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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Body Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body, get your spark back deeply, connect.
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Filly
With yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Chris
Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, welcome to this episode of the Ending Body Burnout Show. I am your host, Chris, and I'm here with my lovely wife, Phillipa.
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Filly
Hello. What voice is that?
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Chris
In today.
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Filly
I'm doing like.
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Filly
Like midnight.
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Filly
Midnight.
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Chris
Hi. Welcome to midnight love songs with Chris Billets. Tonight we're going to hear one of your favourite tracks.
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Filly
And I die from.
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Chris
Celine will.
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Filly
Always love you.
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Chris
Sorry, ladies and gentlemen, that wasn't Celine Dion. That was Dylan.
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Filly
Okay, so today on the podcast, let's keep that. We are talking.
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Filly
All about how you can access your inner strength and your inner knowing.
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Filly
And we're just going to roll with it.
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Filly
So we, at the.
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Filly
Time of this episode being.
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Filly
Published, we will.
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Filly
Be in a launch week for Ending Body Burnout method, which is.
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Filly
Exciting times because we do only.
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Filly
Open three times a year for our program.
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Filly
Which is the only way to work.
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Filly
With this to really deeply get to the root root cause of your body burnout. So we get really excited. We do only have limited spaces, and we have been.
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Filly
Talking with a lot of people this.
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Filly
Week and also leading up to doors opening, and had a lot of conversations.
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Filly
With people and something that.
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Filly
We notice as a pattern. Other sensitives.
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Filly
It's kind of like it all sounds great. I think this is what I need. I think I oh, this would be awesome, but I don't.
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Filly
Know, can I, should I, is it going to work for me? And so this is a common human trait, by the way, that some people get stuck in the pattern of analysis paralysis, self-doubt, making excuses, and then not moving forward in creating or making a confident decision and going after your health, your healing, and even your dreams.
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Filly
So we thought we'd.
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Filly
Do an episode on accessing your inner strength specifically around decision making, which will help leap forward in your healing journey and create the health and life that you want.
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Filly
So this will.
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Filly
Be great if you are someone who's thinking about the program, you're like.
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Filly
Oh, I don't know, I should, I shouldn't, I can't, I can't type, But it will also be great.
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Filly
For, anyone else listening. So even if you are a client or a past client or you're not even interested in working with us, but you love just listening to our podcast, it's going to be so relevant for you as well, especially if you are someone who can get stuck in this analysis paralysis loop when it comes to making a decision.
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Chris
Yeah, because this this can be for somebody making a decision about like we're running this, this topic at the moment because this suits, the world that we're in right now, you know, with our clients and opening doors and all that sort of stuff. So that makes sense. But then for those of you who, perhaps listening to this.
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Chris
No, not this week. So in the future. Hi. How's it going.
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Filly
From.
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Chris
Now? How are you doing in the future? What's going on? Or you're in our method already and you're working with us. I pick it, pick a thing, anything where you feel like you're running, running that pattern that Phil was just mentioning that analysis paralysis type patterns where you where you don't make it that decision, you don't pull the trigger.
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Chris
You just kind of wait and wait and wait and wait and accumulate, accumulate, accumulate. That sounds like you keep listening. And, trying to apply something.
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Filly
Yeah. To something. And, you know, maybe you actually.
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Filly
If you think back in the last week or the last month, maybe there is something that you've been mulling over in terms of like, oh, this would be really good. It might even.
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Filly
Be like a.
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Filly
Purchasing a robot vacuum cleaner.
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Filly
Or it.
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Filly
Might be, what school should I send my child.
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Filly
To?
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Chris
Or what?
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Filly
What brand should I do?
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Chris
What brand? Ultra light quilts should you get?
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Filly
Like, whatever it is? That was like, go for a.
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Filly
Walk every day. Or should I do something else? It's a common pattern that we actually see with people with body burnout.
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Filly
It goes very closely.
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Filly
Hand in hand with perfectionism patterns, which will lead to body burnout. Like, I have to get it right.
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Filly
Ooh, I don't know.
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Filly
I have to research all the things before I make a decision, because what if I get it wrong and so it can get you stuck in that pattern?
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Filly
Yeah. Also.
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Filly
If you have unconscious core beliefs that are hidden or unresolved or not yet rewired, like there's something wrong with me.
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Filly
That will also.
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Filly
Cause someone to feel like they struggle to make decisions, like weak, incapable. This, broken somehow. It's like, well, you know, if in in every cell.
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Filly
Of your.
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Filly
Body, in your unconscious mind, you believe that there's something wrong with.
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Filly
You.
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Filly
Making decisions can be really scary, if not dangerous to the unconscious mind. And so, that's a really common pattern with people with body burnout at every single client that we work with in our method, we are getting to these deep root cause unconscious beliefs.
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Filly
And also, it can.
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Filly
Cause you to put off taking action so.
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Filly
People who.
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Filly
Get stuck in body burnout can, put off taking action because of this lack of or inability or scariness around making a decision. And therefore you continue to suffer or you get worse and it burns out the body systems even more.
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Filly
And it's also mentally exhausting.
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Filly
And it puts you further into a fight flight freeze pattern, and it literally will burn your body systems out. Not fun at.
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Filly
All.
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Chris
Do you know, there's one more thing that that I notice is life just feels like it just goes by. It just slips through your fingers. You feel like you're just watching it. And, some of my clients mentioned that they feel like they're they're just observing that it's they're not quite living, you know? Yeah. Yeah. And that's, that's sometimes happens because, well, you're, you're thinking, you're logic izing, you're intellectualising the process.
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Chris
You're not actually participating in the, in life. Yeah. You're holding yourself back.
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Filly
Yeah. We actually released a podcast just the week before, where we interviewed one of our client, Sally. And if you listen to that podcast, she talked about the different warring parts of her, which.
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Filly
Caused her.
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Filly
To get stuck in this analysis paralysis, shut down, exhaustion, overwhelm, pattern.
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Filly
But yeah.
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Filly
And and during the podcast episode, she shared what that looked like to get to the root, and to essentially integrate transform, rewire. So if you haven't listened to that one, that would be a great one to go back to after listening to this podcast episode for more evidence of that. It's like so possible to unravel these patterns.
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Filly
And when you.
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Filly
Do, you.
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Filly
Heal. Not just mentally, not just emotionally, but literally. Your physical health symptoms start disappearing as well.
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Chris
What's that? What's that? Pantene pervy. Do you remember that that ad? It won't happen overnight, but it will happen. Yeah, I like it.
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Filly
Okay, so let's dive in. So really, at the end of this episode, we want to help you to access your own inner strength in knowing so you can make decisions, solve problems.
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Filly
Move forward in your goals, heal.
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Filly
Thrive, grow and create what you want. And we thought we'd start off with talking about inner strength myths, because sometimes when you know, when people hear the word inner strength.
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Filly
You might.
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Filly
This might not be you. But I know that some people can hear that and be like, man, I don't really have much inner strength.
