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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Body Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body, get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Chris
This episode of the Ending Body Burnout Show. Today's episode is about self-sabotage.
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Filly
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Chris
But before we get into it, this is a really special week for us.
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Filly
Yeah, so we are in launch week of our ending body burn out method program. So that's our six month signature program. It's the best way that you can work with us to end your body burnout. It includes a one on one support. Plus a grief experience. And it's awesome. We only open doors three times a year. And the reason why we want to talk about self-sabotage during launch week is there might be some people listening to this episode that are thinking about joining us.
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Filly
And even if you're not, it's totally fine. This topic is relevant to every human on the planet until you really understand what's happening underneath the surface. But yeah, if you are someone who has taken action in the past, maybe you've tried something, but you haven't followed through. Maybe you've even used the word oh, I just keep self-sabotaging myself.
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Filly
Why should I throw my money or my time at something else? And I'm just not going to do it. Maybe you actually are an action taker, but you might actually be self-sabotaging your results in a different way. So in this episode today, we'd really love to talk about what actually is happening when you use the term or with self-sabotage, because it actually isn't real.
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Filly
And yeah, what's happening underneath the surface to give you more confidence to move forward, to create the results that you want. And if you like this episode and you want to go a bit deeper, we do have some free awesome events during our launch week as well. So if you'd like to get more coaching and more experience around ending your body burn out, we have a free at Rewire your Brain to heal body burn out.
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Filly
Happening as of today is the first session. If you missed the live session, it is okay. You can still register and access the replay. And then next week on Monday, we have a brand new workshop that Chris has been working on behind the scenes called It's a New Life for Me. This is going to be a really potent coaching session that essentially is going to you.
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Filly
You will leave feeling like you have ignited your healing spark, and you're ready to move forward with whatever that looks like for you and will help you to gain some really good clarity around the next steps and tap into the higher part of you that wants the best for you. So these events essentially will help break through self-sabotage as well, and also really give you a teaser, a tester for what it's like to work with Chris and I in our ending body burn out method program.
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Chris
Yeah. All right, check those links below and, get into it, guys. We might see you miss out.
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Filly
Okay, so let's talk about self sabotage. So if you are someone who identifies with this, maybe you've heard yourself say I'm such a self-sabotage. I always sabotage my best of intentions. We'd like to challenge that today. So here's the thing. I actually don't believe in self-sabotage. I don't think it's real. I dislike the term, the label. What I do believe to be true is there is something happening unconsciously underneath the surface that is causing you to hold yourself back, which I will talk about in a moment.
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Filly
But yeah, just like, frankly, I don't love the term self-sabotage. The reason being is I find that it, there's a lot of shame attached to it. So things that I hear from people in the health space. Oh, I can't seem to get a grip. I have no willpower. Why can't I do the things I set out to do?
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Filly
I keep self-sabotaging all the time. What's wrong with me? And when the ten self-sabotage, it sounds like like in the connotations that people put onto it, is that there is a part of me that is fighting against me. It's not letting me do the things that I need to do, and so it can actually drop you into a victim mentality, essentially.
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Filly
And there's often a lot of confusion around it as well. It's like, I don't understand why I'm self-sabotaging, which, again, can keep you stuck in victimhood.
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Chris
It really is a victim language, isn't it? So three parts of a state is, the things that you're focusing on, the language that you use and what your body is doing. And so if we think about the language that you use at any one particular time, you're in a state of being. And so when you're using language like self-sabotage, as a label describing yourself.
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Chris
So the state is a state of of of I can't do anything. I have no ability. I am working against myself. I am bungling my way through this. I am just, not walking straight through life in the direction that I want to do. And it's all my fault. So this sort of thing, a victim has no agency.
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Chris
A victim has no choice. A victim state of being has no ability to change the outcome of their of their destiny. The trajectory.
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Filly
So if you take only one thing away today, if you are someone that uses the label self-sabotage, we're can offer you a different way of saying it. And I'd start talking to yourself in a different way if that is the only thing you take away. Because as Chris said, when you start using different language to describe yourself in your experience, you all of a sudden step into a state of empowerment.
