collaborations that are coming.
00:57:17:16 - 00:57:18:14
Forth.
00:57:18:16 - 00:57:20:02
Chris
Like so I.
00:57:20:04 - 00:57:34:10
Kristy
I want to talk too much about that because where I need to start is but yeah, it's really like I've, I've just I've created some space for, for great energy to come in great clients to find me great partnerships.
00:57:34:15 - 00:57:36:01
Yeah.
00:57:36:03 - 00:57:39:02
Filly
Which is, which is, which is what.
00:57:39:04 - 00:57:39:11
The.
00:57:39:11 - 00:57:42:11
Filly
And the angle. There's never an end goal, which is what.
00:57:42:14 - 00:57:43:05
Kristy
I know it.
00:57:43:07 - 00:57:52:07
Filly
Means though. Like it's not just like, okay, I just want some energy and I want my body to work well and I want to be calm in my mind. It's like, yeah, but then what can we do with that?
00:57:52:12 - 00:58:18:01
Chris
The consequence of having that energy, consequence of having that elevated vibe that, yes, that conscious top of the like, that way of thinking that's just so different. It's next level and and so the consequence of that is, you're going to be exposed to new people, new situations, different ways of thinking, different practices, different ways of connecting with people that you love.
00:58:18:03 - 00:58:19:13
Chris
00:58:19:15 - 00:58:20:17
Filly
Well, it's the ripple effect.
00:58:20:18 - 00:58:21:08
Chris
It's a ripple.
00:58:21:08 - 00:58:33:05
Filly
Effect, like the like the ripple effect in your ability to make a huge impact in your family, but also in your business and all the people that you come in contact with through that and through communities, just like it's the.
00:58:33:05 - 00:58:37:21
Nominal it is. It's really them. Yeah, yeah.
00:58:38:00 - 00:59:00:20
Kristy
And when I started this process, actually, it was more about, it was more about addressing burnout on a physical level and the mental level, obviously. But I didn't realise how much that was affecting the way I was running the business. And now I really get what all that mindset is about. You know.
00:59:00:22 - 00:59:01:20
Particularly.
00:59:01:22 - 00:59:02:13
Filly
Oh yeah, sorry.
00:59:02:13 - 00:59:05:23
Kristy
Keep going. No, I was just gonna say particularly because I'm solo at the moment.
00:59:06:02 - 00:59:10:11
Yeah. At the moment and I even. Yeah.
00:59:10:13 - 00:59:21:16
Filly
can you also, I know I mentioned the allergies before, but I think, I think that people would be really interested in hearing that because you didn't do anything physical. So you were initially doing desensitisation.
00:59:21:18 - 00:59:24:14
And then you I think I did, yeah, I think I did.
00:59:24:14 - 00:59:43:14
Kristy
Three sessions with Desensitisation. And when I'd done my original testing, like I'd said to, you know, I'd mentioned before that I was having I was daily preventer. I was having like 2 to 4 antihistamines each day.
00:59:43:16 - 00:59:47:00
and when.
00:59:47:01 - 01:00:22:03
Kristy
When we started doing the trauma therapy, I think it was. And I asked you about that, I can't quite remember the timeline. But anyway, we talked about that was something that was sticking with me. I was like, okay, well, why can't I why can't I turn that off? You know, if I was able to take chronic pain of what kind of turn my histamine, you know, my my allergic reactions, and you've worked with me through a parts process, and it it was so much underneath all of that, you know, the you know what that actually represented?
01:00:22:03 - 01:00:44:13
Kristy
I was feeling very suffocated, literally, by what was happening around me in my work, in in the family, in the home, in my self, the way I was treating myself. Everything was feeling pressured and suffocated and I just couldn't breathe easy anymore, you know? And all of that was coming out as this physical symptoms of having asthma and allergy.
01:00:44:15 - 01:01:07:04
Kristy
And I said to you that I wanted to, you know, a goal if you like, was to stop that process. It is stop that. the Desensitisation. And I did and I did it. I worked through it as a process. It wasn't just a split decision made from, you know.
01:01:07:06 - 01:01:09:04
I just put there was a little bit.
01:01:09:04 - 01:01:15:07
Filly
Of a blind spot there where you were still outsourcing to the authority rather than trusting your own wisdom.
01:01:15:10 - 01:01:15:16
Yeah.
01:01:15:21 - 01:01:39:05
Kristy
Trust. Definitely. Definitely. Thank you for clarifying that for the listeners, because that's really important. And I couldn't be happier with my decision because as soon as I decided that and I backed myself with it, I didn't need the preventer. My husband was doing the renovating in their house, which included, you know, knocking down walls. That was plaster dust.
