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Hello and welcome to the ending Body Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body, get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Chris
Welcome to this episode of The Body Burnout Show. Phil and I are going to be ripping Band-Aids off today. We're going to be ripping off the labels, disconnecting ourselves with pre-existing labels that have been plonked on us. We're going to be talking about chronic illness labels and breaking free. You are not your diagnosis.
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Filly
Yeah. I'm really excited about this because it's the norm attaching to labels. But it's actually keeping a lot of people stuck. So we're doing this podcast episode as a little teaser for our free live coaching event called Rewire the Brain to Heal body burn out. And part of rewiring the brain is actually learning how to disengage or detach from these chronic illness labels that can keep us sick.
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Filly
So if you would like, if you really resonate with today's episode and you want to dive deeper into how to rewire your brain to heal body burnout, just head down to the show notes and you can join our event that's happening in September. And also, this is the deep work that we do with our clients inside our ending body burn out method.
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Filly
So yes, you know, we're running lab tests. Yes, we're creating protocols. Yes, we're fast tracking healing by supporting the physical body. But you will not heal unless you unravel yourself from a chronic illness identity. And this is this is the thing that is missing in healthcare. So if you would love to dive deep into working with us to heal your body, burn out in your body, burn out doors, do open in two weeks, which is super exciting because we only open doors three times a year.
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Filly
You can go down to the Shownotes join the waitlist. If you're on the waitlist, it does mean that you do get first dibs on a spot. So we, our program includes one on one consults and coaching. So we do have to cap the amount of people that we allow into the program so we can serve you.
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Filly
So you get first dibs. Plus, you also get access to exclusive waitlist, early bed bonuses if you join up in the waitlist period or the early bed period, which is two days before the doors open to the rest of the public. And those bonuses are worth over $500. That's definitely worth jumping onto the waitlist. To score those.
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Chris
Yeah. You know, okay, so have you ever been to a conference? This is an intense show. Notes. I'm just on this. Have you ever been to a conference where you have to wear a nametag? Yes. Like, my name is Philippa. My name is Chris. Imagine if you walked into one of those things and you're just like, I am unable to heal because I am a chronic.
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Chris
This, that or the other, ill person. And, and that's really what we're talking about today is and it's like you rock up to the game of life, to the Conference of life, and you've been allocated, you've been provided a diagnostic name tag. And it's really unhelpful to to continue to wear those name tags. Now there are a couple of name tags that or labels that we're not going to touch today.
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Chris
We won't talk about those, but, but the ones that we are going to talk about, it's like ripping it off and having having something more empowering.
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Filly
Yeah. Yeah. So the so let's give you some examples of what we're talking about with these labels. And essentially the labels that are limiting a labels that either aren't true or you have a thing but it's curable. You, you weren't born with it. You don't have to live with it for the rest of your life. You've developed it over time it can be resolved.
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Filly
And so when we attach onto certain labels as if it's truth, as if it is who we are, it's our name tag. It will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You continue to perpetuate that. So some examples would be, things like, I'm not a good sleeper. I have anxiety, I have, Hashimoto's, I have chronic fatigue, I have endometriosis, so it's kind of like, you know, these diseases or conditions or patterns of ill health when you're using the word I am, I have it is a sign that you have an unconscious identity, attachment to that.
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Filly
Now even things and this is where things get a bit interesting is when you enter the functional medicine space, it's like, so I have endometriosis, but I want to find out what body system imbalance is actually leading to that in the first place, which we have our clients with. But if you start attaching on to again, another diagnosis is if it is truth, as if it is who you are.
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Filly
I have Sibo, I have adrenal fatigue, I have perimenopausal symptoms, whatever it is. It sounds really subtle and it might sound insignificant, but it it is wiring the brain to create more of that chronic illness. And those symptoms that are attached to it. And it can be one of the biggest blocks to healing.
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Chris
Okay, I've got something about this. So so it is it's nice. It feels nice to be understood by anyone you walk down the street in, say, Bali, or we jump into a into a grab in Bali and, and I start talking in Indonesian to, to the grab drivers and their face lights up. They understood. They they feel like, I'm hearing them and the words that they say, I'm madly punching into ChatGPT to to understand them, that they feel good.
