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Chris
Hello and welcome to the ending Body Burnout show. We are your host, Chris and Filly, co-founders of a multi winning functional medicine practice serving busy people with energy, mood and gut issues.
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Filly
Well, business, addictive doing, people pleasing and perfectionism might be the norm. It's not normal and it's a major contributor to health issues.
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Chris
Our goal with this show is to give you a holistic root root cause approach to healing your body so that you don't have to continue doctor or diet hopping or popping a gazillion supplements hoping something might stick.
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Filly
So get ready to heal your body. Get your spark back deeply, connect with yourself, and step into the life of your dreams.
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Chris
Let's dive in.
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Filly
Hello! Welcome to the podcast. Today we.
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Filly
Have.
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Filly
Two episodes for you this week. Actually don't know if you've noticed, but usually we drop podcast episodes every Tuesday. But we literally just recorded this podcast with our beautiful client, Amanda. Amanda Schembri, who is four months into her ending bloody burnout journey. And I'm like, I really just want to share it straight away because it was such a beautiful conversation as she shared her what her healing journey has looked like inside out.
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Filly
Ending body burnout method. So a little bit about what we talked about, Amanda came to us feeling like her body was screaming at her. She had really high inflammation levels. She had body pain, weight gain, and this had been going on for decades on and off. But things really got worse about ten years ago. Post having a relationship breakdown as well as the pressures of starting her own business.
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Filly
And she is a kinesiology, just a beautiful kinesiology. So I actually read her official bio shortly because, she's an amazing woman and healer herself. And over her journey, she really had focussed on a lot of the emotional and energetic parts of herself through past healing work and had definitely, responded to those, but she just felt like there was a missing piece that she wasn't focusing on her physical body or looking at her physical body through a specific lens.
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Filly
And that is why she reached out to us to join our ending body burn out method back in January. She actually really felt called to do that. And the most phenomenal thing happened that night. She joined our program and then overnight, 50% of her inflammation and physical sensations improved, which is just like mind blowing and such a beautiful piece of evidence.
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Filly
For her.
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Filly
That that she was on the right track and that she was going to get the support that she needed to heal her physical body. So in this episode today, Amanda dives into what it look like to dive wholeheartedly into our ending body burn out method. And what's really interesting about Amanda is that, she hasn't yet done the lab testing supplement side of things of our method that, you know, there might be a future focus for that, but she really went into the metaphysical healing through the lens of healing her physical body.
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Filly
And she had this big belief that her body can heal and the results speak for themselves. So I'm really excited for you to hear this beautiful podcast episode a little bit about Amanda. She is a kinesiology to has spent over a decade helping women with emotional and energetic freedom, and her work is deeply rooted in getting to the core story that carry, that they carry.
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Filly
In this lifetime and clearing it permanently, which allows them to finally feel free and empowered and deeply connected to who they are. She has over 20 years of experience in healing and transformation, and her message is to not push harder, but to the resistance that's been silenced. Lee running the show. She works with women through one on one sessions, workshops and deep transformational journeys where the only thing she guarantees is change.
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Filly
So she already came into our program with so much wisdom, so much of her own embodied experience. So I know that not only will this episode, as you're listening to it, help you to see that healing is possible and and also to give you an, insight into a client client's experience of working through the steps in our method.
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Filly
But also, she has so much beautiful wisdom to share around the holistic healing, process. So if you really resonate with her story and you're seeking a deep, holistic, root cause healing approach to your body, burn out, now is your time. Wonderful person. So doors to our ending body burn out method do open next week on the 21st of May.
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Filly
That's the Wednesday, but for those on our waitlist, you get a 48 hour early bed access to join early, which is, the benefit of that will be that you can secure a spot. Our program is an a group coaching program. It isn't just a course, although these are elements inside our program. Both of the options of working through the ending body burn at method does have one on one consulting and coaching route calls coaching support.
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Filly
So we do only have limited spaces. And I think last time I checked, there were about 150 people on the waitlist and we can only allowing 30 max. So jump on the waitlist if you're keen, you can join early. Also, when you join early, you get $500 worth of early bed bonuses. For those who are on the waitlist and join early.
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Filly
And also our prizes for our ending body burnout method will be increasing next intake. So if you're jumping on the waitlist and you're joining up early, you will save up to $1,700 before the prices increase. And we have an increase the price to fit the program for a very long time. And yeah, the value in there is the value that you receive.
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Filly
And also more importantly, the results that you can create for yourself inside the method, is definitely with the dollars that you put into it and the time in the energy. And one last thing, if you really resonate with, this episode and, and previous episodes that you've listened to and you're kind of like sitting on the fence around the program, is it going to be right for you?
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Filly
I definitely invite you to come along to our free coaching week next week. So we do a free coaching week during launch week, when we open the doors for one week as a way for you to be able to experience what it's like to work with us. Do you vibe with Chris and I? And to really viscerally, experientially experience what it's like to work through our method.
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Filly
So on day one, we're going to focus more on the body system. So what actually what body systems can go out of whack that are causing your body burnout symptoms and inflaming the brain. On day two we're going to go deep into the root root cause of body burnout. And that's where we're going to step more into coaching.
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Filly
You live on the the workshop and then on day three it's more of practising. So experiential practising.
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Filly
To help you.
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Filly
Switch off symptoms using the power of your brain and your unconscious mind and essentially becoming your own self healer. So we're so excited to be able to put that on. Even if you're not interested in working with us or you can't afford it or now is not the right time, you still get so much value, from our free coaching week, as we've had so many attendees share feedback around the things that they experienced and even the transformations that they had.
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Filly
So anyway, I'm going to put all of that in the shownotes, so you can join the waitlist, join the ending body burn out at the link. You can also join our free coaching week. And I've also put Amanda's website link, in there too. All right. Let's get into today's episode.
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Chris
Hi, everyone. Welcome to this episode of the Ending Body Burnout Show. We have a special guest for you today. We have Amanda. Today we're going to have a chat to Amanda. She's one of our clients. So we love having these conversations because we get to hear from somebody else about the body burnout method, rather than you hearing it from me and I.
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Chris
You get to hear from somebody who's actually going through the method, challenges and wins successes, or the journey along the way. So it's going to be a good conversation. Thanks for coming, Amanda.
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Amanda
Thanks for having me, guys.
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Filly
Thank you.
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Filly
So that I mean, I you know, I listen to listening to these sort of just heard me talk about you in your official bio, but maybe just to kick off, can you share who you are, what you do, and then we'll get into the health journey side of things.
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Amanda
Do you know that the third time this week I've been asked who I am? And I always find that I really fascinating question. I so, you know, I'm in my 50s, I, I believe in love, actually. That's who I am.
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Filly
Love, actually. Yeah. Like the moon. Yeah.
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Amanda
And and my, you know, my life has been about undoing all the things, so that I can live that more wholeheartedly. That's where I really sit. So, I'm a kinesiology. I have my own healing modality practice. And I do that online, and I, I do as much as I can to enjoy simple pleasures every day.