01:01:39:05 - 01:02:06:18
Kristy
I just asked him to be, you know, just to vacuum it up. But still, there was heaps of stuff everywhere. No reaction. I chose not to have an allergic reaction, and I chose not to have, you know, an ant, you know, a histamine reaction to it. It was amazing. That was another reason, another evidence showing that all of the processes that I'd worked through and the rewiring that I'd been practising worked.
01:02:06:19 - 01:02:07:12
Yeah.
01:02:07:14 - 01:02:09:20
Chris
So that's legendary.
01:02:09:22 - 01:02:13:16
So legendary. Isn't that it? It's awesome.
01:02:13:18 - 01:02:15:12
Kristy
I when I hear myself, I think.
01:02:15:14 - 01:02:22:14
This this actually is true. I kind of pinch myself. But I did actually create this. But it's so possible.
01:02:22:16 - 01:02:33:04
Filly
So powerful. Like if you are so powerful and also I, I hope that whoever's listening to you, even if they're feeling like, oh wow.
01:02:33:06 - 01:02:34:07
Kristy
How else?
01:02:34:09 - 01:02:35:15
01:02:35:17 - 01:02:49:21
Filly
It's so cool that it happens. So not for me, but like, honestly, I like the process into it with some courage. Yeah, kindness. Trust in maybe not yourself yet, but, like, it calms everyone. It's so.
01:02:49:21 - 01:02:51:23
Powerful. Yeah.
01:02:52:01 - 01:03:31:22
Kristy
And you know, I often think because I've been classically trained since the age of five, right on the piano. And there's a lot that I, used to, I didn't like about that. It was very structured. It made me feel like I couldn't sort of, you know, there was a force there in some ways, I'm so grateful that I had that, that I sort of grew up with this idea that even though you might not see progress right there and then if you stick with the practice or the, you know, the, the repetition of it, eventually the change will happen.
01:03:32:00 - 01:03:46:19
Kristy
and I keep applying that to everything I do now. And even though, like, this is going a little bit off topic, but even though, you know, when Jamie Fraser, for example, talks about the difference between self discipline and self permission.
01:03:46:20 - 01:03:47:08
finally.
01:03:47:08 - 01:04:13:03
Kristy
Understand what he means now, I think there's certainly a place for that sort of discipline when you're younger, but I just think what you just said about you might not feel like you're your future self now, but stick with it. Like, really follow the process. Let that be your guide and trust in the process that eventually you'll just one day go, oh, I'm not getting triggered by that.
01:04:13:05 - 01:04:21:11
Kristy
Or you know, that does feel good for me to, you know, just say out loud what normally I would ruminate over for weeks, you know.
01:04:21:14 - 01:04:24:14
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:04:24:16 - 01:04:39:20
Kristy
And also another thing that I wanted to make sure I sort of got across to people is that. For me personally, I'm a great starter of things. I am awesome at creating ideas and starting and.
01:04:39:22 - 01:04:40:01
You.
01:04:40:01 - 01:04:41:14
Kristy
Know, getting into it and then.
01:04:41:14 - 01:04:43:03
I and I.
01:04:43:05 - 01:04:57:05
Kristy
I'm not I've always had an issue with sustaining the energy or sustaining the belief in myself. And now I understand why. It's because I just didn't have 100% backing with myself.
01:04:57:07 - 01:05:00:06
Filly
And anyway, back to the root cause belief. Yeah. Reckless.
01:05:00:08 - 01:05:01:17
Yes.
01:05:01:19 - 01:05:22:20
Kristy
Well, that makes sense. What? Why would I want to sustain anything? You know, great ideas that I've had that have started and then have fizzled out and then, you know, I, I begrudge myself when I stop blaming myself. Oh, you just weren't good enough for you went this. But once, once I got to that root, root. Cause I understood why I'm why it was such a challenge for me to sustain.
01:05:22:20 - 01:05:56:12
Kristy
And now I understand that, yes, it takes courage to start and belief and a little bit of blind faith, maybe, as in, you don't feel it hadn't have connected at the start, but you know it's going to happen. So I think for me, my big takeaway is it takes true rapport with with yourself that unmasked and unmanaged attitude to sustain that, like to keep it going and the ability to to realise and be aware.
01:05:56:12 - 01:05:58:04
Of when.