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Chris
Right. And so when we go through testing, even with our clients, through functional medicine labs, or you go to the doctor and you get a diagnostic and it's like, hey, here's your name tag, here's your label. It does feel really nice to be understood.
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Filly
And I think it like it can be empowering. So we're not saying so I'm not kind of getting lab test results back and saying, like, the graph on your Sibo results is, showing that, I don't know, like, I'm not walking or tiptoeing around the fact that Sibo is present in the small intestines. We're still using that language.
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Filly
But what? And so it can be empowering from that point of view, because it can suddenly give you some answers. It's like, oh, okay. So the doctor said I had IBS, but all they gave me was a low Fodmap diet and that didn't help. And then that's where it becomes confusing and disempowering and it's like, well, I don't know where to go next.
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Filly
Then you start, you know, doing the functional labs. It's like, 50% of cases, have an underlying CMO presentation. It's like, oh, okay, cool. I have CB and so I can feel good because it gives you more answers and it also gives you more avenues for healing. Like now we can start personalising the healing for you. So we're not saying that labels are bad, it's just that they have a use by date.
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Filly
And when you go past the use by date, it actually prevents you from healing rather than gives you more avenues for healing.
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Chris
Boom. Everything's okay till it's not. Yeah.
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Filly
Just a couple of other labels too. So these ones are more and I hear these so many times in any of your concerts. So when someone first starts working with us and they're having a connect the dots initial consult with me. I'm such a complex case. I'm the difficult one. I'm a write off. So they're like just other labels that I would encourage you to be aware of.
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Filly
If you're noticing that you're thanking them or you're saying them out loud, and there's very good reason why people start developing those labels, which will break down. Okay. Sorry. So what's going on beneath the surface from a neuro neuroscience brain wiring point of view? That leads to this attachment to labels and causes it to become an unconscious identity.
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Filly
And so your brain is constantly trying to make sense of who you are and how you exist in the world. And this starts right back in infancy and it continues as an adult. So a child before the age of seven, little sponges trying to like, create their own identity, trying to make sense of who they are and how they exist in the world.
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Filly
And this continues until the day we die, because we're sense making creatures. So without an identity in the human body, in the human brain, in the human psyche, unconscious mind, there's chaos and uncertainty. So and so. This is why we try and make sense of who we are at an identity based level. Now, unfortunately, there's a tendency when you're burnt out, you're experiencing chronic ill health that you start attaching on to chronic illness labels and begin to identify to them, because, as Chris brought up before, it can feel good and it can feel empowering and it can give you answers and it can make sense of the mess of the signals that are coming
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Filly
from your body. And so so this is why we, we can start attaching onto these labels and they become who we are. And you identify with them because we're sense making creatures. Then we need to make sense of what's going on in our body, in our mind, in our life, in our reality. So anytime you hear yourself thinking or saying, I am or I have, you know, well, I know, and maybe you're now learning and you can choose to know this if you think it's helpful that there is an attachment to the label.
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Filly
And, and at some point, at some point, this label might have felt like a nice, warm, fluffy jacket. I actually interviewed Aaron Holt, the functional nutritionist, on our podcast. I think it was maybe a year or two ago. And so this, this little metaphor is from here, and I just love it so much. So, so it can feel like this nice warm jacket, it's like I've got answers.
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Filly
I know what's going on now. I've got more avenues for healing, more pathways that are personalised to me, but at some point it become can become a two tight jacket and at some point it will keep you stuck. And at some point, in order to continue your healing journey to be free of your health symptoms chronic illness, you do need to take the jacket off.
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Filly
So it's super normal. I don't want you to feel like, oh my gosh, I'm saying this all the time I have, I am, I'm too complex, blah blah blah blah blah. It's really normal. Like, this is the norm in human nature that we attach onto these labels, especially if you've had chronic symptoms. And it's rife in the medical and health industry.
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Filly
And in fact, the medical system and many health practitioners feed this as well. So it's like, oh, this is what you have on your lab test. You have Sibo, you have adrenal fatigue and that language can become a feedback loop and it can perpetuate and come from the medical system or the practitioner. So you're not broken, you're not weird.
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Filly
You're not the only one that this is happening to is just the way that human nature, the whole of human, the people in this world are trying to make sense of a mess. Are you going to say something?