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Filly
So I sometimes when I'm pondering and preparing notes for an episode, I might do a little Google image search. I like looking for names. Sometimes I talk about them, often I don't, but I was just curious. I'm like self-sabotage in the health space. What is some common imagery that shows up around this? And it again, just amplified what we're talking about, and that self-sabotage is often connected to shame or aggression or you know, that there's a bully inside of you, making you taking you away from doing the things that you want to do.
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Filly
So I'll describe one of these images. There's a lady strangulated a shadow of herself. So she's literally strangling herself. The shadow and the blurb says, me confronting the person who's been sabotaging me all my life. So it's almost like I have to destroy this person because this person is bad. There's another one where the name says therapist.
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Filly
Therapist says, can you think of anyone who is neg who is a negative influence in your life, who is causing you to feel this way? And me says.
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Filly
Well, of course I know him. He is me.
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Chris
It's a picture of you don't know who that is. Do you think that's an old man in a desert?
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Filly
I thought it was you.
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Chris
It's,
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Filly
There is a picture.
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Chris
Of Obi-Wan Kenobi tattooing.
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Filly
The reason why I put this one up, though, is that there's still this. This is subtle negativity around the part of you that is preventing you from moving towards the goals that you want to achieve. It's like, who's the negative influence in your life? Well, it's me, of course. Now I don't know the backstory of over and Over.
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Filly
I Obi Obi, I don't know if that adds anything interesting to the name or self-sabotage. Or not.
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Chris
He's a he's a wise man.
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Filly
Right. Well, I don't think he's very wise in this name because we're going to give you some wisdom today.
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Chris
It's me.
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Filly
Okay.
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Chris
Oh, man, I really I want to share these things.
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Filly
Are you trying to get to me? Yeah, I'm.
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Chris
Trying to bring them up.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
Okay. You can get going.
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Filly
All right. Sorry. He. So if sorry. If silly is saying self-sabotage isn't real, then what the heck is it? So here's what's actually happening when you're self-sabotaging. Self-sabotage is is actually self-protection. And the interesting and beautiful thing is that self-protection always has a positive intention, even if it shows up on resourcefully. Even if one of your intentions might be, you know, if we bring you into the health state, it's it's like my practitioner told me that I've got candida.
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Filly
And so I'm going to do this anti candida diet because that's going to help clear the can Dieter. And I'm going to feel so great after it. And like yep. And I've found all the recipes and like yep good to go. Three days into it you're eating chocolate chip cookies and hot cross buns. And you're like why? So even if this self-protection pattern or strategy, which you might be calling self-sabotage, is showing up on resourcefully, it doesn't even make sense.
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Filly
It's taking you away from what you want. It's causing more pain. It is actually it actually has a positive intention. And generally speaking, those positive intentions is all about protection. So the self-sabotage pattern is trying to protect you from things like rejection, from failure, from being sane, from being a disappointment, even trying to protect you from succeeding.
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Filly
And the beautiful thing about self protection is it is an act of self-love. So next time you go to say, oh, I keep sabotaging myself or he comes to self-sabotage again, can you try replacing it with, oh, I'm actually trying to love myself right now. This pot is actually very wonderful and loving. It loves me so much. It loves me so much that it is trying to protect me and figure out these patterns of very strong.
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Filly
So this part of me must really, really, really love me. Can you see how that shifts things? Like it goes from being this self-sabotage shadowy monster that you have to swat and kill and fight off and willpower your way through something that needs to be throttled to something that is actually very loving, protective. It's actually just trying to give you a big hug.
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Chris
I like to use the, is it an analogy or is this a metaphor of a child coming up to you and just, you know, giving your giving your slave a little pull, and saying, mum or dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad, dad. And then you turn around and say, shut up, you little noisy.
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Chris
I don't know what's something really negative. Idiot! Go away! Can't you see I am doing something way more important than whatever it is that you have to tell me. And then you go. I just wanted to tell you that the whole house is on fire, and it's burning down, you know? But.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
This is, you know, when we have these parts of us that that are communicating something and we label it, say, sabotage or a saboteur, it's that is a loving, kind message, unconsciously. Almost like a little kid pulling at our sleeve saying, dad, dad, dad.
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Filly
And essentially that little kid pulling the sleeve is saying, dad, dad, dad, it's not safe. I don't feel safe. Quick. The house is burning down. Do something. And so subconsciously, there's a part of you, the little kid not feeling safe, pulling your conscious mind. So the part of you that wants to achieve a goal, it wants to do the thing is pulling you away from achieving the goal because it doesn't feel safe to move forward into change.