01:05:58:04 - 01:06:01:04
Kristy
There might be new growth or when there's a new trigger or an old trigger.
01:06:01:06 - 01:06:02:14
And.
01:06:02:16 - 01:06:18:17
Kristy
Okay, well, you can stick with that and just go back, or you can sit with it and go, oh, that's when I can use the limiting beliefs and work. Or I can go back and do a meditation that's going to help me with this and just keep moving forward.
01:06:18:18 - 01:06:20:03
Filly
Very cool.
01:06:20:05 - 01:06:24:01
I could one last question. Yes.
01:06:24:03 - 01:06:30:01
Filly
What do you feel like? What do you feel is different to the ending body Burnout method program?
01:06:30:01 - 01:06:30:16
Oh.
01:06:30:17 - 01:06:56:19
Kristy
I love that you asked this question because recently we had a musician that we hosted at our house. He stayed with us for almost a week, and then we he did a little concert on our deck, and it was lovely because he's, he's very talented musician, but he's I think it's 27, but he's also very old soul and he's he's been through a bit of stuff himself and different like he's done some NLP work is done, some spiritual work is done.
01:06:56:19 - 01:07:25:05
Kristy
This and my husband and myself and he were talking one night about growth and, you know, different stages of your life. And I'd said that I'd, you know, had that transformation when I was 30 and then again when I was 41. And, and then my husband said to me, what you've tried a lot of different things. you know, do you think there's sort of one thing that addresses all the different needs?
01:07:25:05 - 01:07:26:22
Kristy
And I actually said, you guys.
01:07:27:00 - 01:07:28:15
You ain't nobody burnout.
01:07:28:17 - 01:08:00:05
Kristy
Because you tap into all the different things. You've got the metaphysical stuff covered, you've got the physical, the lab testing the evidence and the data. And I think that's been really lacking in, you know, Western medicine and even in some eastern alternative medicine, there's nothing so holistic as, as getting all of those boxes ticked. Not that they're boxes to be ticked, but I'm just so grateful because there's something in it for everybody.
01:08:00:05 - 01:08:20:15
Kristy
No matter what personality you have, if you've done work before and you're a little bit more inclined to to understand spiritual or if you need that and want that, if you want to have the evidence from your lab testing, you know, if that's going to spur you on forward to then have courage to do the metaphysical stuff.
01:08:20:15 - 01:08:27:05
Kristy
You know, I just. I can't say enough about it.
01:08:27:07 - 01:08:30:00
Well, thank you so much.
01:08:30:02 - 01:08:31:20
Kristy
But you're so welcome. It's.
01:08:31:22 - 01:08:33:23
Thank you, thank you.
01:08:34:01 - 01:08:47:03
Kristy
It's like, I know I've done a lot of the work, but it's, you know, with your support and your the knowledge and the skill sets because you're very different people. But what you bring together is just amazing.
01:08:47:05 - 01:08:48:20
yeah.
01:08:48:22 - 01:09:07:16
Filly
so good. We have, and we, I, I know Chris to just love any time we see we talk to you, share your wins, even your struggles. You've always been so open and amazing and such a value to in our group group coaching sessions as well.
01:09:07:22 - 01:09:11:22
Kristy
Yeah, that's awesome to that community. I love being part of that.
01:09:11:22 - 01:09:19:20
Filly
Yeah. And realising that everyone's kind of got like different things going on, but it's all similar stuff underneath the surface.
01:09:19:22 - 01:09:20:05
Yeah.
01:09:20:09 - 01:09:24:22
Filly
Oh, it's all there. No one, no one's abnormal.
01:09:25:00 - 01:09:31:08
No. Yeah. No. Your body is broken. No, I'm not breaking up. Okay.
01:09:31:10 - 01:09:34:21
Filly
Again you have created this, which means you can recreate something new.
01:09:34:21 - 01:09:35:17
This isn't.
01:09:35:17 - 01:09:41:14
Kristy
That was. Isn't that the path you've you've created that. But you could also write your own story at any time of your.
01:09:41:14 - 01:09:43:21
Life, you know? Yeah.
01:09:43:23 - 01:09:58:00
Filly
So I'm so excited because this episode is dropping next week. So I know so many people are going to just find so much value and inspiration and hope from this. And for any clients listening, we,
01:09:58:02 - 01:09:59:19
We've got Christie coming into.
01:09:59:19 - 01:10:35:13
Filly
Our one of our group coaching sessions soon, very soon in the ending body burnout method, doing somatic practices to really do what you have done, the results that you've created to really get some unconscious change. So I'm so excited for that to happen. And also, you have an online workshop coming up to your business. I would love you to share that, especially if there's any teachers, parents, or anyone that knows anyone who needs this because you are the best person who can help get it.