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Chris
Yeah. So, this is the same with was talking about this off air, but, disc and Myers-Briggs. So you jump on to 16 personalities or whatever website, and you do your Myers-Briggs, or anagram or something like that. And I think, at that time that you do the test, you probably identify with one of those, those labels.
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Chris
But that doesn't have to be like those, those, those labels, those personalities don't have to be the the same personality you'll take with for the rest of your life. You can. Yeah, yeah. And there's that. Now come at me with lots of lots of opinions if you want to, but, it's the same sort of thing.
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Chris
And I see a lot of people saying, no, this doesn't suit my personality. And they don't grow. They just stay, you know, it's the same. It's the same sort of type of thing.
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Filly
Yeah. And I know in the past when I've done personality tests, I think especially like in our marriage, because we always ended up being complete opposite some personality tests. It is it was actually really helpful at the time because it's like, they reading my mind, this is who I am.
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Chris
I feel you feel understood, feel understood.
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Filly
They give you some strategies and techniques to like, like, lean into your strengths and different strategies to overcome the weaknesses of the patterns. But here's where it can become limiting, is that you don't have to continue those patterns for the rest of your life. You could actually change and transform in ten years later, you do the same personality test and you get something different.
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Filly
That's because of neuroscience or neuroplasticity. That's because our brain and our ability to change, in every way, physiologically, emotionally, spiritually, you can continue to evolve to for the rest of your life. You're not stuck with a pattern or a label. Another reason why why people, especially if you are in body burnout, you've got chronic health issues attach on to the chronic illness label is like an identity is because you have had a long string of trying to do the things, but not seeing results.
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Filly
So over time, again with sense making creatures. So if we choose to believe something about ourselves, our brain is looking for evidence. So over time, if you have tried but failed, you've tried, but you haven't got the results that you want. Your brain starts collecting a lot of evidence to concrete this identity of being broken, complex, difficult.
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Filly
Maybe my hormones is screwed. Maybe I just have to learn to live with it. Maybe I could never heal this sea. But, you know, whatever it is. And so. So this is based on past experience and evidence collecting, as well as to why you can then have a I am sick identity stuck in your unconscious mind because you've developed a lot of evidence over time.
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Filly
And now it's kind of like not stuck in your unconscious mind in terms of you can't let it go and it can get very hidden and very, very sticky unless you have the steps to unwind and rewire a new identity. It was actually very interesting. We had a client recently who, in her very first consult, join the ending body pan out method.
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Filly
In her very first consult, I, I lost track of the amount of time she shared her symptoms, her story, her case history, and then ended off with, I think I'm just a ride off. I'm just a ride off. And then always, like, getting my response back to, it's like, am I a ride off? Like, can you help me?
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Filly
And so I reflected back to her that like, not only have I heard you say that once, but it's now like ten plus times. So this is deeply embedded in your unconscious mind that this is, at the core, a core identity based belief. I'm a ride off now. It was very interesting. This actually isn't a happy news story, but early into her journey she had some, negative reactions to some supplements.
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Filly
Sometimes that happens. We just need to troubleshoot. We need to change up the plan. And she threw up her hands and quit early as opposed to, you know, leaning into coaching, leading into what's actually going on inside her body. Maybe even this I'm a ride off is actually causing you to feel like, I reacted to the supplements.
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Filly
Just another piece of evidence that I'm a write off. Not even these natural things can help me. Okay, goodbye. I'll just have to learn to live with it. So this stuff is, like, happening underneath the surface. But it is. It is dictating whether you will heal or not. And another reason, another reason why we get stuck with these labels, they get very sticky is social reinforcement.
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Filly
So if you have had chronic health issues for a long time, maybe like months, even years or even decades, people in your circle, can start referring to you as a certain type of person. Or maybe you're referring to yourself, about yourself to them as a certain type of person. So, for example, with your family or with your friends, they kind of just get to know you as the sick person, the one that can't always make it to the things, the one that, they have to tiptoe around their kitchen when they have you over at their house for dinner, and they have to make sure that there's no dairy, there's no onion,
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Filly
there's no salicylates. And so these social reinforcement, which often comes from love, it's like, oh, yeah, you've got some special needs. Okay. I want to make sure that, you know, I, you still feel loved and accepted here, but it can actually, again, do a feedback loop to the brain that, oh yeah, I am the sick person. I am the person.