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Amanda
That's pretty much, you know, a nice little summary of who I am. Yeah.
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Filly
I love that. I love that.
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Filly
Love this.
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Filly
Which I think, well, let's dive into the health journey side of things because it is like, I think about it sometimes people come to us and this is probably like for clients for you as well, where it's like, I have this pain, make it go away, want it gone, fix it. But at the end of the day, a deep healing journey.
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Filly
Is writing the most beautiful love story with and for yourself. And so it's like a beautiful way to start off this conversation. Okay, so most I find that most practitioners, who we speak to, who might reach out to us to work with us as well, or who we have on the podcast, who are or who are colleagues often have their own healing journey as to why they ended up in this natural, healing, holistic space in the first place.
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Filly
So are you happy to go right back to the start when, your health journey and your healing journey started? What did that look like? When was it? What symptoms of showing up? What was happening in your life?
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Amanda
I feel like there's two major kind of, I suppose junctures in my, my timeline and my healing journey. So, I had a big t, like a big trauma event when I was a kid, and I lost my dad, which really impacted our family. You know, it just ricocheted to our family for lots of different reasons.
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Amanda
And, I, I was seven at the time. And so that seven through to 13 periods, I really wasn't present. I just kind of suppressed everything that was going. I didn't know what was going on.
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Filly
And.
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Amanda
Yeah, 13 is kind of the first point where I felt like I kind of woke up and I was in this kind of grief. And so there was a really kind of a lot of reconcile ation for me. And I was in that period of waking up, I woke up and I was overweight, you know, and I was struggling.
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Amanda
My, my, self-esteem was super low. And, you know, as a teen trying to figure everything out, right? So pretty chaotic at best. And I just was kind of, you know, going along with what I thought best to do or what everybody else was doing. I didn't have a good sense of myself. And in saying that, like, I, you know, I was super committed, but I was super committed.
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Amanda
When I say super, super committed to, you know, losing weight and being healthy and being the best version of myself I could be. But it was all really coming from a self-loathing place. And so that was kind of the first kind of, you know, introduction into that. That's the first kind of conscious, memory I have of, like, my health and my healing and my body and who I was for a moment.
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Amanda
And that carried me right through to, like, you know, my teens and then into my early 20s and, you know, just kind of going along and had wasn't very happy and was dieting a lot. You know, I was always kind of like, yo yo going up and down. But I think because of my age at that time, you know, your body so good at adapting, right.
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Amanda
And it's in you're in the adaption phase. It's not got like 50 years of adaption and it's, you know, it's kind of doing its its best to, metabolise everything. And so the effects other than the weight, I wasn't feeling any other effects and probably emotionally I was feeling a lot of effects. And then it was probably around my 30s where I started, yeah, I was around my 30s into my, like, my 30s is when I really started my emotional healing journey.
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Amanda
I kind of had a lot of awakenings around the impact of what that trauma event meant for me. I really started unravelling that and spent a good ten years in that space of like, really, understanding the impact and, and what that looked like. And, yeah, starting to make peace with all of it and understand it and myself.
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Amanda
And then it was like my early 40s, where I decided to start my own business. And for, you know, go into a healing, like healing arts myself because I had such a profound experience of what it was like when you started working with everything that was inside of you.
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Filly
Every like that, you know, this like. Yeah. Yeah.
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Amanda
Absolutely. And, you know, I, I'd had a first hand experience of the impact and then what it felt like when you started like lifting the lid and started kind of like reconciling all of these feelings. And thankfully I just found the modality that helped me do that. Right. So, so it was around my 40s, where I had started going into I had a total career change.
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Amanda
I left my job, I left everything, I was in a secure relationship. And literally within weeks, everything fell apart. Like my marriage fell apart. You know, and there was kind of things happening beforehand, but that that happened. So starting a business and on my own, it just literally brought up everything like that whole timeline and kind of like putting you marker on my timeline and I was in pain.
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Amanda
I was in physical pain, I was inflamed, I was angry, I had chronic fatigue. I, I it's limitless. You know, I, I still had, forms of depression. My weight was really I was putting on more and more weight, and I was I, you know, it's like grieving the loss of a relationship. And at the same time trying to establish, a new business all on my own.
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Amanda
And, you know, that was kind of one of my deepest fears of doing things on my own. So I had all these physical symptoms, and, you know.
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Filly
It's not safe.
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Amanda
I, I wasn't I can feel safe. And it's literally I felt like I was falling down a big black hole.
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Filly
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Filly
Well okay. That's huge.
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Filly
Yeah. So I remember when, when yeah.
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Filly
No business in the back in the day and until I did some, some deep work. And we'll get into what that looks like inside our body burnout method. But it is like it can bring up so much stuff for different reasons with different people. But yeah, totally resonating with what you said. It's scary. It's like risk taking in, especially if you came from a, you were getting like you were an employee.
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Filly
So you had that nice 9 to 5 regular income. Probably. And all the other people working with you to support you. And then this happens and then also at the same time, very closely, you also lost a marriage. That's huge. Like two massive things that I could imagine your whole system would have been. Yeah. I whispered, you're not safe because from an insecurity point of view financially.
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Filly
But then also deeper wounds coming up around that time, it's huge. And we talk about new levels of growth as well. So, I thought I'd just mention this because you had already done so much work and you, you responded to the things that you had done to. So it wasn't like anything that you had done in the past wasn't enough or didn't work.
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Filly
It's just that you had a new level of growth in your life and big things happened to then cause the safety signal in your body to say, not safe. Go to figure some things out. And is this the point that you reached out to us or what was happening that kind of was there? I think you came along to our webinar and maybe through Facebook.
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Filly
Gods, we found each other.
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Filly
It was Facebook.
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Amanda
Gods because.
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Filly
I literally.
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Amanda
So it was ten years ago. 40 was around the time my marriage ended and I started my own, my own practice. And it was probably like ten years on when I came to because it was ten years of like, really trying to figure it all out. Right? Of going to different mentalities and all the rest of it.
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Amanda
When I came to you guys, I just made this, like, silent little prayer of, like, I just didn't know what to do. I had kind of done all the things I'd been to natural paths. I had been to Chinese herbalist. And while they or and I was looking at functional medicine, and I was tired of doing it on my own, and I was just like, I the silent prayer I sign up with and I just want support.
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Amanda
I just don't want to have to figure out this on my own, because I had been figuring it out on my own for so long. And I was having all these physical flare ups where, you know, what I was doing wasn't touching the surface. And so, honestly, like, I think I came on like the day before you guys, did the workshop or the masterclass, and I was, you know, and I don't even know how I found you.
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Amanda
And so I think it was through the Facebook gods.
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Filly
Usually.
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Filly
It is if someone's like, I can't remember how I found you, but I found.
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Filly
You.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Filly
Okay, I love that. I really like there's so many clients who have shared their story on our podcast, but also who have it. Like, I really do feel like the people who lean in wholeheartedly and get great results at the ones that like, follow their intuition.