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Filly
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Filly
I don't I didn't even know what that would.
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Filly
Feel like.
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Filly
The myth is that's a lie. Everyone has inner strength.
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Filly
You are born.
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Filly
With a tremendous amount of inner strength. Even a.
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Filly
New born little baby.
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Filly
Has a lot of it.
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Filly
So.
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Filly
You do have inner strength. The difference between looking at someone who.
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Filly
Steps.
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Filly
Into their power, makes confident decisions, moves forward, creates what they want, and the person that does it is it the person that does move forward knows how to access that inner strength. The person who stays stuck just hasn't learnt yet how to access it, and you might have access to inner strength at some point. Yeah, you might have done that unconsciously, unintentionally.
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Filly
But most likely, if you're a human being and you've lived a life you have access to it. It's just that it's it's unconsciously incompetent in terms of how that shows up. And it might not be showing up very often because you don't know how to access it, especially when times get tough.
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Chris
And it's scary sometimes. There's, there's a guy who's, who's really famous, for, his quote, he says, stay hard. This, this I might be speaking to, to to the guys in the audience that the 1% of our population listening to this. 10%, 10%. Whoa, whoa.
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Filly
We've got the stats.
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Chris
We got the stats 10%. So, fellas, but but also, I feel like this is, this is a masculine ideology, and it's, stay hard work. Don't don't stop when you, don't stop when you're tired. Stop when you're done. You know, these just finish. These are very masculine concepts. And ideas. The only when you, the only way you gain mental toughness is to do things you're not happy to do.
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Chris
You know, this is very hard core. And for for those of you who are listening to this, I may be overwhelmed and stretched in body burnout. That's a very dangerous ideology. It's very threatening. It's very hurtful, very hard. It's very triggering because you're exhausted, you're drained, you're tired. And so to think about stretching yourself and accessing inner strength, but then you've got the popular ideologies of today screaming at you stay hard.
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Chris
Masculine, masculine, do do do. Effort, effort. Wow, that's very that's quite draining. When the stereotype of strength is that sort of masculine ideology. Right. You know. Yeah.
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Filly
Yeah, yeah. So for breaking myths around inner strength, the inner strength actually isn't that. Yeah. Like, it's not it's not willpower. It's not self-discipline. It's not go hard. It's actually deeply trusting yourself. But now we can like hang up the episode.
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Chris
Yeah. At the end. So thank you guys for listening.
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Filly
We will get to that very shortly.
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Filly
But yeah. No, that's.
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Filly
That's a good point, Chris. That that's.
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Filly
Inner strength. That's not what we're talking about here because.
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Chris
That's that's really exhausting. And I've, I've felt,
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Filly
It'll be wrapped up in perfectionism patterns as well. So I have lived a pattern where you attach your worth on what you can do and what you can create and what you can produce. But now you're burnt out and it's just like, I don't have anything left in the tank. It's because you've been accessing that toxic masculine go hard.
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Filly
Okay, so.
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Chris
It's still victim energy. You're still vibing the victim vibes. It's like I'm going to prove to you that I'm not enough. Even though I believe I'm not enough. I'm going to do all I can to to prove to you that I it it's it's still got the vibes of of the victim energy. Yeah. So yeah. So anyway, that's what we're talking about.
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Chris
That. Sorry. That's not what we're talking about here today.
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Filly
Yeah. Okay. So when you access this deep trust with self inner strength and knowing.
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Filly
This is what it will feel like, this is what it will look like. This is what it will give you. You will feel.
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Filly
Like you can take control and you'll be in control of yourself. You can choose what you want and how you feel and how you show up. You can make aligned decisions and you can back yourself for those. So you make a decision and it's like, yeah, I'm all in rather than the opposite of that. Or it's like,
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Filly
I've just, I don't know, join the ending body beat up program. Now I'm like freaking out. Picked on the right choice.
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Chris
Quick reset.
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Filly
Fun.
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Chris
Yeah. Running away, running away.
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Filly
So yeah, you feel when you access inner strength and knowing you'll feel confident, calm, relaxed, grounded, sure. In yourself, And of yourself and how you're moving forward. And I think we all want more of that. Yeah. Amen. Amen.
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Chris
Push it. Sister.
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Filly
Not only does it feel good.
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Chris
Not sister. That's a very Tasmanian thing to say to my wife.
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Chris
Push it baby.
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Filly
Fun fact Chris.
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Filly
And I grew up on opposite sides of Australia, but our accent ends of Australia. About our ancestors both came on.
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Filly
The.
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Filly
First plate and were convicts in Tasmania, a.
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Chris
Bunch of criminals.
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Filly
So we have looked down the timelines and I don't think we're related.
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Chris
We're not. We're not related, not very Tasmania of us. Yeah, yeah. My family moved away, and then came back.
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Filly
Yeah. Okay. All right. Sorry.
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Chris
So the beauty.
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Filly
Three.
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Filly
Things before we get into the five things that you can do to help strengthen your inner strength and knowing, I want to talk about three things that will will weaken your inner strength. And those three things. Well, we start off with the first one is victim mentality. So that, you know, looks like lack scarcity fear. Poor me.
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Filly
Feeling sorry for self. Which.
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Filly
By the.
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Filly
Way it's kind of crappy. Like if, you know, if we just think about if you stuck in a chronic body burn out, you've got health issues that have been going on for years, if not decades. And maybe that's impacting relationships, work, finances, business. Yeah, it's it's crap. We don't have to pretend that it's not.
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Filly
So it's normal.
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Filly
For someone to drop down into a victim mentality every now and then, maybe even more often than not. A lot of people do it. But when you do drop down into this victim mentality, it weakens your inner strength and your inner knowing, because all of a sudden all you're consumed about or looking at is poor me feeling sorry for yourself, waiting for someone to come and rescue you, waiting to have enough.
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Filly
Whether it's time, money, energy so that you can do the things to heal and be well and it just keeps you stuck so it weakens you and it disempowers you.
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Chris
So therefore what we're not saying is to, to, to dislike that that part of you that that's in this stage is to to to, wrap your loving arms around that version of yourself and, and accept, accept that you're in this state and take responsibility. Not blame, not accuse not not vilify and hate. But to say, I see you.
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Chris
I see you wanting for something different. I get it. And then to to transcend, to to grow, to evolve out of that. But first you got to recognise. Yeah, I that's where I am. I'm down here, I'm down here in in shame victim land. And, Yeah, I'm, I'm responsible. And I got this,
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Filly
And I like that you mentioned like that pot. That pot is kind of stuck down in victim land. So it's like being aware of that pot. And what does that pot name and. Yeah, and by you starting to show self-compassion and gentleness to self, you've actually automatically.
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Filly
Moved above.
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Filly
The line, moved into empowerment and no longer in a victim. So it's almost like you can.
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Filly
Actually hold to what.