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
That's what's happening. So then the next question would be what what what feels unsafe? Where's the danger? What's going on? Because it can feel like there is a part of you actively working against your goals and like, yes, there is that simply because it doesn't feel safe. It's not because it wants to hurt you and harm you, and it hates upon you.
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Filly
It's because the safe to Succeed button hasn't lit up or ready to be pressed yet. And one of these a really common reason is because there's no agreement between the conscious and unconscious mind, yet they both are not on the same page. So conscious mind wants something. But if your unconscious mind, which makes up 95% of your mind, is operating at a different operating system or through a different lens, it's saying different things to what the conscious mind is trying to see.
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Filly
Then it's always going to to pull you back. So it's the unconscious mind is seeing more danger and more risk to move forward to achieve the goal. It will protect you through what most people label self-sabotage. And so when I talk about the lens or I mentioned, the unconscious mind is operating on a different lens, it's always going to come back to deep unconscious core beliefs that you have about yourself.
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Filly
Not enoughness. So I'll give you some, like if we think about shameful.
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Chris
Shameful thinking about.
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Filly
Shameful.
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Chris
Things. Not good enough.
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Filly
Yeah. So conscious mind might be like, I want to eat healthier. I want to move my body. I want to take my supplements. I want to do, journaling. I want to do the inner work. I want to meditate. I want to exercise it. It might even be outside of health stuff as well. I want to house clean.
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Filly
I had a really cool coaching session with someone on that the other day. Started off talking about her autoimmune condition, and we ended up talking about why she struggled decluttering. And it's all connected. But it will always. So if there's a deep, unconscious belief that I'm not enough, I'm not capable. I'm not worthy. I'm not deserving.
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Filly
I'm not able to. I'm broken. I'm flawed somehow. Then, of course, the unconscious mind is never going to feel safe to move forward to achieve the thing that you want to achieve. Because unconsciously 95% of you is saying, not safe. We can't do that. We're going to fail. We're going to stuff up, we're going to make a fool of ourselves, or actually, we're not even worthy of it.
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Filly
Or what if we succeed? Then more people are going to expect more. More of me. And I'm already burnt out.
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Chris
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Filly
Anything to add?
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Chris
No. Another, another analogy or metaphor is an analogy. I think it's,
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
Anyway, where there's, there's no bad parts of you. So on, on your bus, there is many parts of you and there is a part of you that sometimes tries to grab the wheel and steer you in any direction that it chooses, and you like flying with this part of it and this part of you. You just want them to shut up and get off the bus.
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Chris
But there's no bad parts on the bus. And whatever part you think is trying to derail you is trying to send you off the road, is actually, trying to steer you where it thinks is the best way to go. And so sometimes it's good to pull over, park it for a second, have a conversation with yourself.
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Chris
By the way, this is all you. It's part of you. And have a communication and say, all right, well, what's your positive intention here? What's your what's your highest directive? Where are you trying to take me? Where do you think is the best way to go? And then you get to the point. You get to where the, the purpose is, and it'll always be self-service.
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Chris
It'll always be in service of you. And you get to the highest point of this part. What are you trying to protect me from, or what are you trying to, do for me? And you get to that point, and then you have to think about the other part of you that's just trying to do the other thing, and you get to the point of that, the purpose.
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Chris
And they are always the same. Always. And so, a nice little nifty trick is to, to pull over, have a think about what the point is of both of these parts, and then figure out how both can be served. So that you can get on your way.
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Filly
When I'm, I don't know if you noticed this when you're working one on one with clients, but when I'm taking people through the parts process in a coaching and, and unconscious change way, often, often the two parts, the conscious mind want something. So that's one part. And usually it is the, the one that wants that looks like it wants the more positive thing for you.
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Filly
So for example, I'm really struggling to take my supplements. That's one part. The other part is like, I really want to follow through on my protocol, because I can say that on my lab tests, I need this and it's going to be helpful. So I'm just kind of bringing the same language into what Chris just described with the different parts.