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Filly
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Filly
Not just to hastily make a decision of like, quick. I'm like, desperately needing to do something. It's actually like, you know what? I'm seeking something. And this feels aligned. Even if it might feel scary and there might be a bunch of reasons why it now is not the right time or you can't afford it or whatever. But when you can drop into that heart space and the deeper part of you that wants the best for you, it's like any time you listen to yourself, only good things are going to happen.
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Filly
So and it.
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Amanda
And it was super interesting because, you know, there's five bodies when we talk about healing, right. There's like mental, emotional, energetic, spiritual, physical. And so I really felt like I had hit four of them. And I had this epiphany where I was like, oh my God, physical. Like, yes, I've dieted. Yes, I've done all these things to like, look after my physical body.
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Amanda
But I hadn't looked at healing my physical body. I had done it really emotionally, energetically, mentally, spiritually. I had hit all of those, you know, those kind of bodies, but I hadn't focussed on physical. So, that was something that was really apparent to me when I, well, part of the reason why I joined you guys and became more clear as I worked through your process, I was like, I hadn't looked at healing through the physical body, which is, what about you guys?
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Filly
That's so interesting. And I think it comes to that, like really diving into how you then did heal because, like, if someone, a client, most clients would do the complete process, which will be all the deep root cause, what we call the metaphysical work. And then, lab testing supplements and there might be some dietary lifestyle stuff if and as needed based on the person.
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Filly
And sometimes people skip the lab testing side of things for whatever reason. And it's like, all right, cool. Let's like mission. Mission number one is like, get let's get to the root cause. So what was it? Because the work that you have done to address your body and your health issues has still been in what I would call the realm of the metaphysical.
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Filly
So I'm just curious, like, what were the the missing pieces that it's like, oh, I can still use mental, emotional, energetic, spiritual, healing, rewiring, reprogramming. But it was it more like your attention then was focussed on experiencing physical change?
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Amanda
Can you ask that a different way?
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Filly
I don't really even know what I'm asking.
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Filly
That make you feel better? The question was.
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Filly
So physically so when you said I'd worked on the other bodies, but my physical body, I hadn't yet. Was it more that I. You felt pulled to a process that focussed on body burnout? So like the physical body, but the work that you did, I actually wouldn't say it was very physical. It was still metaphysical. Yeah. I'm just curious in terms of like, was there a missing piece there for you that it's like, oh, okay, I can take everything that I do know and that I've, I have seen changes in and now I'm amplifying that into the physical body.
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Amanda
Yeah. That's a complex question. So, but I think that, like, what you're asking for me, I, I hadn't looked at my healing through my physical body. I had only looked at, oh, I feel less than or I feel a lack mentality or I feel this. And so I would deep dive from that. Like from an emotional perspective.
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Amanda
But I never looked at. So when I found you guys, my physical symptoms, like I had high inflammation, that was the biggest thing. And I was looking at it as kind of like looking in all these avenues, like, where do I go with this? Who's going to help me? Like what? Like, I know I've got this problem.
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Amanda
I don't know what to do with that. What's the next thing? And so when I found you guys, the functional medicine and the metaphysical, it's really interesting because I thought my focus would. I was like, oh, the functional testing. That's the place I've been looking for, right? And I've oh, I get both great, you know? Win-Win, right?
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Amanda
Yeah. But actually, what's happened is when I entered your program, I've actually gone the metaphysical on my physical. Right. And I, I hadn't looked at my healing from that lens before. Yeah. I hadn't looked at the root cause behind my white. I knew it was protection, but I hadn't really dive on that. I had done it in lots of different kind of round the terrain.
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Amanda
Not true.
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Filly
Yeah. Okay. That makes sense. Yeah. Absolutely. Yes. Okay. So to get to to end your body burn out you must get to the root root cause not just the root cause that the root cause. So in functional medicine like standard functional medicine it's talked about as root cause medicine, which, which I do agree to. But what I found, when I was only practising standard functional medicine where it was like, yeah, we're kind of getting to some roots, but not like the date parade.
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Filly
So functional medicine kind of stops that lifestyle really is root causes and stress, but not really at a deeper level in terms of what actually is driving this stress response in your body in the first place. So so really the first the first step to getting to the root root cause is to be aware of all the dysfunctional patterns that are showing off in every pattern he's going to have.
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Filly
So whether that's a symptom or a behavioural pattern or a thought pattern is going to have a belief underneath. And then the next job is to really get to that deepest root cause belief. What did that first part of that journey look like for you?
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Amanda
What did it look like for me? I felt I was surprised because I was like, oh, I hadn't looked at myself from this lens before. So that was actually really surprising for me. And I felt relief, like I just felt relief because I didn't I didn't have to figure it out. You guys have got the structure there.
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Amanda
I just had to do a my every day. Yeah, it's that easy from that perspective. Right. And I, you know, the relief was massive.
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Filly
And it was within.
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Amanda
Like it was revealing, right? I got to say I was like, you know, my, I know that one of the core beliefs that I have always carries is that through the trauma that I experienced, that I wasn't enough. Right? So, and I had always had an inkling about that. Not lovable. Right. But I never I always looked at the not enough.
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Amanda
So going through your process, it really revealed this, like, not lovable piece and also too, that I wasn't going to be okay. And so it was new information. You know, it's a new information from perspective that I hadn't seen before with such clarity. And that like to me that's like I'm like, give me more, give me more, you.
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Filly
Know, like I just like you.
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Filly
Let me much into that.
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Filly
Yeah.
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Amanda
Like because I know the benefit on the other side. Yeah. It's freed up. And that's ultimately what I'm seeking is what we're all seeking. Ryan.
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Filly
Yeah, I had a I had a session recently with a client, and I was just like, wow, how how have you missed getting to the deepest root cause belief? It was almost. How did I miss you? Missing it. And and, you know, she kind of almost finished. We call it the metaphysical healing just for those who are listening.
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Filly
The spark process. So we've got answers. Spark and Sean. And they all align with lab testing, physical healing, lifestyle healing, and then the metaphysical healing, that she's kind of stuck to. And when I dug into some coaching around where's the stuck piece? It's like that, that young version of is still self still hasn't been seen or heard.
00:29:01:02 - 00:29:17:16
Filly
So this clarity of like the the role of getting to or the healing piece, the transformation of getting to the deepest root cause belief and seeing it with laser clarity. And you've done the digging work to get there isn't just to like isn't at all to Traumatise you.
00:29:17:18 - 00:29:18:01
Filly
Or to.
00:29:18:01 - 00:29:42:08
Filly
Make you feel even worse. It's literally that these part of you finally gets to be seen and heard by you and and probably for the first time ever in that like unique and very special and healing way. And also, it's unravelling all the many years and decades of trying to run away and hide and manage it. So I like you.