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Filly
Feel like contradictory parts of you at the same time. And that's actually what heals you. So you're not pretending you're not kind of like, again, forcing yourself to be happy and okay about this. And all right, I'll just pull my socks off and I'll get on with it.
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Filly
It's like,
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Filly
I notice that I'm in victim. Victim land. Oh, okay. And this is the part of me that feels that's really sad at the moment. Or angry or frustrated.
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Filly
And you know what? I'm gonna I'm going to love this pot.
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Filly
Because this pot needs something right now. Maybe it also needs something outside of you. Like, maybe there is some support. But you still need to help yourself to find that support and find what's going to be aligned with you.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Filly
And I love asking the question to you. And by the way, like I slipped down in victim land, maybe like at least once a day.
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Filly
And it's like, oh, hello.
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Filly
So instead of getting stuck in, why is it happening to me? Start looking for how it's happening for you. So what's the lesson? What's the wisdom, what's the gift in this crappy or hard situation? And when you can actually see that lesson, then it's like, oh, okay, this is happening. The universe is working in my favour here.
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Filly
Oh wow. Okay. And then automatically you're moving into empowerment. Another thing that blocks, or awakens your inner strength in knowing is when you start outsourcing decisions to others. And again, remember where we're talking about this in the context of decision making and making confident decisions and moving forward with confidence. So if you're constantly outsourcing decisions to others, that is a that's that's weakening, disempowering you.
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Filly
It's okay to ask questions. It's okay to get other people's feedback. But if you're constantly referring outwards, so that other people can decide what's good for you, then you're not strengthening your decision making muscle.
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Chris
Yeah. And now, I think you're about to talk about this, but but, sometimes we'll have we'll have clients will say to us something like, I want to have check ins with my partner or my friend or my social group. Or you guys, to see how I'm going or to, you know, to, to help me, to do the thing or something.
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Chris
It sounds nice to be able to have support like that, but but I think that the quick check in, whenever that that statement comes up and it happens often, is to just do a little vibe, check with, with, with that person and just to say, hey, just just quick little vibe, check underneath that. Is there any fear or insecurity or people pleasing ness, or is there a little patterning in there around needing having the urge to to check in with your partner?
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Chris
Can you have is this the vibe of love and support and acceptance, or is it the vibe of fear and outsourcing? You know. Yeah. And so we're talking about, hey, have that, have that support. But but like you got this keep your power. You're strong enough. You've got this inner strength. Have that partner, sibling friend, practitioner.
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Chris
But but most important you've got you.
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Filly
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Filly
Yeah. And it will.
00:20:43:17 - 00:20:44:13
Filly
It will show up.
00:20:44:17 - 00:20:53:03
Filly
In you know in two main ways this outsourcing to others. So Chris mentioned people pleasing which can be really common. So it's like all right.
00:20:53:04 - 00:20:53:23
Filly
Especially if.
00:20:54:00 - 00:21:11:10
Filly
Like I see this in not a lot in males but very often in women who are married or have like an intimate partner. It's kind of like, oh, I just have to check to make sure that, it's okay if I buy those lab tests or if it's okay if I don't know. A sign up to you ending body burn out method.
00:21:11:10 - 00:21:30:20
Filly
I just need to, like, have a chat with my husband. I rarely hear that from a male. It is. I've only ever heard it once from a male client. Where they where he has said I'll just have to check with my wife. So it's also patriarchal, kind of like cultural as well, that women feel like they.
00:21:30:20 - 00:21:33:11
Chris
I've got something to say about that.
00:21:33:13 - 00:21:55:18
Filly
That women feel like they need to ask permission in order to do something, and it is people pleasing. It's kind of like, oh, I don't want to rock the boat. I don't want to cause conflict. I don't want to take away from from the family. And so essentially it's there's lack of self-worth underneath it. There's something underneath where.
00:21:55:20 - 00:21:56:15
Filly
You don't feel.
00:21:56:15 - 00:22:02:16
Filly
Like you're enough to just make the decision for yourself because you know that it feels right and it feels good for.
00:22:02:16 - 00:22:03:09
Filly
You.
00:22:03:11 - 00:22:26:23
Chris
The, the, I think this is why we one of the reasons why we, we have more, women than men in our anybody burnout method, is because guys actually do it in a, in a backwards kind of way. They to prove their strength, therefore covering up their insecurity. They won't ask for help and they won't reach out and they won't talk about it.
00:22:27:04 - 00:22:31:09
Filly
And they just kind of like I the DIY it through YouTube videos.
00:22:31:09 - 00:22:34:01
Chris
Oh yeah. If if at all.
00:22:34:03 - 00:22:37:18
Filly
Suppress alcohol sport. Yeah. TV unlocks.
00:22:37:19 - 00:23:06:05
Chris
Yeah it's. Yeah. So so whatever it whatever it is it'll be if there's a problem. The problem's gonna stay there. It's just going to be negatively expressed, repressed, suppressed, something like that. Yeah, yeah. And for guys that looks like not reaching out. And therefore it's, it's demons. It the stoic appearance covers up for that in a feeling of I'm not enough I'm not strong enough.
00:23:06:07 - 00:23:26:12
Chris
And I will do anything to make sure nobody not even you person Chris in Filly who are trying to help me with this one thing, I will make sure that nobody in the world sees that what I see about myself, that's the I think that's the guy thing. Yeah. Masculine thing, generally speaking. Yeah. Almost all guys.
00:23:26:14 - 00:23:26:23
Filly
One other.
00:23:26:23 - 00:23:43:14
Filly
Thing around that before we move on to the third point is it can also be a bit of a trauma response. So if you've had an experience in the past, even as a little kid attain or like earlier in your adult years where you did actually make some decisions and it went wrong, then decision making can feel really unsafe.
00:23:43:19 - 00:23:50:14
Filly
And so therefore it's like, well, it feels safer to outsource, my decision making to someone else.
00:23:50:16 - 00:23:51:03
Filly
Also, that.
00:23:51:03 - 00:24:10:03
Filly
Can be a little bit of victim mentality in that too, because you know, if things go wrong, it's their fault. Not my fault. If this doesn't work for me, it's not me who made the decision. It was their decision. It could happen in a marriage sometimes. And doing a little smile cuz I'm like, yeah, I can think of that in the past.
00:24:10:04 - 00:24:15:00
Filly
I'm like, Chris, you decide. And then if it doesn't work, it's all your fault.
00:24:15:02 - 00:24:26:08
Filly
Okay, the third thing that will weaken your inner strength and knowing is getting stuck in perfectionism. Pattern of what if I'm wrong? I need to do more research.
00:24:26:10 - 00:24:28:22
Filly
So if you're noticing this pattern, oh, what if I'm wrong?
00:24:28:22 - 00:24:54:10
Filly
I need to do more research. And then like six months later, you're still doing research and you still haven't made a decision. This is absolutely going to weaken your inner strength and your inner knowing. And this will again come from a deep, unconscious core belief. It will come from experiences in the past where you're terrified to make the wrong choice, for fear of exposure and what it might mean about you.