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Filly
So conscious mind one pot wants this for you when you're looking at the part that feels like it's sabotaging that that'll be another part of you. But at the end of the day, they both want the same thing. They both want you to have love and peace and happiness and joy, which again, totally reframes the shame based label of self-sabotage.
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Filly
It's like, oh, that part that I thought was self-sabotaging me actually wants the same thing as what my conscious mind wants for me. Oh, okay. They're both lovely. They're both wonderful. Let's work together in and make it happen. And so the only way that you can make it happen is with self permission. That comes from your unconscious mind.
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Filly
So in your unconscious mind and conscious mind are on the same page. Then it's safe to move forward to succeed. When you're when both parts are on the same page, it's impossible to self-sabotage because everything's integrated, moving you towards where you want to go. And it's lovely and it feels easy and flow full, rather than trying to willpower and fight against yourself.
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Filly
And the only way it becomes safe is by identifying and rewiring the deepest fear about yourself. It's as simple and as hard as that, but not impossible.
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Chris
And then I, I have conversations with people, and, you know, they get it. This is a logical thing that we've been talking about. So far, but but still, deep down in the underneath the surface, there's still, Yeah, but I get it. But I still feel like this is bullcrap, right? I still feel like this is stupid or I still feel like I should be doing this, or I should be doing that, or I can't do this, or I have to need to got to, you know, like, they they get the work, they get the the science.
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Filly
Intellectually, logically. It's like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you mean the pot.
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Chris
That they still.
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Filly
Have.
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Chris
Yeah. They're still hating on themselves. They're still feeling like they're self-sabotaging themselves. What would you what's the next step for you. Or maybe we should go into like, other ways of how this can show up for me.
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Filly
Yeah, I was thinking just giving some really specific examples of how it shows up that self-sabotage, but then also looking at it from a place of love and protection, and then give some how to.
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Chris
Slam it home.
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Filly
Okay, so in our ending Body burn out method, we look, we support our clients holistically. So the thing the two branches that caused a person's body to burn out is from a physical point of view. So physical inflammatories and stresses and also metaphysical inflammatories and stresses. So a client is working on both of those things. Most of it is on the metaphysical healing, because that's the deeper root that is driving everything else.
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Filly
But in terms of how the self-sabotage might show up if you're physically healing, I mean, I mentioned some of these earlier. It might be through. Yeah. Avoiding moving your body. Maybe you're actually addicted to too much exercise and that's part of you burnout. And, you know, an intention is I, I'm going to slow down. I'm going to be more intentional.
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Filly
I'm going to stretch more. I'm going to rest more. But, there's something inside of you that keeps riling you up. It maybe you have a beautiful intention of going to bed on time and really dialling in your sleep wake cycle. But revenge bedtime procrastination keeps coming in which a lot of people will call self-sabotage that they're like, I even got into bed at 10 p.m. and I went to turn off my light, but then all of a sudden my hand is going over to pick up the phone and I next minute I am doomscrolling for the next two hours or, you know, stuck on Netflix or something.
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Filly
All of this will be trying to protect you in some some way, shape or form. So even if conscious mind is like, hi, this doesn't make sense. I have I don't understand why this is happening. That will either be something around not capable of doing it, or not worthy or deserving of doing it. Similarly with metaphysical healing.
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Filly
So with metaphysical healing, there's a lot of inquiry work and discovery work. And what is this root cause belief? And what are my patterns that are showing up and what do they mean? And what does that mean about myself? And then the moment that you find that, then it's rewire time Reprogramme time. And that's using bottom up and top down practices and processes and coaching frameworks to get conscious mind and unconscious mind believing that you are wonderful, you are lovely.
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Filly
You are awesome. You are able to heal, while also letting go of past distressing events and emotions. Now it was very. Now I see a lot of people resist the inner work. I don't actually, I, I probably would say a lot of people resist the physical stuff as well, but probably more people resist the inner way because there's more risk involved.
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Filly
And again, sometimes this can be again, it will always be around protection. Some common themes I see is what if, what am I gonna find? Am I going to be able to handle it? So again, not enoughness what if I find something and it's true? What if I am a terrible, no good, flawed person? Again, not enoughness.
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Filly
Yeah. The kind of like the two ones. Will I be able to handle what shows up? And what if it's true? So for me, when I was finding my root belief and it probably took a six week period, but most nights I spent an hour or two journaling. Like I had some high level coaching questions.