00:29:42:10 - 00:29:56:04
Filly
I love the word of relief was the relief when you found the deepest root cause belief, and what was or was the relief even just starting. And it's like, oh, I've got a step by step process and I know I'll get the result as I lean in and follow the process.
00:29:56:06 - 00:30:05:20
Amanda
I think, I think the relief was in two parts. So the minute I signed up to your program, my symptoms halved. Wow.
00:30:05:21 - 00:30:08:15
Filly
I like this signing up.
00:30:08:17 - 00:30:29:08
Amanda
And I was like, okay, I'm doing the right thing. I'm in the right place. Like, I, you know, my body's giving me the cue that like, that was I had been my Achilles. Both, I had ruptured both of my Achilles. And that pain went over, like, reduced 50% overnight. And the same with my information. So and it was relief.
00:30:29:08 - 00:30:51:13
Amanda
Right. I was like that was the second part of the relief. It was like, I don't have to figure this out. I get to follow my process. I get to be in somebody else's hands instead of trying to figure it out on my own. And that was the relief and and I would say, yeah, the yeah, they were the two moments of relief.
00:30:51:13 - 00:31:05:03
Amanda
Because then when I started with the material and it started revealing, you know, core beliefs and, you know, as you kind of start working, it was gratitude, you know, as I say, grateful that, I was, you know, as revealing, like different parts of me, you know.
00:31:05:06 - 00:31:06:04
Filly
Yeah.
00:31:06:06 - 00:31:19:10
Filly
I love that. That's so cool. So interesting. This only just clicked in my brain that when we started the the recording, the podcast is, did you say what were the your exact words? I believe in love.
00:31:19:12 - 00:31:21:06
Filly
Yes.
00:31:21:08 - 00:31:37:00
Filly
And this this oh deepest root call word is like I'm unlovable. So, you know, in a way, it's like you've always you've always known it. Because that's always what you've been seeking.
00:31:37:02 - 00:31:39:11
Amanda
And my name actually means to be loved.
00:31:39:12 - 00:31:40:14
Filly
Oh, wow. Okay.
00:31:40:18 - 00:32:07:17
Amanda
Yeah. So it's I feel like it's like a trifecta. It's like this because it's like love is the thing. Even when I didn't feel loved. The the desire of love, the wanting to have the experience of it or knowing that I can be whatever this love looks like is the is the I. Honestly, I think it's the thing that's kept me alive.
00:32:07:17 - 00:32:28:21
Amanda
It's the key thing that kept me going, even when I felt it was hard, or even when I felt unloved. There was this belief in me that there was more than this. And, you know, we know that there's always those two polarities. And I'm so grateful for that love really being kind of my, my compass, you know? Because otherwise I would have drowned.
00:32:28:21 - 00:32:31:17
Amanda
I would have, I would have really got lost in. Right.
00:32:31:19 - 00:32:33:10
Filly
Yeah. And.
00:32:33:12 - 00:32:49:06
Filly
I mean, you don't have to share this if you don't want to, but and I can't remember from, like, your homework that you sent through the. Do you remember the, the core memory in which that was formed? Was that, like, around your father's passing, or is that even before hand?
00:32:49:12 - 00:32:50:00
Filly
Yeah.
00:32:50:01 - 00:33:16:13
Amanda
No it was yeah, it was around my dad passing. And then what happened as a consequence of that? Like, our family got ripped apart. I got separated from my dad's family. My mom was grieving, I was grieving, you know, my mom, like, my mom, loves really differently to what my dad did. And I was more ed towards my dad, so everything that was clear to me really got kind of ripped away.
00:33:16:13 - 00:33:49:10
Amanda
You know? And it. Yeah, it started. I feel like such compassion when I hear that part. And that's what I really love about this work, actually, is because it's it allows me to be objective now and just say it as an event that happened. Yeah, that was diplomatic. And, you know, to feel that compassion, is super sweet to me because I've repeated this kind of event in my life numerous times through my healing journey.
00:33:49:10 - 00:33:59:04
Amanda
But this is the first time actually, I've mentioned it, and I've felt this real warmth of compassion towards that part of me, you know? So that really speaks.
00:33:59:06 - 00:34:19:23
Filly
And that's so beautiful. That's like a little checking point that I'll get clients to think about to. So when it's like, okay, how like, is there still work to do around this core memory and this core belief? And like this is helpful for listeners to like, I'll get them to close your eyes and think back to that time.
00:34:19:23 - 00:34:47:08
Filly
And what's what's the very first thing that you think about around that little girl or that little boy? And generally speaking, if it if if there's still this stickiness around the core belief in this still emotional charge and you know, that experience in that sense making hasn't been processed and, and clear to let go of, then the first response is either fear, disappointment, pity, embarrassment, sadness, loneliness.
00:34:47:10 - 00:35:12:06
Filly
But when your autonomic response becomes this like heartfelt compassion, love or wonder, like far out. She was she was awesome. She was so wonderful to get through that. And I've been able to go back to rescue her and give her that, like give her the thing that she didn't have and to also help her make better beliefs about herself, like literally to rewrite the story.
00:35:12:06 - 00:35:14:22
Filly
So that's that's so cool, I love it.
00:35:15:00 - 00:35:17:10
Filly
Me too. Me too.
00:35:17:12 - 00:35:26:07
Filly
Do you have before I ask the next question, do you have anything you've been writing some little notes. Do you want to say anything, Chris?
00:35:26:08 - 00:35:39:23
Chris
Number one, I. I love that your name means to love. So I just checked out the etymology of that, a man, the name Amanda. So that's actually really cool. I nerd out on etymology, and I.
00:35:39:23 - 00:35:43:01
Filly
Like I love hearing what you were doing first. Yeah.
00:35:43:03 - 00:36:10:08
Chris
That blew my mind. So. Latin. Amerie. To love. And and then I think that's fascinating how that's that's come full circle with beliefs about yourself as well. I'm fascinated by your journey. I, I can't remember. Did you say. And pardon me for asking? Amanda, how old were you when your dad passed away? Seven.
00:36:10:08 - 00:36:22:17
Chris
Seven? You were seven. Sorry I missed that. Okay. Yeah. So? So that's been, And how old are you now? Ish?
00:36:22:19 - 00:36:23:19
Filly
I.
00:36:23:21 - 00:36:26:21
Amanda
As I say, 52. I think I'm 53.
00:36:26:23 - 00:36:27:06
Filly
Right?
00:36:27:09 - 00:36:29:19
Chris
Yeah, I ran I've ended up.
00:36:29:21 - 00:36:31:02
Filly
Turning 27.
00:36:31:04 - 00:36:37:20
Chris
As soon as I turned 44 last year. I've pretty much been calling myself 45 because it's, like, rounded off. I'm not even before, you.
00:36:37:22 - 00:36:38:22
Filly
Know what, 40.
00:36:38:22 - 00:36:39:21
Amanda
Five? Chris.
00:36:39:23 - 00:36:41:08
Chris
Wait, am I?