00:24:54:10 - 00:25:23:09
Filly
And so therefore, you make no choice at all. Or, you know, you make the wrong choice, and then you've wasted a bunch of time, money, energy. Other people might point their finger at you and say, see, I told you it wasn't going to work, and you've disappointed other people. So this will also weaken and disempower you when you're running this strategy.
00:25:23:11 - 00:25:45:14
Filly
Sometimes it can also show up as like not just research, but just again, asking more and more and more people are waiting for the perfect sign. It's like I go to wait until all the ducks are in the road, and they don't know that this is the right thing. There's never going to be the right time. So, trust your inner knowing which we will get to in a sneaky.
00:25:45:16 - 00:25:46:13
Filly
And different people.
00:25:46:13 - 00:26:00:23
Filly
Are different. So I would say do a reasonable amount of research and learning. I actually think that's really important sometimes. We have had some people join our program and fan out method from a referral.
00:26:01:01 - 00:26:05:19
Filly
And they have no idea what they're getting into.
00:26:05:21 - 00:26:16:22
Filly
And it can go two ways. Either they like, you know, they need a lot of education initially in order to, to be on board on the same page to see how this can work for them.
00:26:17:00 - 00:26:18:15
Filly
Or they're like, what.
00:26:18:15 - 00:26:19:02
Filly
Am I.
00:26:19:02 - 00:26:20:17
Filly
Doing?
00:26:20:19 - 00:26:28:15
Filly
And then they kind of just disappear. They run away. It's like, I didn't know this is what I was signing up for. So I think it's really important to actually do some.
00:26:28:15 - 00:26:29:17
Filly
Research.
00:26:29:19 - 00:26:48:11
Filly
Learn about the thing that you want to make a decision on, whether it's like a physical thing you want to purchase or a program you want to purchase or, a place you want to visit or the school that you want your kids to go to. But when it feels aligned, take action. So if you're researching more than six months, I mean, I don't think there's any time frame.
00:26:48:11 - 00:27:09:15
Filly
I'm someone who is quite slow in making a decision. Definitely. In the past, there was a lot of free energy underneath that. Now it's more kind of just like a slowness in a actually know if the pain or the problem or a struggle is high enough, I will make a decision really fast. If it's kind of like a.
00:27:09:17 - 00:27:10:07
Filly
Oh, that would.
00:27:10:07 - 00:27:20:20
Filly
Be a nice thing to do. You know, just sit with it for a while until I'm like, all right, ready to go? Where is your a bit more?
00:27:20:22 - 00:27:21:12
Filly
You do a.
00:27:21:12 - 00:27:23:23
Filly
Little bit of research. Hey, but then you kind of just jump in.
00:27:24:00 - 00:27:39:18
Chris
I do, I'm, as, as, non neuro tip, I will, will, become immersed in, in research and, and then I just, I.
00:27:39:20 - 00:28:07:19
Chris
Tend and then it's done and then I'm like add to cart purchase. I feel like hey what's what's what's doing doing. And I'm like, oh this what how come I'm like, but for this reason, this or this or this or is it, so yeah, I, I'm very comfortable accessing my, my inner strength. Maybe, maybe my challenge is a little bit different to the topic of today's call.
00:28:07:19 - 00:28:19:16
Chris
It's about, having having some catch ups and, and bringing others who are meaningful along for the ride. Not just going solo.
00:28:19:18 - 00:28:21:23
Filly
There is research.
00:28:22:01 - 00:28:24:23
Filly
It's really from a marketing business point of view that.
00:28:25:04 - 00:28:27:04
Filly
People, people.
00:28:27:04 - 00:28:48:13
Filly
Generally need to consume about seven hours of content before they make a decision to purchase something. And I would also apply that to something that you're not purchasing, but you're choosing to do, which is cool. So it's kind of like if you're someone stuck in is over analysis and then you get paralysis, and then you continue researching.
00:28:48:13 - 00:28:57:07
Filly
It's just like, I actually give yourself a little bit of a time frame and say no more than seven hours. If after seven hours of consuming this content, it doesn't feel right or aligned.
00:28:57:07 - 00:28:58:06
Filly
Cool.
00:28:58:08 - 00:29:03:15
Filly
Okay to something else. If it does, it's like cool, pull the ready to go button.
00:29:03:17 - 00:29:19:00
Chris
That's about right. I reckon for based on my experience of myself, because I watch everything in two speed. So it's about 3.5 hours worth of content for me. Yeah. That's good.
00:29:19:02 - 00:29:21:16
Filly
Okay. I don't know if I should say it.
00:29:21:18 - 00:29:32:12
Filly
I had a story. Okay. I'll just real briefly share this story because it it aligns or it it practically shows how I was actually weakening my inner strength and knowing really recently when.
00:29:32:12 - 00:29:36:19
Filly
I was preparing this podcast episode. Amazing. Yeah. This is actually like a.
00:29:36:19 - 00:29:52:06
Filly
Week or two. I think it was last week. And just for a little bit of context. So if you're a client of ours, and you attend or watch back out live workshops. Oh, no, I've spoke about on stories as well. So anyway, if you're in the inside knowing.
00:29:52:08 - 00:29:54:22
Filly
Of wow me really?
00:29:55:00 - 00:29:56:06
Filly
It was about a month ago. I got.
00:29:56:06 - 00:29:57:11
Filly
Gastro.
00:29:57:13 - 00:30:01:01
Filly
For two days. I thought I was going to die, but I didn't,
00:30:01:03 - 00:30:01:19
Filly
Recovered.
00:30:01:19 - 00:30:05:16
Filly
Fine from it, but it threw my hormones really out of whack.
00:30:05:16 - 00:30:10:16
Filly
So literally, like, it disappeared. I literally skipped.
00:30:10:16 - 00:30:14:19
Filly
A whole period, and I. I've got my period now. Yay! But it was.
00:30:14:22 - 00:30:19:11
Chris
We thought we were going to have a baby. I think we thought we thought we did some pregnancy tests. What was it.
00:30:19:13 - 00:30:20:09
Filly
About a seven.
00:30:20:09 - 00:30:20:16
Filly
Week.
00:30:20:16 - 00:30:22:05
Filly
Cycle?
00:30:22:07 - 00:30:24:05
Filly
Which is very long. And so yeah, I did a.
00:30:24:05 - 00:30:29:22
Filly
Couple of pregnancy tests. I'm like, Holy crap, my pregnant. What's going on?
00:30:30:00 - 00:30:42:14
Filly
But anyway, what I noticed was not only did my period disappear, but I felt quite hormonal some day. Some days were fine, but other days I was just like, I don't feel myself, I feel apathetic, I feel I even said to Chris, I've.
00:30:42:14 - 00:30:47:05
Filly
Lost my mojo. What's wrong with me?