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Filly
And I'm like, journaling. And I'm going down my timeline and I'm looking at all the past distressing events that happen and all the patterns I was playing out. And every night I could find time to do that. But then the moment that I found my old root belief, which was weakening, capable, and then it flipped into, okay, now you got to change it.
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Filly
All of a sudden, for some unknown reason, I couldn't find any time to do what I needed to do and to be the person I needed to be to rewire the root belief. Which was just nuts because logically, rationally, I'm like, I had an arrow to every night, but all of a sudden I don't have that anymore because I'm reading or watching Netflix.
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Filly
And it came back to the root belief. It's like, yeah, you know, you might have been good enough to get to the root belief, but can you really change it? Actually, I think it's just part of you. I don't think you can really change it. You're being capable. You're a bit weak. And so I yet to protect myself, which, again, is the ultimate form of love.
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Filly
It's like, don't try. Let's just quit now. Let's stop. Let's store. Good news is, I broke through that. But it's like it's very interesting how this can show up. Okay, so other subtle ways self-sabotage shows up. Might be and you might hear yourself saying these things. Oh, yeah. I didn't get around to that this week. I've really been struggling to find time to do that.
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Filly
Things are just a bit busy at the moment. All these external things keep popping up like my mum needs me. All my kids have got birthday parties. What else? If there's a bit for thought, Oh, I've got, like, you know, my dog needed to go to the vet or my kids needed me. Another subtle self-sabotage is I was sick, I was sick, so I didn't get around to doing that.
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Filly
Yeah, I was, like, more low capacity than usual. And so again, if this is just happening once or twice, it's like, yeah, it was probably just a thing that popped up and that's all good. But if it's a constant pattern where it's like far out, I keep, I keep saying these same same things over and over again, including the external things that keep popping up.
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Filly
You've created it somehow. Your system has created it somehow to keep you small and to keep you stuck so that it can protect you from whatever you're scared of. In terms of changing, and sickness is a really interesting form of protection. And I've just use the word self-sabotage because we usually wouldn't think about that. So if you've got fatigue, if you've got anxiety, if there's patterns of gut issues, hormonal issues, they might be acute that pop up sometimes.
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Filly
Sure. There's also some chronic stuff going around. This is also a way that your body can protect you in the moments that you need to show up at your best, or it can protect you from being out in the world. So essentially, we're using that same language that we started off with. Sickness can be a form of self-sabotage, but ultimately it's a form of protection and self-love.
00:28:59:06 - 00:29:26:01
Filly
Personally, when I was in Deep Healing, and I talk about more the physical side of things, I actually don't think I self-sabotage with physical health protocols. I was very good at getting a prescription, which is usually self prescribed as I was studying, and then as I hired my own mentors to help me. It's like, you've got candy to go sugar free for ten days and like ten days.
00:29:26:01 - 00:30:03:12
Filly
I'll do it for six months. So I actually didn't think I was self-sabotaging my my healing intentions, but I actually was through patterns of overdoing all or nothing, thinking fee based thinking. Because essentially it was blocking me from being able to heal. And again, it was doing it from a place of protection and love. Okay. So let's talk about how to how to start unravelling these parts of us so that we can bring them both on the same page.
00:30:03:12 - 00:30:25:05
Filly
So conscious mind, unconscious mind can come on the same page, helping you to move towards health and happiness and peace and joy and fun and pleasure. So our ending Body Van Out Method doors are open right now this week. If you're listening to it around the same the week that this podcast episode is dropped. So we will take you through the steps to do this.
00:30:25:05 - 00:30:51:07
Filly
And if you have, an objection or doubt around doing the program because it's like, oh, but I'm like a self-sabotage, so I won't do it. We will hold your hand and you we will coach G3. How to develop a really loving relationship with yourself in which all parts of you feel safe. And so then self-sabotage is no longer a thing.
00:30:51:07 - 00:31:16:20
Filly
It won't happen straight away. But if you're ready to just lean in and trust the process, you can get there. And so some of those patterns, I didn't well, some of the those steps are identifying the patterns that you're running. Thought patterns, behavioural patterns, patterns of emotions, and then asking the question, what must I believe about myself in order to run these patterns?