00:36:41:10 - 00:36:46:18
Filly
Yes. Because you will be in June, He will be in June.
00:36:46:20 - 00:36:59:20
Amanda
No, no. So here you go. Right. So when you're born, you start at zero. But when you celebrate your first birthday, you are one, right? That's when you're called. That's when you start clocking your age.
00:36:59:22 - 00:37:02:21
Filly
Right? Oh, and letting that count.
00:37:02:23 - 00:37:10:04
Chris
Yeah. You can see my brain is just like we talk numbers. You need to just make sure you're listening.
00:37:10:06 - 00:37:16:01
Amanda
That you've already been like you're already you're at one. You've or you're going into your second year.
00:37:16:02 - 00:37:16:18
Chris
Right?
00:37:16:20 - 00:37:20:05
Filly
Yeah. Okay. So you're in your 45th year already.
00:37:20:06 - 00:37:20:23
Amanda
Yeah.
00:37:21:00 - 00:37:23:14
Chris
And then we think about time in the womb.
00:37:23:16 - 00:37:26:09
Filly
Yeah.
00:37:26:11 - 00:37:29:23
Chris
Yeah. Right. Okay. So
00:37:30:01 - 00:37:32:05
Filly
Segway. Yeah.
00:37:32:07 - 00:38:00:04
Chris
Oh that's awesome. I'm going to head out on that too. That's give me some other segue. I just I find it, I find your journey fascinating and also important as well. A couple of notes, you know, really questions that just calling, a light on. Just stuff that you've said. Where when you when you started your business that brought up everything.
00:38:00:04 - 00:38:13:00
Chris
Everything's a lot. I mean, I always love hearing when the little words people say so, but it brought up everything.
00:38:13:02 - 00:38:22:23
Chris
Why was that? Why? Why do you think business was the thing that was was like the the catalyst for bringing up everything, you know?
00:38:23:01 - 00:38:56:15
Amanda
So I kind of want to answer that in two parts. The first part was, is that like, I believe like the safety piece is the first piece, right? I mean, that an essential need for us to feel safe. And so we're looking for that every day and everything that we're doing, we're looking for safety. And so I believe that, yeah, what I believe is, is that in my healing journey up until that point.
00:38:56:17 - 00:39:02:12
Amanda
I was trying to get away from self-loathing, which meant that I wasn't really loving myself. Right.
00:39:02:14 - 00:39:03:10
Filly
00:39:03:12 - 00:39:35:06
Amanda
And so that incident at 40, it ripped me apart for lots of different reasons for the marriage ending, for the lost dreams, for the lost hope, you know, like the if or what we committed to. Right. And then I when I say everything that feeling unsafe in more than one life area at that time. Did bring up all the patterns that I had been suppressing.
00:39:35:08 - 00:39:47:00
Amanda
And they literally came up physically because it was too much for my system to handle. Yeah, basically. Yeah. Yeah. So that's kind of. Does that answer your question, Chris?
00:39:47:00 - 00:40:13:14
Chris
Yeah. And how do you think business was the, I don't know, I'm just thinking of a pimple. I had a pimple. Had a pimple. Today I woke up with a pimple. You can see it if you're watching the video. Yes. Guys, this is Fred. Fred, Gus. So, you know, there's, if you if you got a pimple, you can put a little bit pressure on it and add it comes.
00:40:13:16 - 00:40:26:15
Chris
So if if business was your pimple, you know, how how was or why was business just the perfect squeeze fit for everything to come up? You know, like, why business?
00:40:26:17 - 00:40:55:02
Amanda
I don't think it was business alone. I think it was business and the marriage ending. And it was the insecurity, actually. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So yeah, I, you know, I, we had made a lot of decisions together for me to start my practice and I had to his support. And so when we decided that we were separating that just kind of way in a hot second and my safety and security was, you know, so I.
00:40:55:02 - 00:41:15:00
Amanda
And there was a pace of doing it alone. And, you know, that the agreement that we had was it that I would have support and that support was that support changed. And so again, safety and security, like, you know, doing it alone, safety and security, I didn't know what the hell I was doing. Like when was that thing.
00:41:15:00 - 00:41:27:18
Amanda
And with that, doing a business, you know, like I'm smart and I can do things, but I hadn't done it before, you know, and I, you know, the support that I thought I would have literally fell away, you know. So it was big.
00:41:27:23 - 00:41:28:20
Filly
00:41:28:22 - 00:41:30:09
Chris
Yeah. That makes sense.
00:41:30:11 - 00:41:57:05
Filly
I see that to like if we come back to old deepest root cause belief if I'm unlovable it's, it will show up everywhere. And so it's like you got safety and security. But then also it's often where these deep unconscious core beliefs really reach their head up in terms of like dysregulation and amplifying the experience that you're having.
00:41:57:07 - 00:42:15:15
Filly
I don't know, like if this doesn't resonate, just say, but I would make sense of that to you where it's just like, I'm on my own. My marriage is as broken another piece of evidence or happening underneath the surface, but another piece of events that I'm not lovable. Oh, I've just started a business, but there's no one here to support me.
00:42:15:15 - 00:42:38:00
Filly
Where's my crew? Where's my tribe of being kicked out? You know, from these, like, primal, safety response? Yeah. I can definitely see how the unlovable stuff amplified everything that was going on. And then, you know, when you starting a new business, you're putting yourself out there and, like, fear of judgement and, like, is anyone going to buy my thing?
00:42:38:00 - 00:42:49:21
Filly
Does anyone want to work with me? I'm not getting enough clients yet. And so yeah, it's or internalising this deeper, deeper unconscious beliefs and wounds.
00:42:49:23 - 00:43:11:02
Amanda
And I want to say I just want to add to that feeling like, yes to everything that you said. Yeah. And it's, you know, and what happened to me was that I wasn't aware of all that, that language that you just used. Right? Yeah. How it showed up for me, why I say everything. It came up physically like that's when I began to become really inflamed.
00:43:11:02 - 00:43:39:09
Amanda
That's when I, you know, my memory's a little bit hazy of, like, the timeline of health at times, but you know, the depression came up again. Like, physical symptoms in my body kept rising. I literally couldn't walk up or down stairs for a good six months because I was so. Yeah. So it came up physically in my body because it was like, you can't ignore this.
00:43:39:09 - 00:43:53:01
Amanda
And it was so big. You know, it's another big event, right? Yeah. And so the only way that my body could communicate to me was in physical symptoms. Yeah. And it was really hard because I was feeling like it was just everything all at once.
00:43:53:01 - 00:43:53:20
Filly
00:43:53:21 - 00:44:00:11
Filly
Yeah. And then it becomes this cyclical loop to of like low capacity. Now I can't do the things. Now how am I going to survive.
00:44:00:13 - 00:44:03:00
Filly
Do. Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo doo.
00:44:03:02 - 00:44:23:15
Amanda
There was months where I come home and literally, I would just watch Game of Thrones back to back every night. Like I actually come up and I would get up, I would go into my work, and I would come home and I would be so exhausted that the only thing that I could do, like, was ate a block of chocolate, because that would give me an energy spike.