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Filly
I am the difficult person. I am the complex case. I am the one with the gut issues. So that's a really big one.
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Chris
Or you find the forum, the forum, the form of friends, you know, like you get the diet, you get the diagnosis.
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Filly
That is going to be my top tips to start on wiring this that keep going. Yeah, yeah.
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Chris
Yeah. And you know, you like you find your you find your friend, you jump on the Google, talk to Google and, you know, I've got my I've got my new label where my, where are my fellow red labels. Where am I?
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Filly
Where's my where's my PCOS Facebook group with my people?
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Chris
Put your hands up okay. Yep. Oh, come over there. It's like in a conference. Like, you know, let's like all the people who speak your language. And you go hang out with those people. It's, it's way easier to be understood when you hang out with people who speak that same sort of languages. Yeah.
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Filly
And some of those communities can be really helpful, super helpful. Like I mean we have we have a program called Ending Body Burnout method. Right. You know, people are going to use that language because people can put their hand up and say, I am so burnt out and my body is screaming at me. But the moment that we start healing, we're starting to unravel these labels, these beliefs that you have about your body.
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Filly
So yes, it can be helpful because you're with like minded people, but there's a lot of toxic communities that come across as, you know, a lot of health industry, like even natural health industry communities that will perpetuate the chronic illness that you have because they're trying to really only solve things that are surface top level, but not at an identity based level.
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
And there's, you know, if it's low vibe always me victim mentality. I just want to be here so I can be heard about how crappy I feel. And people love and accept me and tell me it's okay. You know how I feel again. Like, lovely. We're social human beings, so we want to feel that. But is it now becoming a too tight jacket?
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Filly
Do you need now need to, like, take off that jacket so you can start looking for new possibilities and new ways of healing?
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Chris
We we talk about identity so much within the body burnout method. We talk about identity. Identity is so powerful when you when you can identify as, as some sort of way or some sort of thing, it's so powerful. It literally changes, the cells in your biology. It changes so much. And so that's where we're saying this is the paradox of identity.
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Chris
It's ripping one label off so that you can heal, and attaching another one.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
Yeah. Identity is so powerful. It's important.
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Filly
Yeah. And there's a really cool model that we do use with our clients. It's called the deluxe neurological level model. And if we apply this model into a healing space, it's very interesting. So basically, I don't know if you've got a picture while I'm talking about it's pull up on, I.
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Chris
Can find.
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Filly
You. So essentially it's a pyramid. And there's several layers in this model. On the bottom of the pyramid is the environment, followed by behaviour, followed by capabilities or skills, followed by beliefs and values, followed by identity, followed by purpose. And so these, all these levels need to be aligned and in place in order for you to, to get the thing that you want to become the person that you want to be.
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Filly
And so if we're talking about healing body burnout, ending body burnout, all of these things need to be in alignment in order to end your body burnout. Now moving up the levels has been shown to create more powerful and lasting change. So yes, it's important to make sure your environment is dialled in and your behavioural patterns support, healing and you know, the habits that you need to acquire.
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Filly
But when you tap into healing and identity and a belief level and even like really attaching onto your bigger purpose of why you're here on this planet, healing fast tracks big time. And so we're really helping our clients to really tap into this, this higher level of healing, while also making sure that the other layers are dialled in as well.
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Filly
Unfortunately, most people, when they come to try and heal themselves, heal their body, whether it's from, yes, some sort of chronic illness body burn out, they will only tap into the bottom layers of the pyramid. So often people will only work on the environment, which includes the physical body, like the physical body. Is your environment. Externally it might be like, Will I get rid of toxins in my environment as well?
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Filly
And so then I'm going to be able to heal and maybe like it did, show the processed foods in my kitchen cupboards, and then I'm going to be able to heal. And most people will also work on behaviour capabilities, skills, knowledge. So it's like, okay, I've been given a treatment protocol. So I need to change my behaviour so I can find a routine where I can take my supplements and eat the food and in my sleep hygiene, and I need to know some things so, you know, they get a bit of education.