00:30:47:07 - 00:31:06:18
Filly
Struggled getting into things. I still struggled making decisions and I was feeling quite emotional on some days, including this day that I was preparing for this podcast. So I was massively dropping into victim mentality and like, I could even hear it in my language, my thought patterns and what I was saying out loud, I was like, it's my.
00:31:06:18 - 00:31:08:04
Filly
Hormones.
00:31:08:06 - 00:31:10:23
Filly
Blaming my hormones. I can't do this, Chris.
00:31:10:23 - 00:31:17:14
Filly
You do this. I do so much for this podcast. I had so much. It's your turn to step up.
00:31:17:16 - 00:31:23:14
Filly
I didn't say that out loud to Chris. That was more passive aggressive. And it's like, this sucks.
00:31:23:14 - 00:31:28:01
Filly
Why am I feeling hormonal? I know, it's like I hate the gastro. So I was.
00:31:28:01 - 00:31:29:22
Filly
Massively victim.
00:31:30:00 - 00:31:32:22
Chris
To mode activated.
00:31:33:00 - 00:31:49:23
Filly
And then like I just struggled to prep for this podcast. So I was coming at it from a place of weakness. I couldn't even make a decision around like the topic, and then eventually got to the topic, and then I couldn't make a decision around what to put in the topic.
00:31:50:04 - 00:31:54:21
Filly
And I started outsourcing to others. Like I literally started looking for other people's opinions.
00:31:54:21 - 00:32:03:18
Filly
So I'm like, who else has done a podcast on this topic that confused me even more because I'm like, I don't want to copy them. And they're also they also don't have the same.
00:32:03:20 - 00:32:07:16
Filly
Audience is us. And then I'm like, Chris, you watching? What should we.
00:32:07:16 - 00:32:10:18
Filly
Do? And then Chris is like, oh, he's ChatGPT.
00:32:10:20 - 00:32:14:19
Filly
And then I'm like, I've already done that. And ChatGPT didn't give me the right answers.
00:32:14:20 - 00:32:38:16
Chris
I love it. And it was, to put it succinctly, you're like, Chris, I need some help. I need some help from you to to for this topic of not externalising and not outsourcing responsibility and to to reclaim your power and to to notice your inner strength. I'm like so like right now, like you need you need help to do what you're doing right now.
00:32:38:18 - 00:32:41:15
Filly
Yeah, exactly. And so it was so funny. Oh, actually.
00:32:41:15 - 00:32:59:09
Filly
Before I get to the light bulb moment, I was also, yeah, playing like that perfectionism pattern as well of like, what if I get it wrong? I'm like, this is going to be a really important episode because it'll be dropping during the launch period and it might help people to, like, step into their own inner knowing in the inner power so they can heal.
00:32:59:09 - 00:33:00:04
Filly
And be well.
00:33:00:04 - 00:33:04:02
Filly
And take the steps. And so, you know, I'm like thinking about other people too.
00:33:04:02 - 00:33:08:06
Filly
And I'm like, I don't know if this is going to land for people.
00:33:08:08 - 00:33:16:14
Filly
And then when I, when I ask Chris for help or really, I was just asking him to solve the problem for me to make a decision so I didn't.
00:33:16:14 - 00:33:19:09
Filly
Have to do it anymore.
00:33:19:11 - 00:33:27:20
Filly
Then I got clear on, oh, this isn't just about inner strength. It's about making a decision because I'm currently stuck here.
00:33:27:20 - 00:33:31:20
Filly
And then all of a sudden, light bulb moment.
00:33:31:22 - 00:33:41:05
Filly
I went for a walk in the afternoon. I didn't look at this podcast episode until the day after. And then I opened up my laptop and all these ideas.
00:33:41:05 - 00:33:45:05
Filly
And creative juices flowing. Sorry.
00:33:45:07 - 00:33:57:06
Filly
During that lightbulb moment and what I did afterwards, I was actually able to step into strengthening my inner strength and inner knowing. And this is what we want to take you through now.
00:33:57:07 - 00:33:58:01
Filly
The five.
00:33:58:01 - 00:34:03:22
Filly
Practical strategies or steps to help you access your inner strength and your inner knowing.
00:34:03:23 - 00:34:09:19
Chris
Five practical steps to help you with your inner strength. No way.
00:34:09:19 - 00:34:12:07
Filly
Yeah, yeah.
00:34:12:09 - 00:34:33:00
Filly
And as always, as I was mapping these out, I kind of, like, tapped into what I do. And it's quite linear. Now, you don't have to do these, like, five steps in a linear way. They might just be 1 or 2 that really resonate. There's like, oh yeah, I might practice and try that on. Personally, for me, I stack all five of these on together.
00:34:33:02 - 00:34:35:06
Filly
So number one is.
00:34:35:08 - 00:34:36:03
Filly
Trust.
00:34:36:05 - 00:34:37:09
Filly
That the deepest part.
00:34:37:09 - 00:34:39:12
Filly
Of you wants.
00:34:39:13 - 00:34:42:18
Filly
Trust that deepest part of you that wants the best for you.
00:34:42:20 - 00:34:44:18
Filly
Now, some people will use.
00:34:44:18 - 00:35:07:01
Filly
Different language for that. So it's like trust your intuition, trust your gut, trust your heart, trust your soul, trust your spirit, trust your higher brain or higher mind. I like to just like, mush all those together and say, trust the deepest part of you that wants the best for you. So that deepest part of you that's just yearning for health and vibrancy and wants you to thrive.
00:35:07:03 - 00:35:27:11
Filly
And instead of getting stuck in your head analysing every angle, just drop into your body because this deepest part of you, it's it's in your body, it's in your unconscious mind. It's not in the logical, rational part of you, in your brain. And this inner part of you, this inner self.
00:35:27:13 - 00:35:28:09
Filly
It'll always.
00:35:28:09 - 00:35:52:13
Filly
Give you an instinctual response. So even if you were to reverse engineer when you first started making a decision, generally speaking, we get an immediate yes or no feeling before our brain starts creating stories about why you should or shouldn't do it. So really tapping into that and sometimes it can be nuanced where like, we're strengthening a muscle here, so you might not notice it yet.
00:35:52:15 - 00:36:04:07
Filly
And if you, you struggle to do that, if you feel like you're up in your head, just take a deep breath. And as you breathe out, imagine dropping your head into your.
00:36:04:07 - 00:36:05:22
Filly
Heart.
00:36:06:00 - 00:36:33:22
Filly
And even placing a hand on your heart and ask, is this right? And that helps to get out of that rational, logical, like it's not going to work. The monkey reptile part of the brain and down into your heart, into that inner knowing. We have had many clients share with us that they had a strong, intuitive pull to work with us inside the ending body.
00:36:33:22 - 00:36:45:15
Filly
Been out method. Some have even said that was spiritually lit. They said a prayer and like the next day or the next minute, it's like, whoa. Facebook ad for exactly what I've been looking for.