00:44:23:17 - 00:44:29:11
Amanda
And I watch Game of Thrones. Like maybe crazy like episode The Night. And I did that for months.
00:44:29:11 - 00:44:30:18
Filly
Yeah.
00:44:30:20 - 00:44:47:04
Amanda
Because that was how I coped. That's that was all I could do, you know? And I could because I had to get up and I had to go to work, right? I had to survive. I had to live, I had to and it was it was difficult, like having those symptoms and trying to do both.
00:44:47:06 - 00:45:17:09
Filly
Yeah. I came so fast forwarding back to the present. What is it, what is it looks like for you to reprogramme the deepest root cause belief, but also the rewire freeing and switching off and having physical change in your body. What is that looks like for you in terms of practices, processes or things that you've experienced that it's just like, wow, this is this is actually working.
00:45:17:11 - 00:45:24:08
Amanda
I think this is what I've loved most about your program is, is that it's giving me these bite sized.
00:45:24:08 - 00:45:25:12
Filly
Chunks.
00:45:25:14 - 00:45:47:17
Amanda
To, like, go, okay, you know, if I want this, this is what it will look like if I want to do it. And, you know, then you guys layer it in, right? There's all these little insertion ins of like, whether they're meditations, whether they're practices, whether it's like writing stuff down. But this is raiff, you know, halfway through your program, there's this reframe.
00:45:47:19 - 00:46:02:00
Amanda
So the reframe for mean has been super powerful because it's been consistent. It's just been like little bite sized chunks. And I feel like it's really helped me.
00:46:02:02 - 00:46:24:19
Amanda
Yeah. I feel like it's really helped me. Right. Pattern how to like, wholeheartedly love myself. I, you know, since my like it wasn't long after, I reckon I was probably maybe 45. I, I made this commitment to myself that I was going to love myself. And that was too big a word for me. So all I could say was that I was going to care for myself.
00:46:24:19 - 00:46:44:00
Amanda
That was the only thing that I could kind of conceptualise, because I did it for other people. And your program has really given me the steps, really simple steps, my steps. Right. Because it comes to me of how to do that. Yeah. It was another piece there that I wanted to mention, but I can't remember you.
00:46:44:02 - 00:46:46:00
Amanda
I think there was two questions you had. Right?
00:46:46:00 - 00:47:03:12
Filly
It was around reprogramming the deeper belief and then also the rewiring around, like the physical body as well. So, you know, accessing the practices, the processes, the coaching frameworks to create physical change in healing in the body.
00:47:03:14 - 00:47:26:07
Amanda
Yeah. It's that's been a really important piece for me as well, because what happened prior to doing Ending Body Burn Out was, is that I would have a flare out, and it would just activate like the oh, like, here I am again. Like, you know, it's it's happening to me, not for me, you know, that kind of language.
00:47:26:07 - 00:48:00:13
Amanda
And so the physical side of it really got me to be in relationship with my, my symptoms and be curious about them, you know, and that's what I've really that that's been what's the word I'm looking for. Yeah. That's I can't think of the word, but it's, that's been such a gift. That's not the way that one two years, but it's been such a gift because it's just giving me the tools and the language to really get more intimate with myself.
00:48:00:15 - 00:48:05:01
Amanda
Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Like, it's it's helped me bring it all together.
00:48:05:02 - 00:48:33:16
Filly
Yeah. It's aligning you unifying all parts of the body, which is full and true embodiment. And. Yeah. So that's a beautiful I'm curious because so far everything I'm hearing from you and also my experience of you the last fall. So months is you lean in and yeah, you're like progressing and getting results. That was has there been anything that's been challenging.
00:48:33:18 - 00:48:36:08
Filly
Oh God. Okay.
00:48:36:10 - 00:48:37:08
Filly
Let's let's hear.
00:48:37:08 - 00:48:58:19
Filly
About that because I think I think that that's really useful because sometimes I remember when I was in my healing journey and I was just like, almost like obsessively trying to find all these healing stories so I could get, just so I could rewire my brain that it would be possible for me. And sometimes, you know, some of some of the podcast stories, it's just like all the lovely, wonderful stuff.
00:48:58:19 - 00:49:15:23
Filly
And I did this and then I got this, and then it's like. And so it almost can set someone out first. Broken expectations really, that it's like, all I have to do is show up, do the thing. And then so what were some challenges and also how did you break through them?
00:49:16:01 - 00:49:23:10
Amanda
I would say probably the challenges. There's probably two challenges. So the first one would be when I'd have a physical flare up.
00:49:23:12 - 00:49:24:06
Filly
00:49:24:08 - 00:49:52:06
Amanda
And just having to really like, not hate it and actually be curious about it and, and be have enough capacity within myself to be able to do that. And then the second thing that was super challenge, well, that when I had, when I was challenged would be around, sometimes I'd come up to a module and I'd be like, you guys, you know, you guys are that.
00:49:52:10 - 00:49:55:15
Filly
Just do this.
00:49:55:17 - 00:49:57:04
Filly
So easy.
00:49:57:06 - 00:49:59:07
Filly
Right? And I really would.
00:49:59:07 - 00:50:18:19
Amanda
Look at the screen or I'd look at my, you know, what I had to do. And I'd be like, I don't even like, if you ask me my name in that moment, I wouldn't have been able to answer that. Right. And so I had to, you know, and that sometimes would go over and it show up in two ways.
00:50:18:21 - 00:50:39:04
Amanda
It would show up things. And like, I just stare at the screen or I'd get distracted and do something else. And I've noticed that and I'm like, okay, well, this is obviously not easy for me right now. And so sometimes it would take 2 or 3 days to be feeling like that, to find the place within myself. To be able to look at it again.
00:50:39:04 - 00:51:04:19
Amanda
And then when I looked at it again, I'd be like, oh, that makes sense. Why didn't that make sense the first time around? But it it's almost I think what it is, is like actually when I'm speaking to, it's like the concept of what it is you're moving towards. Sometimes it's so. Impossible to that part of you that's had a different experience.
00:51:04:21 - 00:51:29:06
Amanda
And so those parts come up right off like, you know, like, what if I fail? What if I what if this doesn't work? What if I get it wrong? Right. Like what it what it all the what ifs that come in. And so really, it's like trusting, like just tracking that, just noticing it and going, I came into you're avoiding doing the thing right now.
00:51:29:06 - 00:51:40:17
Amanda
And allowing myself to avoid it and just be curious about why I was avoiding it. And knowing that, you know, I was going to come back to it. And that's where your weekly calls are. So.
00:51:40:19 - 00:51:42:01
Filly
00:51:42:03 - 00:52:09:04
Amanda
But it has that kind of like that little point in your week where you like, well, you know, I could show up and not do the thing, but that really is going to be that's not that's a waste of my time. Right. Yeah. So that would always kind of keep me moving. So yeah, that would be the thing, like being gentle with my process and just recognising that, you know, you don't have to do it all, which was hard for me.