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Filly
And these things are helpful and they, they are essential. But it is the reason or another major reason why people don't fully heal or why it's not long lasting, because they're not tapping into the higher levels of the neurological levels that identity, the beliefs, which are essentially set in your unconscious mind. And so then therefore, you might feel a bit better or you might be able to stick to it for a while, but if unconsciously, it's like, yeah, but we're broken.
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Filly
Yeah, but we have chronic fatigue. Yeah, but we're too complex. Yeah, but, you know, things never work for us. Then at some point, what you believe unconsciously at an identity level is going to become the reality. Sorry. Symptoms start popping up again. Or you lose motivation and you lose the plot, and you can't do the things that you are forcing yourself to do anymore.
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Chris
This could be too late. But anyway, that's a pyramid.
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Filly
So anyone who is on watching this on YouTube, there's the pyramid is, if you're watching it, listening to this on a podcast audio, you could also just Google neurological levels. Yeah.
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Chris
Yep. Or sometimes just called delete logical levels.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Chris
Yeah.
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Filly
And so yeah. So the really and often this is just because people aren't aware that you need to healing all these layers and levels. And the sad thing is you could be putting in so much awesome work at your, with your physical body and changing your behaviour patterns. But then get frustrated why you're not getting that deep true healing and transformation.
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Filly
So this is this is a great model.
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Filly
Okay. Let's chat about some rewiring. Like how do we rewire. How do we unravel? Detach. Disengage from these identity based beliefs around chronic labels.
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Chris
We get know you got one on you got to be aware.
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Filly
Awareness big one. Always going to be the same thing.
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Chris
Everything always starts with awareness. Most of our our transcending models, our growth models will have some sort of an awareness piece at the start. So recognise your health condition as an identity, as a crucial first step. So.
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Filly
Yeah. Yeah. So get to know that and I, I gave a couple of little clues early on. So if you're finding yourself thinking or saying I am X condition or limiting belief or I have this is a sign that there's an unconscious identity attachment. And language is the purest form of knowing. So if you say it once, it might just be a little bit of this, you know, just like, oh, I don't didn't actually mean that.
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Filly
But if it's a pattern. So if it's, like, far out now that I'm, I'm tuning into this and I'm becoming aware I say this a lot. This is definitely a pattern. So when there's patterns of language, language patterns, it's always going to show what's stored as truth. And I do that in like little rabbit ease ones that could quotation marks.
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Filly
Yeah. When the patterns show up, this is going to reveal what you believe to be true in your unconscious mind language, behaviour. Nevertheless, then the next step and like the next two steps are really we don't have the scope to talk about this on the podcast today. But I do want you to want to leave you with some really actionable, tangible things that you could implement straight away.
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Filly
But the next two steps are super important. So get to the root what we call the root cause belief. What's the root root cause belief underneath this attachment to brokenness or, chronic illness? The things that are showing up in your behaviour patterns, your thought patterns that are actually taking you away from healing rather than moving you towards, and when you can get to that deepest root.
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Filly
And this is where we're going beyond just saying I have Sibo or like I am a difficult case, there's going to be something even deeper, something really, really core at an identity level, which is often some sort of I am, not enoughness, I am weak, I am incapable, I am unlovable. I mean, we've talked a lot about this on our podcast in previous podcast episodes, so that's what we're talking about in terms of getting to this deep root belief and really identifying when was the first time you accused yourself of that?
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Filly
So that's yeah. Number two, getting to that. And then mission number one is changing that root. And then all these other branch beliefs, stories, attachments will start to just disintegrate because the foundation is no longer there. And we will be diving into the deepest root root cause belief in day two of rewire your brain. And we're actually going to take you through some coaching steps as well.
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Filly
So if you would like to attend that free coaching week, just jump down to the show notes and you can, register. And then next step is and again, this is what we do very thoroughly, robustly with our clients inside the ending body burn out method is all right. Now it's time to rewrite, rewrite, reimagine, rewire not just the beliefs, but also the past events.
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Filly
That are holding those beliefs in place. So there's going to be a bunch of memories. They might be traumatic. Often what we find is that they're traumatic to the little child that experienced them, but they're what we would consider little traumas, things that happen to most children. But for whatever reason, it's got stuck in your unconscious mind because you had a lot of charged emotion around that time.