00:36:45:17 - 00:37:06:04
Chris
Do you know I've actually got a similar sort of thing for this? I just want to share the screen for a second. For those of you who are on YouTube watching this, this is our get into flow model. This is very similar to other other flow models that are out there. Me high six sent me high. Came out with this model of flow.
00:37:06:04 - 00:37:27:18
Chris
This is an adaptation. My friend and mentor and coach Kylie Ryan, has a very similar model to this. We we've changed words. They all start with this. To get into flow, we found some people are in flounder. They really just feel like they're not happy. They're not finding pleasure. They're not moving forward. They're not not living the life that they want, and they're not accessing the inner strength.
00:37:27:18 - 00:37:55:11
Chris
So for the for people who who are down, down either in force or flounder, they're not doing what they need to do or they're not getting what they want to get or they're trying to force it. They've got to start accessing that inner strength and and really feel into, choices and decisions. And so what my first port of call is for when someone is in flounder or force is to feel good.
00:37:55:13 - 00:38:24:20
Chris
And sometimes that looks like making decisions that feel good but maybe aren't, healthy. They're not the best decisions, but they're intuitive, and they're all about listening to yourself and getting into a positive state. For example, having some wonderful ice cream. I've got a client recently who really started to listen to herself. And if you're listening, you know who you are.
00:38:24:22 - 00:38:49:13
Chris
And I love you and you're wonderful. And you had some ice cream recently, and I celebrate you and that wonderful choice because for the longest time, you weren't listening to yourself, and you're putting off making decisions and then look at you, you you went from, flounder or force and you started to, to really pay attention to your, your inner inner intuition and listen to your needs.
00:38:49:15 - 00:39:17:02
Chris
And that is awesome. Now, fantasy is the quadrant where she got to, which isn't, you know, optimal. So instead of trying to suppress the the intuition and the inner strength and not having the ice cream, now start training that muscle that you just accessed, start training it instead of trying to, suppress the intuition. Now start getting, better decisions.
00:39:17:02 - 00:39:25:20
Chris
So instead of having the ice cream, maybe it's, homemade, organic or, blah, blah, blah pan out or even what you made for Father's Day. The.
00:39:26:00 - 00:39:33:07
Filly
Yes, just frozen frozen bananas with coconut sugar and coconut cream. So yummy. And the peanuts.
00:39:33:07 - 00:39:56:11
Chris
So yummy I loved it. So anyway, so that that I think the first port of call is gets into yourself and connect with your intuition and your inner strength. And that's going to look like making decisions and then start training after you got that, that activated that muscle activated. Now get better at making healthier decision. That's what flow looks like.
00:39:56:11 - 00:39:59:07
Chris
Oh, my hand went into the other.
00:39:59:09 - 00:39:59:11
Filly
That.
00:39:59:11 - 00:40:00:00
Chris
Makes sense.
00:40:00:04 - 00:40:23:16
Filly
Yeah. And sometimes it doesn't lead to immediate results. Like, we had a client sign up to our program last intake, which would have been. When was that? May. And she was someone who was just like, oh, this is like I'm having an intuitive pulled to this. She kept getting emotional about it, and she just knew in her heart that this was going to be something that would help her.
00:40:23:18 - 00:40:24:21
Filly
Now, she was a super.
00:40:24:21 - 00:40:26:00
Filly
Slow.
00:40:26:02 - 00:41:02:19
Filly
Action taker because she had a lot of subconscious blocks around putting herself first to work on herself and in herself. She was running the pattern of a lot of people placing over responsibility and just felt really guilty doing anything for herself. And this went on for a couple of months. And then last session that I had with her, which was a one on one session, we did some parts work and really spoke to the part that was just like the deepest part of her that wants the best for her, the one that was yearning, desiring for this like it felt like an intuitive pool.
00:41:02:19 - 00:41:24:10
Filly
And then this other part that was saying, yeah, but, you can if you like. There's so much guilt when I put myself first. And so I keep people pleasing and doing things for other people anyway. Oh, sorry. No, it wasn't the last. It was a second, last second session. Anyway, whenever it was, I just caught up with her recently and this is a month after we did the process together.
00:41:24:11 - 00:41:29:05
Filly
I'm really unpacked it and really shifted some unconscious blockages.
00:41:29:07 - 00:41:32:19
Filly
In one month, her life has changed.
00:41:32:21 - 00:41:41:10
Filly
Like literally she said, whatever happened in our last session, it has become life changing. And like she's had.
00:41:41:10 - 00:41:47:17
Filly
Dramatic changes in how she feels about herself in, in, in her behavioural patterns.
00:41:47:19 - 00:41:48:02
Filly
Even.
00:41:48:02 - 00:41:53:11
Filly
In her energy level, she's feeling lighter. Her mental health is so much better.
00:41:53:12 - 00:41:55:09
Filly
Like insane. So when you.
00:41:55:09 - 00:41:58:08
Filly
Listen to yourself, only good.
00:41:58:08 - 00:42:11:12
Filly
Things can happen. Amazing, amazing. Okay. Number two so future self align. So this will help you access your inner strength, your inner knowing when.
00:42:11:12 - 00:42:13:03
Filly
You imagine.
00:42:13:03 - 00:42:29:17
Filly
Who you want to be. So who is this healed version of yourself? This is a powerful brain. Rewind rewiring technique that we work with our clients on. And it can also help you make decisions, in a confident, knowing way. So when you can get in touch with.
00:42:29:19 - 00:42:30:04
Filly
Who.
00:42:30:04 - 00:42:43:00
Filly
Your future self is, what does she feel and hear and say and know? And what does he or she want and how do they act? Then you can make line decisions based on.
00:42:43:00 - 00:42:44:12
Filly
Your future huge.
00:42:44:15 - 00:43:06:06
Filly
And vibrant self. So a great little like just question to ask yourself in the moment if you're feeling this analysis paralysis is what would the version of me who's already healed or successful or free choose right now and then? Simple as that. Choose that even if it stretches you, because it will.
00:43:06:08 - 00:43:09:04
Filly
00:43:09:06 - 00:43:11:02
Filly
I had an it.
00:43:11:04 - 00:43:24:07
Filly
I'm going to a beautiful retreat in October that one of our past clients is putting on, which is just like a full circle moment. It's so wonderful. But I before I chose to book into that, and it.
00:43:24:08 - 00:43:24:21
Filly
Was literally.
00:43:24:21 - 00:43:41:16
Filly
Like the day before or maybe a few days before, I was just getting, clear on, like, what do I want? What's my dream outcome? What are the things that I desire? And in my heart of hearts, I just wanted more retreat experiences, but not kind of like fluffy ones or not kind of like business strategy ones.
00:43:41:16 - 00:44:01:17
Filly
I wanted a retreat that was just like going to move my soul and then literally the next day, email sent me an email, it was really to just say, hey, would you mind sharing the retreat with your people? And I'm like, sure. And I've just put in because literally yesterday, my I know that my future self wants this.