00:52:09:04 - 00:52:35:02
Amanda
Right? Because I'm such a perfectionist. You know, I don't have to do all the things all the time. I have to trust when my timing's right. And that's sometimes really hard medicine to swallow for me. That I be patient and be tender with yourself. And I would also say it's something that's really deepened, like that tenderness for myself is really deepened through doing this process, which I really enjoyed.
00:52:35:04 - 00:52:40:22
Filly
I love it so good. Did were you about to say something?
00:52:41:00 - 00:52:42:10
Filly
You're like.
00:52:42:11 - 00:52:56:05
Chris
No, no, I'm I'm I'm enjoying, tracking and and and hearing the story. I feel like a podcast listener today in the conversation. It's it's been awesome. I'm enjoying.
00:52:56:05 - 00:53:04:20
Filly
It. So do I, actually. I'm kind of like, forget that I'm the interviewer. I'm just like, you know, when you like in it and you're not thinking about the next question.
00:53:04:22 - 00:53:07:02
Filly
It's like, and they're like.
00:53:07:02 - 00:53:29:02
Filly
Oh, hang on. Now I have to say something. What I love about what you just said to. And this is where I find that clients can get a bit hung up, is that they go into the work with so much self-doubt. It's just like, oh, like infamous. And then shame and guilt. If they're resisting or avoiding, they don't even they can't even use that language.
00:53:29:02 - 00:53:49:19
Filly
It like resisting or avoiding. It's just like, oh, there's something wrong with me. Why can't I just do the thing? So like, I think, like, there's some lovely learning in what you just said is that the faster that you can let that go and just kind of like meet mates, the resistance, let it be there, let it let it percolate.
00:53:49:21 - 00:54:12:22
Filly
Because the more you fight against it, the more there will be resistance, but the more you kind of hold space for it. And just like, hey, I see you, you're here, what am I afraid of? Or you talking about the parts like what parts me are showing up right now that is preventing me from doing this often? Just being able to hold space and just allowing it to be there for a few hours or a few days.
00:54:13:00 - 00:54:13:15
Filly
Is often.
00:54:13:15 - 00:54:28:23
Filly
Enough for it to start dissolving. And then it's like, oh, okay, I can move forward now it's safe to to move forward. I like yeah, yeah. And it's the curiosity that will allow you to heal. The self-judgment will also put the block.
00:54:29:01 - 00:54:53:06
Amanda
That was a way that kept coming up to me when you were speaking. I was like, curiosity is okay, right? It's like actually, oh, like, why am I feeling this way? Why am I having this experience? Why am I resisting? You know, and I don't always have an answer to that, but it's like I think enough of like it, whether we're conscious or, for me, whether I'm consciously working through it, I'm unconsciously working through it, whether I know it or not.
00:54:53:08 - 00:54:57:21
Amanda
And sometimes my system needs days. You know, to like, work through it.
00:54:57:23 - 00:54:58:15
Filly
00:54:58:17 - 00:55:00:07
Amanda
Yeah. Okay. Yeah yeah.
00:55:00:08 - 00:55:12:04
Filly
Yeah. Okay. Coming up to our last question, so what do you feel is different about our ending body burn out method.
00:55:12:06 - 00:55:18:05
Amanda
That's different about your ending body burn out method.
00:55:18:07 - 00:55:52:08
Amanda
It's thorough like it's super thorough. It's you know it's got. And so what I mean by that done lots of different modalities, lots of different courses, programs and what's different about what you guys have put together is that you really have thought about it's holistic, right? There's like bite sized chunks that are structured and laid out in a certain way for your deepest healing.
00:55:52:10 - 00:55:53:16
Filly
And
00:55:53:18 - 00:56:12:12
Amanda
It's all available online that you can plug into it any time, and then you can plug in to you guys when you need, I really like that structure. I don't feel like, I want to say I'm super fussy.
00:56:12:14 - 00:56:13:03
Filly
And I don't.
00:56:13:03 - 00:56:37:01
Amanda
I kind of struggle to say that. And, I'm trying to find a different way of saying it, but, I enjoy detail. Right. And, so that's what's different. Like, that speaks to me about your program is it's detailed and there's a lot it's always there for you. It's always there for you. And that to me, is priceless.
00:56:37:03 - 00:56:56:06
Amanda
Because I enjoy being able to understand. And so you've got so much material there, to understand. And then, you know, we've always got you guys to kind of lean on when we don't understand. Right? So, yeah, I hope that answered your question.
00:56:56:08 - 00:57:23:00
Filly
That's awesome. Thank you. I don't I'm a very detailed person. Like, that needs to be a step here and then. Yeah. And then here Chris is. Chris is more kind of like big picture. So actually we really complement each other because I think if if our program was just very detailed, then it would probably lose the essence of, of what we're trying to do to probably be like, if you do this and then you take this off, whereas, yeah.
00:57:23:01 - 00:57:25:00
Filly
So thank you.
00:57:25:02 - 00:57:41:15
Amanda
The details are important. Right. Because they're the steps. Yeah, they're the steps. And when you don't know the steps it's there's so much grace in not having to figure out the steps. That's what's different about you guys. There's the steps are there. You just have to follow them. You just have to do one at a time, which is great.
00:57:41:20 - 00:57:43:05
Filly
Yeah, yeah.
00:57:43:07 - 00:57:52:16
Filly
Okay. So four months into your ending body burnout journey, what does your body feel like? Your health, your life feel like now.
00:57:52:17 - 00:57:54:14
Filly
Today it's been.
00:57:54:15 - 00:58:25:19
Amanda
It's been, yeah, it's been quite profound. And I want to answer in two ways. So I think. My physical symptoms have definitely like I think they're probably about 30% of like I'm experiencing them at a 30% level than what I was when they were like 100, like I was, you know, and I still have flare ups. But I can I'm just curious about them.
00:58:25:19 - 00:58:59:12
Amanda
I've got some, you know, protocols in place that I can I can address them. And then on the other side, it's a really fundamental. Had a look back at where I started and what I wanted out of this program. And one of the things was, is that I just wanted to just show up to the things that were important to me, that I believed were important in achieving what, you know, the outcome that I want to say and I am exercising daily, which I wasn't doing.
00:58:59:14 - 00:59:27:04
Amanda
And something like I want to share this is quite profound for me. Because I've been an emotional Ada all my life. And so that means that would look like never just having one piece of chocolate I would look at, like, having the whole of chocolate, you know, and it might be and it would be in one sitting without even kind of looking twice at it, you know, like it'd just be kind of vacuumed in a second and then I'd be like, oh, where did that go?
00:59:27:06 - 00:59:49:01
Amanda
And over the last couple of weeks, I've really, Yeah, I've, I've gone to the shops and I've looked at that. I mean, you know, because what I would do is in this is what I would do, I would go, oh, I need paper towel. I'm actually the voice behind that would be like, oh, we can get some chocolate.