00:29:52:20 - 00:30:22:03
Filly
So I really wanted to, yeah, rewire, rewrite, rewire, reimagine past distressing events, that have emotional charge and release those and it's often in a shop has stuck emotion and even physiological symptoms in the body. And the beauty of what happens as we do this is that you're instantly starting to rebuild trust and safety with yourself again, which is just going to mean that the default is
00:30:22:04 - 00:30:49:06
Filly
Like I am a strong person, I am, I am powerful, I am, I am someone who can heal. I'm not that condition. I'm not that label because this is who I am and it's who I've always been. I just forgot I just had to take off those coat layers to find out who I am again. Anything else you want to add to that?
00:30:49:08 - 00:30:59:03
Chris
I like, as you're saying, all the things. Something that I was thinking about once. It was like, what were they rewire? Blah, blah blah.
00:30:59:04 - 00:31:00:18
Filly
Rewrite, reimagine.
00:31:00:18 - 00:31:22:11
Chris
Reimagine, not regurgitate the events of the past and, you know, eat it all up again. It's not that's not what we're we're making you do in this in this, rewire thing. It's not about regurgitating the past events, and the same old story so that you can eat it all up a lie, and, you know, that can.
00:31:22:16 - 00:31:24:03
Filly
Continue the cycle. Yeah.
00:31:24:05 - 00:31:34:05
Chris
Gross. Not just like if you regurgitated something up in night food. It's gross. Yuck. Now we know about that. Rewire. Rewrite.
00:31:34:07 - 00:32:03:00
Filly
Yeah. And I mean, at the end of the day, you were born without these beliefs, so why so even just holding on to that truth. I'm looking up at the ceiling right now because I'm like, you know, maybe one day technology might get, sophisticated enough that they can look into newborn babies. Beliefs fit. Currently, what we know so far is that you're born a little sponge with us.
00:32:03:02 - 00:32:19:14
Filly
So you're returning back to who you are, which is clean slate, pure potential. And you can darn well create whatever patterns, whatever beliefs become whoever you want to be. And it's so possible. So possible.
00:32:19:15 - 00:32:21:16
Chris
Yeah, yeah.
00:32:21:18 - 00:32:43:06
Filly
Okay, so I wanted to, just so you have some really tangible steps to take away to maybe, you know, in the position to join the program, which does open in two weeks. Or maybe, you know, you want to try some things first, like, you know, just lean in. Does this work, does this, you know, did it and all these little questions that you might have.
00:32:43:08 - 00:33:06:17
Filly
So I'm going to take you through four steps is something that you can do, like as of today, and I'll use the example of anxiety. Sorry. So an attachment at an identity level would be I have anxiety. I am an anxious person. So when you hear yourself saying like I am, I have. That's your awareness piece.
00:33:06:17 - 00:33:08:20
Filly
And to start untangling from.
00:33:08:23 - 00:33:09:18
Chris
Untangling.
00:33:09:18 - 00:33:48:23
Filly
Untangling, untangling from the condition or the symptom, you can switch that to like I'm experiencing anxiety symptoms. So this isn't toxic positivity. You're not just pretending that your current reality isn't there, but you're starting to untangle yourself from the label and identity based. Oh, I am a person, a woman, a man experiencing some anxiety symptoms. And so already this starts to create more freedom because it helps the brain to to detach from you at an identity level.
00:33:49:01 - 00:34:19:23
Filly
And then the next step would be to make this even more powerful is start neutralising the symptom or the pain or the illness by naming it just as a sensation. So. So next step would be instead of just saying I'm experiencing anxiety symptoms, you could actually get more, specific in terms of what is the sensation that I'm currently experiencing right now that makes me feel like I'm having experiencing anxiety symptoms.
00:34:19:23 - 00:34:55:10
Filly
And this is like we teach our clients in our ending body pain out method program to start using the word sensation, because for a lot of people, that's really neutral. It's like a sensation where a symptom, because it's so prominent in the health industry and the chronic illness phase has a lot of negative connotations. So that might sound like, again, if I'm using anxiety as an example, I am experiencing a sensation in my chest right now because for some people, when they experience anxiety symptoms, it might feel like their chest is constricting, like they can't breathe properly.