00:31:16:22 - 00:31:49:22
Filly
And so you're getting to a deep root belief. There's going to be a very first time that you accused yourself as something unkind, usually before the age of seven, when you find that it's an effective apology to self, a deep, loving, moving apology where you're able to rebuild trust in that moment, and then from then on, where rewiring that deep root belief and all the stories you've been carrying along the way, based on past events that are proving or that have proved that that belief is true about yourself.
00:31:50:00 - 00:32:13:08
Filly
So deconstructing, rewiring, reprogramming and then letting it go. And then the end process is continuing to develop a beautiful relationship with yourself. When you have that, your unconscious mind and conscious mind are on the same page. And as we mentioned before, we've got free workshops running this week so you can sign up to our free Rewire Your Brain to Heal Body Burn out.
00:32:13:10 - 00:32:37:22
Filly
That's a three part series, three workshops that are happening this week, and then next week on Monday, we've got, it's a new life for you, where she's going to be a really potent coaching session to help you break through these blocks and to take the next steps in your healing journey. And then I thought we would just end off with some self-inquiry coaching questions.
00:32:38:00 - 00:33:00:17
Filly
We won't elaborate on them, but you can press pause. You can grab a pen and paper, you can write some things out and yeah, just start connecting to that deeper part of you try and get beyond just conscious, logical mind, really connecting to the body and the wisdom of the body and the sensations you might be feeling and you know, memories that might be connected to that.
00:33:00:19 - 00:33:03:05
Filly
Do you want to read some of those questions out?
00:33:03:07 - 00:33:33:23
Chris
Before I do that, though, if you're not driving, and if you're not in water, would you give yourself permission to answer some things and to, to allow yourself to, have some insights? Hopefully you said yes. So take a deep breath with me.
00:33:34:01 - 00:33:45:14
Chris
And have a think about what's the time or a situation where you feel like you're self-sabotaging.
00:33:45:16 - 00:33:52:10
Chris
What's this pattern protecting you from?
00:33:52:12 - 00:34:19:00
Chris
What's the worst thing I'm afraid will happen if I follow through? What would it mean about me if that happened? And keep asking yourself that question. What would that mean and what would that mean? So if you've got a pen and paper, write down some answers to those things. You might find you can ask that same question multiple times.
00:34:19:02 - 00:34:45:14
Chris
What are you really afraid of? And what part of me is trying to keep me safe? What does that need? And you can even ask, what's the purpose of this? And what do I get from this activity or this behaviour or this action?
00:34:45:16 - 00:35:10:23
Filly
Thank you. And a nice reframe that you can use if this pattern shows up for you. Now that you know that it's about protection and self-love. So but it's a bit outdated. So it's like, no, I think I can move forward now. Yes. It's scary. Yes, I'm moving into the unknown, but I'm ready to put my adult shoes on now.
00:35:11:01 - 00:35:32:16
Filly
So if this pops up, and you know, they might even you could even imagine this part of you as a version of you, maybe a younger you or an object, or maybe it's another person. But having a conversation with this court. Thank you for trying to protect me, but we're updating the strategy now, so you know what?
00:35:32:16 - 00:35:57:06
Filly
You can still stay here. You're really good at keeping me safe, but we're going to do it in a different way now. You can start moving forward so you're not sabotaging yourself. You're protecting yourself. And you don't need more discipline. You need more internal safety within self. And we would love and be honoured to help you with that if you would.
00:35:57:07 - 00:36:05:01
Filly
If you feel aligned.
00:36:05:03 - 00:36:28:07
Chris
That's it. Thank you so much for joining us today. We hope you have the best week ever. And, we hopefully we'll see you on the inside of the ending body burnout method. I'll tell you what, there's not a lot, but there's a few, available time slots. If you wanted to jump on to a quick call and you wanted to actually have a conversation, you can literally talk to me.
00:36:28:07 - 00:36:31:09
Filly
A free discovery call. We'll pop that in the links as well.
00:36:31:09 - 00:36:48:06
Chris
Yeah. That's it. And also, if you've got any questions, please feel free to, leave a comment down below, and, we'll chat to you soon. Bye.
00:36:48:08 - 00:36:58:10
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
00:36:58:12 - 00:37:24:11
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about our group or one on one ending body burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
00:37:24:13 - 00:37:24:23
Chris
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