00:59:49:03 - 00:59:51:02
Filly
Yeah. Right. And so two oh.
00:59:51:04 - 00:59:52:08
Filly
Five one.
00:59:52:10 - 00:59:55:19
Filly
You know. Right. We've fully going.
00:59:55:19 - 01:00:44:05
Amanda
There to get the chocolate. Right. And I've had I've had this experience in the last couple of weeks, and I literally stood in front of the chocolate aisle and then I'd walk away. And it wasn't making myself walk away. It was actually like nothing appealed. And, and I want to say I've also allowed myself to have the chocolate, without it being vacuumed in one second without so that the really what I'm speaking to is like this self honouring, self-care piece of like, you know, like I've got enough within me without having to, use these other substances as whatever they are, to fill my time.
01:00:44:05 - 01:01:03:22
Amanda
And that's been that's so meaningful to me because it was when coming into this process, you know, there's lots of ways that I would choose to check out whether it's like watching TV, whether it was eating whatever the thing. But I I've, I'm really it's clear to me what access is joy for me or love.
01:01:04:00 - 01:01:04:18
Filly
01:01:04:20 - 01:01:25:20
Amanda
And you know, one of them is cooking whole food, which I've always done. But now I'm taking real joy in doing that and tasting it and experiencing it. So my relationship with food is changing. So, yeah, that's really cool. And it's, you know, for me, again, it's like a self-love piece. It's like I'm actually honouring like I'm it's not honouring.
01:01:25:20 - 01:01:46:14
Amanda
It's like I am. I what it is, it's I'm honouring the things that are super important to me that I want to move towards. You know, that I identify as love, and I'm not carrying out the ones that you know. It's not it's not perfect. It's not seamless. I still have, you know, ebb and flow between the two.
01:01:46:15 - 01:02:05:05
Amanda
That. Yeah, that's what it's looking like for me. And it just, it softens me like even describing it to you guys. I feel soft, you know, and I, I know that I care for myself. And that was one of my probably biggest bugbears coming in is, is that I could say the ways that I wasn't caring for myself.
01:02:05:05 - 01:02:14:23
Amanda
And now I can see the ways that I am caring for myself, and I'm doing more of them without having to do it from a place of force, or because I have to.
01:02:15:01 - 01:02:16:12
Filly
I don't want to.
01:02:16:12 - 01:02:20:00
Amanda
And because I'm important, you know? So, yeah.
01:02:20:02 - 01:02:21:12
Filly
So good.
01:02:21:14 - 01:02:56:11
Chris
Soft, squishy. Nice, lovely. I, I think of that as just the most beautiful, most feminine, thing to say, you know, whereas before there was loathing and and disgust and, and shame for the thing. Yeah, but but but then what you've just said there is acceptance. It's love. It's. You didn't say this, but squishy mushy sense that had crisp words for what you've just said.
01:02:56:11 - 01:02:58:17
Filly
And I don't know how you're feeling. Great.
01:02:58:20 - 01:03:19:10
Chris
Yeah. Well, yeah. Totally. I feel like such a such a beautiful, loving, cuddly, way of of thinking about yourself, you know, like, it's it's accepting. I love that. I love that for you. That's it's, I enjoy this experience of you. It's beautiful.
01:03:19:12 - 01:03:22:14
Filly
Yeah. It's green, but. Yeah.
01:03:22:16 - 01:03:44:01
Filly
Okay. We'd love to hear your last words of wisdom. Oh, yeah. So for those who are listening, who might be really resonating with your story, but struggling in their own health issues, their own body burn out patterns that are associated to it, and also for those who can't, I feel like they've tried a lot of things or like there's not much hope left.
01:03:44:03 - 01:03:48:01
Filly
What what words of wisdom could you share?
01:03:48:03 - 01:03:49:03
Filly
01:03:49:05 - 01:04:17:00
Amanda
The thing that comes up for me is it's actually a Rick Richard Bach quote where he's like, you don't you're not given the dream of anything, that you don't have the tools. It's not quite right. But like the the ability to make it happen. Right. So they wouldn't the people that are listening to this would not be in your sphere if they weren't wanting something more.
01:04:17:01 - 01:04:45:13
Amanda
And I want to say to them, believe that. Follow that until the day you die, because that is what's going to get you where you want to be. That's, you know, it's possible it's available. And our body is this incredible piece of artistry, really, that has so many components all working for us. And we forget that when we become unwell.
01:04:45:13 - 01:05:03:03
Amanda
And so whatever, you know, they're here for a reason. They're in your audience for a reason. And I just want to say keep following that, that voice so that whisper in their head that just won't give up. Because that is the thing that's going to say you heal.
01:05:03:04 - 01:05:03:07
Filly
I.
01:05:03:07 - 01:05:03:23
Filly
Love it.
01:05:04:01 - 01:05:07:04
Chris
I'm so nice.
01:05:07:06 - 01:05:40:16
Filly
Oh thank you so much for being so generous with your time. And also the detail in which you shared your story, I think is so lovely and important and I feel like, like again, if I put myself back into my answers when I was very unwell or was listening to these stories and and being able to try them on for myself, it's like I can I can feel that and I think that that is possible and oh my gosh, there are other people who are doing this.
01:05:40:16 - 01:05:46:06
Filly
So I know that, like, you're giving a gift to so many people by sharing this.
01:05:46:08 - 01:05:46:23
Filly
Oh.
01:05:47:01 - 01:06:04:10
Filly
All right. I'm also going to pop your your change of balance. So that's your kinesiology website, in the show notes. So if anyone, wants to learn a bit more about you or reach out to you, that's a good way of doing it or finding. Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
01:06:04:14 - 01:06:19:15
Amanda
And I just want to say thank you. Like you guys have really put your heart and soul into this. Like I say that I feel that I receive that every week. And I just really appreciate how you guys have brought this all together. And, yeah, I just want to say thank you, thank you.
01:06:19:18 - 01:06:20:08
Filly
Thank you.
01:06:20:08 - 01:06:21:11
Chris
Thank you for.
01:06:21:15 - 01:06:23:09
Filly
That.
01:06:23:11 - 01:06:43:09
Chris
Thank you. You're welcome. All right, well, let's wrap this one up, everybody. I hope you've enjoyed today's, podcast episode, and we hope we get to, catch you on the next one. Thank you. Amanda, again. And, have the best week ever. Guys.
01:06:43:11 - 01:06:53:13
Filly
Thank you so much for listening. We so appreciate you. If you'd like to give us extra smiles, drop us a review and spread the love by sharing this episode.
01:06:53:15 - 01:07:19:13
Chris
You can also write your own state of burnout and the root cause contributors by taking our Ending Body Burnout assessment on our website. And if you're interested in learning about that group one on one ending Body burnout programs, shoot us a DM via Instagram or Facebook. Have the best day ever.
01:07:19:15 - 01:07:20:03
Chris
For.