00:44:01:19 - 00:44:12:06
Filly
And so I, I booked in and I don't think I even asked your permission for that or I don't think I even run it by you're just like, hey, I'm going to go crazy hinterlands.
00:44:12:09 - 00:44:12:21
Chris
And our lake.
00:44:12:22 - 00:44:13:07
Filly
Valley.
00:44:13:07 - 00:44:13:18
Filly
It was.
00:44:13:18 - 00:44:15:14
Chris
I remember when he told me I was like, oh, cool.
00:44:15:16 - 00:44:15:22
Filly
Yeah.
00:44:16:02 - 00:44:17:09
Filly
I was like, yeah, it is cool.
00:44:17:14 - 00:44:22:01
Chris
You're like, yeah, it is. So I don't like it. Sounds amazing.
00:44:22:04 - 00:44:24:05
Filly
Yeah, yeah. Now what will.
00:44:24:05 - 00:44:32:12
Filly
Happen is, the first time or times you practice choosing what your future self will choose, you kind of have a bit of a freak out moment.
00:44:32:14 - 00:44:33:21
Filly
Highly likely because.
00:44:33:21 - 00:44:41:05
Filly
Your nervous system and brain hates change. When that happens, though, like, a freak out moment will be all of a sudden it's like.
00:44:41:07 - 00:44:44:03
Filly
Oh no, I don't know if I've made the right decision.
00:44:44:05 - 00:44:46:21
Chris
Runaway runaway, runaway bride.
00:44:46:23 - 00:45:11:16
Filly
If that happens, it's not a sign that you've made the wrong decision. Is just your neurology freak having a little freak out. So take a deep breath. Come back to the body. Imagine your head dropping down into your heart and into your inner knowing it's like. And just reminding yourself that I've made an aligned choice here. Okay. Number three owning the choice fully.
00:45:11:17 - 00:45:45:07
Filly
So which is really a follow on from what I just said. So if you've made a decision based on your inner knowing and your future aligned self, now it's time to go all in. And I mean short and sweet. Just go along. And by going all in, it also means you're fully giving up the victim card, especially when things get tough or when you're not getting the results straight away, or the thing that you chose to do isn't quite, you know, especially something like the ending body burn out method, which is a transformative process.
00:45:45:07 - 00:45:48:06
Filly
You're not going to, in one day automatically.
00:45:48:06 - 00:45:49:23
Filly
Have a, you know.
00:45:49:23 - 00:46:00:21
Filly
A miracle healing. Although we did have a client sign up, I don't know, it was like maybe about 6 or 8 months ago. He literally after she said yes and signed up to the program.
00:46:00:23 - 00:46:01:15
Filly
For.
00:46:01:17 - 00:46:06:04
Filly
Her, she had a reduction of inflammation levels by 50%.
00:46:06:06 - 00:46:06:20
Chris
Wow.
00:46:06:22 - 00:46:26:11
Filly
She's actually shared her story. So that's Amanda's story if you want to search that on our podcast. Amazing. But someone else who just had a miraculous healing experience was Linda, who also shared her story on our podcast. That's episode 87. She read she found my book in a health food store. She read it in a day.
00:46:26:13 - 00:46:30:09
Filly
She signed up the next day. Luckily the doors were open, so everything.
00:46:30:09 - 00:46:34:19
Filly
Was all working in her favour and she literally just as.
00:46:34:19 - 00:46:55:11
Filly
She read the book, she's like, this is me, this is me, this is me. And I think that this is going to work. Actually, think wasn't even in her vocabulary. She believed that this would work. So she owned, made a choice, owned her decision, went all in and literally within three months, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, health anxiety, food sensitivities.
00:46:55:11 - 00:47:00:18
Filly
Tonight as chronic inflammation all disappeared.
00:47:00:20 - 00:47:01:14
Filly
So that's what.
00:47:01:14 - 00:47:09:19
Filly
Happens when you listen to yourself to the deepest part of you that wants the best for you. Only good things are going to happen then.
00:47:09:21 - 00:47:28:14
Chris
And I think that's the that's what I was talking about before as well, is when you when you really listen to yourself, you lean into it. It feels good. And then you'll get better. You'll get better at making better decisions. And I think that's what what leads us to the next bit is at the start, it's a little bit messy.
00:47:28:14 - 00:47:30:19
Chris
It's not. It's not dialled in just yet.
00:47:30:20 - 00:47:54:06
Filly
Yes. And number four is let it be messy. And this is basically the opposite of perfectionism. So if you're running that pattern of, like all or nothing, go to get it right, got to do all the steps perfectly so I can get the result. Again. Perfectionism is going to, weaken your inner strength. And it's a huge reason why people get stuck in their decision making and going offline.
00:47:54:06 - 00:47:58:22
Filly
So when you can just start practising, letting it be messy.
00:47:59:00 - 00:48:00:02
Filly
Even before you.
00:48:00:02 - 00:48:22:18
Filly
Make a decision, it's going to quiet down that amygdala, part of the brain that gets stuck in analysis paralysis of a paralysis of what if I get it wrong? What if I choose the wrong thing? Or what if I do this thing but I can't do it right? It's like, hey, just be on the start. Being honest with yourself and saying you probably won't get it right the first time.
00:48:22:20 - 00:48:35:02
Filly
There's lots of people, you start working through a method and they're like messily, organically, spirally trying things, failing, trying again, failing. Failing is not failure.
00:48:35:04 - 00:48:40:01
Filly
It's just like you haven't quite got it yet. It's just feedback.
00:48:40:03 - 00:48:42:18
Filly
So when you can be messy.
00:48:42:20 - 00:48:49:21
Filly
When you start practising being messy, imperfect, make mistakes, try again. That's all.
00:48:49:21 - 00:48:50:10
Filly
Part of.
00:48:50:10 - 00:48:58:12
Filly
Healing and it's actually very necessary. And if you stuff up or you don't get it right the first time, it doesn't mean that you're no good.
00:48:58:12 - 00:48:59:20
Filly
It just it's just part.
00:48:59:20 - 00:49:22:16
Filly
Of the process. So listening and being messy, one of my I mean, you just said it, like one of my very favourite affirmations when I was unravelling my own past perfectionism patterns was there is no value, only feedback. Probably said it to myself like maybe 20 times a day, but it worked because now I'm like, whatever.
00:49:22:17 - 00:49:26:21
Filly
Like if I stuff off, if I mess up cool, it's just a bit of feedback is fine.
00:49:26:23 - 00:49:29:09
Chris
Oh, beautiful creations come with a bit of mess.
00:49:29:13 - 00:49:30:08
Filly
Yeah.
00:49:30:10 - 00:49:31:04
Chris
Literally.
00:49:31:06 - 00:49:32:04
Filly
Okay.
00:49:32:05 - 00:49:35:08
Filly
Last one. So the last.
00:49:35:10 - 00:49:49:09
Filly
Point number five that will help you strengthen your inner strength and weakness. And this is probably one of my favourite ones. Because I didn't used to believe this. But number five is there is no wasted time or money.