01:10:35:13 - 01:10:37:10
Filly
Transformation.
01:10:37:12 - 01:11:00:17
Kristy
Thank you. Yeah, I have, I've created this. It's called Routines to rituals, and it's using musical learning and mindfulness practices. not as an extra program in your early learning centre or at home if you're, if you're a homeschool parent. but it's really showing you the value of, it's own neuroscience backed as well, evidence base.
01:11:00:19 - 01:11:24:04
Kristy
So it's really showing you how to bring in elements of music and mindfulness practices on the daily routines that you're already doing. So you don't have to do anything really extra like a music program. It's it's for you if you're a non musician or if you've got limited knowledge about music or mindfulness. It's really that habit stacking, which we know from research, is the best way that we can.
01:11:24:06 - 01:11:26:05
Learn new skills.
01:11:26:07 - 01:11:43:07
Kristy
And keep those skills going. You know, if we forward, you know, for example, you know, nappy changing or toileting young children, that can sometimes be quite stressful because they might be crying, they might not want you to put their shoes on. So if you even do something like sing what you're doing.
01:11:43:12 - 01:11:46:23
With a time to put your shoes on, time to put your.
01:11:46:23 - 01:11:48:10
Kristy
Shoes on, you're not.
01:11:48:10 - 01:11:49:17
Only.
01:11:49:19 - 01:11:59:15
Kristy
helping your regulation in your nervous system, you're creating a fun environment and playful, and you're singing to them, which means that their brain is going to be switching on.
01:11:59:17 - 01:12:00:05
All.
01:12:00:05 - 01:12:14:17
Kristy
Over. It's like a whole brain response. And you're, you know, you creating these lovely transitions that are calm and connected rather than getting frustrated, like, come on, we got to change your nappy or put your shoes on, you know, you can instantly hear in my voice that there's a bit of.
01:12:14:17 - 01:12:19:19
A what you want to do if I don't listen to you. But if you're playful, if you.
01:12:19:20 - 01:12:37:06
Kristy
Sing musical elements the same as, you know, going for a rest or sleep time. Some of our older children don't want to sleep, but they need have a little rest. So put on a lovely guided meditation or some music. That's it. Kind of a 60 beats per minute to replicate their heartbeat. And it's yeah, it's a 90 minute workshop.
01:12:37:06 - 01:12:54:22
Kristy
It's for you if you're, you know, as I said, working in early childhood, studying in early childhood, you might be a home school parent. and you can find out more at my websites. Movers and shakers, musical, but I'm sure you'll put the links in anyway.
01:12:55:00 - 01:12:59:08
Filly
In the show notes, there's a way for husbands to time time to wash the.
01:12:59:08 - 01:13:04:03
Dishes that go into any time you sing an instruction.
01:13:04:07 - 01:13:05:11
Kristy
The other person will go.
01:13:05:11 - 01:13:06:15
Oh, what's pizza.
01:13:06:16 - 01:13:24:17
Kristy
Is? I'm paying attention to it without even realising your brain's going to pay attention to it. So yeah, it's on in the, I think I've got one coming up on the 2nd of May, a Thursday. And, you know, if you sign up for it and you can't turn up live, which is where the magic happens. But if you can't turn up live, then, you know, you get the recording.
01:13:24:17 - 01:13:30:07
Kristy
So yeah, jump on my website and and then check it out there in there.
01:13:30:09 - 01:13:38:01
Filly
Also, I'm so excited to see you flourishing in all areas, even more so than what you already are.
01:13:38:02 - 01:13:41:23
Kristy
Yeah, yeah. Exciting isn't it?
01:13:42:01 - 01:13:42:11
Oh.
01:13:42:13 - 01:14:03:11
Chris
Thank thanks so much, Christie. I haven't really said too much on this podcast. I was just sitting back and enjoying enjoying the ride. So, listeners probably enjoyed that. so thank you so much for coming on to the show. And, we look forward to, to catching up with you again very, very soon.
01:14:03:13 - 01:14:04:08
Kristy
Thanks, Chris.
01:14:04:08 - 01:14:10:17
Thanks, Filly. Cheers, guys.
01:14:10:19 - 01:14:20:21
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
01:14:20:23 - 01:14:47:01
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about that group one on one ending body burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
01:14:47:03 - 01:14:47:12
Chris
For.