00:34:55:12 - 00:35:15:05
Filly
So this starts to neutralise the part of the brain called the amygdala, which is the fear danger part of the brain. It's always looking and scanning for danger. So when it starts here, it's almost like a pattern interrupt. When it starts hearing you saying, I have it, I am experience a sensation in my chest. Right now. It's kind of like, oh, okay.
00:35:15:07 - 00:35:36:14
Filly
I don't really know what that means, but it doesn't sound very scary. I am experiencing a sensation in my chest right now. That could actually be a really good sensation. But it's, again, it's not toxic positivity. You're just diluting the the power of the language that you were using that was locking it in as an identity, as a fixed issue.
00:35:36:16 - 00:35:52:06
Chris
As opposed to, like you say, get hot palpitations, like I'm going to die or I am, I hurt in my, you know, I this sort of stuff. It's it's very limiting when you when you think like that.
00:35:52:08 - 00:36:21:01
Filly
Yeah. Yeah. Sad step. So even better than this. By better, I really just mean more effective. Like, really utilising what we know about the brain is, is start with swapping. So I am experiencing a sensation in my chest right now. When we use word swapping or in my coaching our clients to create their own, we're actually directing the brain towards what we want.
00:36:21:01 - 00:36:44:14
Filly
So an example would be my chest feels less calm right now. So again, you're still you're still experiencing what you're experiencing, you know, pretending that it's not there. But when you can start with something and say less calm. So you're wanting to find the word that helps you to feel what you want to feel instead of what you're currently feeling.
00:36:44:14 - 00:37:07:14
Filly
And add the word less as an example. Then again, the middle is just like so like calming down by this point. And what it actually does is your brain is starting to look for more of that. So it's like calm that attaches on to the descriptive word calm. Calm. Oh we're doing calm now okay okay. And we have so many clients and it was this was a huge process that I did as well.
00:37:07:15 - 00:37:35:23
Filly
Like to really switch off estimating tolerance and symptoms that I was getting from that. Sensations that. Yeah, when I started directing my brain towards what I did want to experience was still holding space for my current reality. Far out things fast tracked with healing. I was so cool. And then the fourth step. The last step, if you were to choose to, you know, go through this, is adding in some sort of somatic technique as well, so your body can feel safe.
00:37:35:23 - 00:38:00:07
Filly
So you can send a feedback loop from your body to your brain to say that I'm safe now. I'm safe now, and you don't need to send these, signals down to my body of danger. So somatic techniques might be, like having a breathing, accessing a safety anchor in your heart, and allowing your body to feel those emotions and sensations.
00:38:00:07 - 00:38:30:10
Filly
The safety and swaying. So anything that you can do where your body feels safe and regulated will help to fast track that. So hopefully those four steps, helpful. You could listen back to, to this section and just take your label, your condition, your symptom that you no longer want to have. And you could do the same thing for things like adrenal fatigue, chronic fatigue, autoimmunity, fibromyalgia, body pain, IBS, Sibo and run through the same thing.
00:38:30:12 - 00:38:41:15
Filly
Yeah. And I've got just to finish off a few little additional tips just to fast track this or tips. Put it on steroids for great transformation.
00:38:41:15 - 00:38:44:16
Chris
Steroids transformation.
00:38:44:18 - 00:39:10:09
Filly
So the more consistent you do this, the more consistently you can be aware of. When you're when you're saying, the thing or feeling the thing or thinking the identity based label, the more consistently you can, do the rewiring technique that I just mentioned you through, the faster you start detaching from it. So if you can only do it once a day or once a week, things will still start shifting, but it's going to be slower.
00:39:10:09 - 00:39:17:11
Filly
If you can catch yourself three times a day or maybe even ten times a day, you're going to heal and transform so much faster.
00:39:17:11 - 00:39:41:07
Chris
I've been I've been, noticing a lot of, success. This is in our show notes. This is 100 hours. It is a really good target. Get get yourself to 100 hours of of rewiring and or 100 hours of anything. And if you think about that, over the course of six months, that's about 15 to 20 minutes. Most if not every day of the week.