00:49:49:12 - 00:49:50:09
Chris
Boom.
00:49:50:11 - 00:49:50:23
Filly
Yeah.
00:49:51:01 - 00:49:53:12
Chris
So this is bet on a t shirt, baby.
00:49:53:14 - 00:49:54:15
Filly
This is really.
00:49:54:15 - 00:50:22:20
Filly
Powerful, especially if you are running a scarcity pattern around money or time. So there is no wasted time or money. So personally, for me, I ran a massive money scarcity in the past. It was probably the source of many of our relationship tensions. And it was a really like it was a big thing that was causing stress and burnout and physical symptoms to arise because I was so dysregulated about that.
00:50:22:20 - 00:50:37:11
Filly
And it was a massive sticking point for me to be able to make decisions, especially when it came to a financial investment. And I'm talking about even like choosing to pay for a $100 course or a $10,000 one on one program.
00:50:37:14 - 00:50:45:19
Filly
Didn't really matter how much or how little it was, it was still like, how am I going to make the right choice? $100? Oh, I didn't know. What if, what if, what.
00:50:45:19 - 00:51:05:17
Filly
If I just waste my money? Why don't you start by the thing and it doesn't work? Or I can't do it. Or what was promised to me isn't given that I've wasted all that money. You might resonate with that. Maybe you might resonate more with time. Maybe time might be a bigger sticking point for you. Like, what if it doesn't work?
00:51:05:17 - 00:51:21:13
Filly
Then I've wasted all this time, the last six months or the last nine, three weeks of the last 12 months. It's all just a waste of time. When I could have done something else and got the result over there. So from someone who used to run this pattern.
00:51:21:15 - 00:51:26:11
Filly
Let me tell you, and also someone who started.
00:51:26:11 - 00:52:00:00
Filly
Trying to resolve her health issues back in my 20s. I'm now 41 years old. So 20 years of experience and investing a bucketload of time and money into healing and health and vibrancy. And like now I spend more money on like personal development and just like going the next level, there is no wasted time or money. And I can and I do know and I do remember in the past I felt like there were things that I wasted my money or my time on, but now, in hindsight, I can look back and hand on heart.
00:52:00:02 - 00:52:01:07
Filly
Hand on hand on a.
00:52:01:07 - 00:52:13:21
Filly
Hot day when not a waste at all because they were the stepping stones that led me to having the results that I now have. They taught me so many things about what I want, but about what.
00:52:13:21 - 00:52:16:12
Filly
Wasn't working or what I didn't want.
00:52:16:14 - 00:52:22:18
Filly
But most of all, they taught me a lot about what was important. It taught me a lot about myself.
00:52:22:23 - 00:52:24:01
Chris
Yeah.
00:52:24:03 - 00:52:28:02
Filly
So there never is wasted time or money.
00:52:28:02 - 00:52:50:04
Chris
Well, the opposite of being a victim is a victor. And when you're a victor, you, it life happens for you. You use it. You use the resources, in this, in this arena that we are all in, in life. You know, when dirt gets kicked up in your face, you use the dirt, you use it, you use the stuff, you use all the tools at your advantage.
00:52:50:04 - 00:53:09:21
Chris
You don't need anything. You already have everything inside of you that you need. And so these that includes experiences. So anything that you have experience, anything you have participated in, everything that you've purchased, everything that you've you've done it all giants. And you're always standing on the shoulders of giants. You're always great. You're always moving forwards. Life happens for you.
00:53:10:00 - 00:53:10:14
Chris
Yeah.
00:53:10:16 - 00:53:15:01
Filly
Yeah. Love it. Okay. Sorry.
00:53:15:03 - 00:53:20:15
Filly
That's it. If you want some more support.
00:53:20:17 - 00:53:46:14
Filly
More guidance in terms of, breaking through doubts, rewiring your brain, we do have some free events, this week, if you're listening to the podcast episode, on the day that it's published. So this week, we've got our free event, Rewire Your Brain to Heal Body Burn Up. That's happening on 23rd, 24th, and 25th at 12 p.m. AEST.
00:53:46:16 - 00:54:08:01
Filly
So come along to that if you would love to. It's a great way of just experiencing how Chris and I work with our clients inside our ending body burn out method as well. So essentially every day we take you through the three main steps in our method that help our clients to and their body burn out. And you get like so much practical coaching.
00:54:08:01 - 00:54:24:22
Filly
And we'll take you through some somatic practices as well in those sessions, which is always lovely. And then on Monday the 29th of September, we also have a breakthrough. Your five healing blocks. I think I've stuffed that title up.
00:54:25:00 - 00:54:29:13
Chris
But, yeah, for breakthrough. Five healing blocks to end your body burn out.
00:54:29:13 - 00:54:53:08
Filly
Yeah, something like that. But essentially we will go deeper on today's topic where we'll, help you break through five of the most common blocks that stop people from moving forward in their healing journey. That is based on working with thousands of clients and over almost 30 plus 30 years of combined, experience in the health industry.
00:54:53:08 - 00:54:57:05
Chris
It'll really build on what we've been talking about today, that that workshop for sure.
00:54:57:05 - 00:54:58:01
Filly
Yeah.
00:54:58:03 - 00:55:03:02
Filly
And if you would love to work with us one on one.
00:55:03:04 - 00:55:24:16
Filly
Our ending body burnout method is open now. Doors do close on the 30th of September, so we do only have doors open for a week. There are limited spaces. There's two options for working with us inside the program. So there's a private one on one, and then there's a semi-private. Both of those do include one on one coaching consulting support.
00:55:24:18 - 00:55:29:13
Filly
The private 181 includes more. So we have very limited space.
00:55:29:16 - 00:55:35:18
Chris
And that's not a sales pitch. We only have limited spaces.
00:55:35:18 - 00:55:46:07
Filly
Yeah. Guys. Look, this number might change because our doors would have been open to our waitlist before this podcast, releases. But I think I worked out we could only take in about.
00:55:46:07 - 00:55:51:06
Filly
25, 27 people, and most of the.
00:55:51:06 - 00:56:04:20
Filly
Time, 50 to 75% of people join up during the early bird waitlist period. Yeah. Which has happened before this episode drops. So if you are a keen Bain, just go down to the show notes and you can find all those links.
00:56:04:21 - 00:56:18:21
Chris
We, get into it, I love it. All right, guys, well, thank you so much for joining us. Thank you for being here with us. We look forward to seeing you soon.
00:56:18:23 - 00:56:20:14
Filly
Thank you so much for listening.
00:56:20:14 - 00:56:23:03
Filly
We so appreciate you. If you'd.
00:56:23:03 - 00:56:24:21
Filly
Like to give us extra smiles.
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Filly
Drop us a review and.
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Filly
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00:56:29:03 - 00:57:01:07
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about our group or one on one ending Body burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
00:57:01:09 - 00:57:01:15
Chris
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