00:39:41:07 - 00:39:52:20
Chris
So, so 15, 20 minutes, most, if not every day of the week, you're doing some sort of reimagining, re rewiring type thing that's going to help you to accumulate 100 hours total over the course of six months.
00:39:52:20 - 00:40:09:10
Filly
Okay. So if you did this three times a day, then because the whole process, you know, it can be really quick, like it'll get a lot quicker five minutes, even if it was five minutes where at the end you're really like, you know, you're breathing is swaying. You're. Yeah. Using that word swapping three times a day. Set your alarm.
00:40:09:10 - 00:40:10:04
Chris
For five minutes.
00:40:10:04 - 00:40:10:13
Filly
Do it.
00:40:10:17 - 00:40:11:07
Chris
Yeah.
00:40:11:09 - 00:40:16:05
Filly
Yeah. Cool. And if you want to heal faster than six months, like, do it more.
00:40:16:07 - 00:40:28:04
Chris
Yeah, yeah. 5 to 5 times, three minutes a pace. You know, every every in between. Every appointment you have, you do something like that. Yeah. Yeah, it's super possible.
00:40:28:07 - 00:40:50:02
Filly
I love that. And you could also add in something like into your morning or night time routine where you're doing some sort of visualisation or imagination work, where you close your eyes and you really anchor into and remind yourself to focus through the day that you're going to practice this rewiring technique. Can you imagine yourself doing it and it being successful?
00:40:50:04 - 00:40:51:23
Filly
That will fast charge.
00:40:52:01 - 00:40:53:09
Chris
Fast charge.
00:40:53:09 - 00:40:54:16
Filly
Fast track.
00:40:54:18 - 00:40:57:07
Chris
Fast charging is is a good one.
00:40:57:10 - 00:41:19:19
Filly
Fast charge ahead. And two other additional tips. So one, ask health care providers. So whether it's a natural path function medicine practitioner or even a doctor, and also family and friends to stop referring to you as an illness. Oh, so give them. And this is where you need to be the coach for them and retrain them to treat you in a different way.
00:41:19:20 - 00:41:47:02
Filly
Give them the new language that will help them to assist you in rewiring. So I'll give you a really quick example. I had a pretty intense dairy allergy in the past, and I trained everyone, like my friends and my family, to not put dairy into the food when we're having social events so I can eat them. And it took, I don't know, maybe even a whole year for them to get to that point, but got to the point where they lovingly made the food that I could ate.
00:41:47:04 - 00:42:09:09
Filly
Then I had to retrain them to when I was letting go of my identity. Attachment to. I'm someone who has a dairy allergy. I had to retrain them to stop using dairy in the foods again. And this is stop talking to me as if, like, I had dairy allergies and my body was weak and broken. Sorry. And yeah, it took a few months.
00:42:09:09 - 00:42:09:22
Chris
Fragile.
00:42:09:22 - 00:42:15:12
Filly
Fairly fragile. Really. In the end, it's like great for everyone because then they didn't have to restrict and I didn't restrict.
00:42:15:14 - 00:42:24:21
Chris
All right. We're running short on time on this episode. So let's, let's let's tell you a little bit more about what's on the other side of this and maybe give you an invite to our.
00:42:24:23 - 00:42:25:11
Filly
Go for it.
00:42:25:12 - 00:42:26:06
Chris
Podcast.
00:42:26:06 - 00:42:28:13
Filly
Just go. Well, it's not the podcast. I mean.
00:42:28:13 - 00:42:29:08
Chris
Sorry, our event.
00:42:29:08 - 00:42:57:22
Filly
Free workshops. Yeah. So yeah, in September we've got the free rewire your Brain to heal body burn out. Well, we're going to dive deeper into this topic, and we'll be looking at both the physical and metaphysical ways that we help you to rewire your brain to heal body burn out. So you can join that and also, if you would really love and ready to dive deep into your healing and move from just consuming information to transformation, definitely jump down to the wait list in the show notes and join the wait list to our entire body burn out method.
00:42:57:23 - 00:43:09:13
Chris
Do it! It's going to be awesome. All right, guys, hopefully we get to catch you there. Have a good one. So yeah.
00:43:09:15 - 00:43:19:17
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
00:43:19:19 - 00:43:44:00
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about that group one on one ending Body burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
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