Easy Does It

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At Chris and Filly Functional Medicine, we understand that one of the most challenging aspects of the healing journey involves navigating the space between wanting something and actually having it. Through our comprehensive Ending Body Burnout Method, we've discovered that learning to experience ease during this transitional period represents a crucial skill that supports both emotional wellbeing and physical healing.

Understanding the FUSES That Block Your Healing

The concept of FUSES—frustrations, uncomfortable sensations, and emotional situations—provides a powerful framework for understanding what blocks our progress toward desired outcomes. At Chris and Filly Functional Medicine, our work in holistic health and integrative medicine has revealed how these internal experiences create resistance that interferes with both healing and manifestation.

When individuals experience frustration about their current health situation, uncomfortable physical sensations, or challenging emotional states, the natural tendency is to try to fix, stop, or run away from these experiences. However, our approach to burnout functional medicine recognises that this resistance often creates additional stress that compounds the original problem.

The practice of becoming aware of where your FUSES are lit up without immediately trying to extinguish them represents a sophisticated skill that supports deeper healing. This awareness allows you to gather important information about what needs attention while avoiding the additional stress created by resistance and avoidance.

The Power of Leaning Into Discomfort

One of the most counterintuitive yet powerful practices in natural healing involves learning to lean into uncomfortable experiences rather than immediately trying to eliminate them. This doesn't mean wallowing in discomfort or making yourself suffer—rather, it involves developing the capacity to be present with difficult experiences long enough to understand their messages.

Through our alternative medicine approach, we've observed how uncomfortable sensations, frustrations, and emotional situations often carry important information about what needs to change or what we truly desire. When we immediately try to "put out" these FUSES, we miss the wisdom they're attempting to communicate.

Our naturopathic medicine philosophy recognises that symptoms and discomfort often represent the body's way of communicating about imbalances or unmet needs. Learning to listen to these communications with curiosity rather than fear creates opportunities for deeper understanding and more effective healing strategies.

Shifting Focus From What You Don't Want to What You Do Want

A fundamental shift in healing involves moving attention from what you don't want to what you do want. At Chris and Filly Functional Medicine, we've discovered that where attention goes, energy flows—and focusing predominantly on problems often perpetuates them.

This doesn't mean denying current challenges or engaging in toxic positivity. Rather, it involves acknowledging present circumstances while simultaneously clarifying and focusing on desired outcomes. Our root cause medicine approach includes specific practices for making this shift effectively.

The process of identifying what you truly want often requires sitting with discomfort long enough to move beyond surface desires to deeper authentic longings. Many individuals discover that what they think they want differs significantly from what they actually need for genuine fulfilment and wellbeing.

The Guided Practice of Finding Ease

The guided practice of experiencing ease involves several key components that work together to support the journey from wanting to having. Our holistic wellness approach includes specific techniques for navigating this process with grace rather than struggle.

The first step involves becoming aware of where FUSES are currently lit up in your experience. This might include frustration about healing progress, uncomfortable physical sensations, or challenging emotional states related to your health journey. Simply noticing these experiences without judgment creates the foundation for transformation.

The second step involves practising presence with these uncomfortable experiences without immediately trying to fix or eliminate them. This requires developing tolerance for discomfort while maintaining curiosity about what these experiences might be communicating. Our healing from within philosophy recognises this capacity as essential for deep transformation.

Questions That Create Ease in the Wanting-Having Process

Specific questions can help ease the transition from wanting to having by shifting perspective and opening new possibilities. At Chris and Filly Functional Medicine, we've developed a series of questions that support this process while maintaining alignment with your authentic desires and values.

These questions help clarify what you truly want beyond surface desires, identify any resistance or conflicting beliefs that might be blocking progress, and reveal actionable steps that feel aligned rather than forced. The practice of asking and answering these questions creates space for insights that support natural movement toward desired outcomes.

Our mind body medicine approach recognises that the quality of questions we ask ourselves directly influences the quality of answers and solutions we discover. Learning to ask questions that open possibilities rather than reinforce limitations represents a powerful skill for both healing and life transformation.

Understanding Resistance and Its Role in Healing

Resistance to current circumstances often creates additional suffering beyond the original discomfort. Through our personalised medicine work, we've observed how this resistance manifests as tension, anxiety, and the perpetuation of symptoms that might otherwise resolve more quickly.

The practice of finding ease doesn't mean becoming passive or accepting circumstances that need to change. Rather, it involves releasing the energetic resistance that creates additional stress while maintaining clarity about desired outcomes and taking aligned action toward them.

This distinction becomes particularly important in healing work, where the stress created by resistance to symptoms can actually worsen those symptoms. Learning to acknowledge current reality while maintaining vision for desired outcomes creates optimal conditions for transformation.

The Relationship Between Ease and Healing

The state of ease supports healing in multiple ways that extend beyond simple stress reduction. Our whole body health approach recognises that when the nervous system experiences ease, it shifts into parasympathetic activation that supports optimal immune function, cellular repair, and all healing processes.

Conversely, the stress and tension created by resistance and struggle maintain sympathetic activation that diverts resources away from healing toward immediate survival. This physiological reality explains why learning to find ease during challenging circumstances can dramatically accelerate recovery.

The practice of experiencing ease also affects emotional and mental wellbeing in ways that support overall health. When individuals can maintain relative peace despite current challenges, they preserve energy and resources that can be directed toward healing rather than consumed by worry and resistance.

Practical Applications for Daily Life

Integrating the practice of finding ease into daily life requires consistent attention and practice. Our health optimisation approach includes specific strategies for developing this capacity in ways that support both immediate wellbeing and long-term transformation.

One practical application involves regular check-ins throughout the day to notice where FUSES are lit up and practice presence with these experiences without immediately trying to fix them. This simple practice builds capacity for tolerating discomfort while gathering valuable information about needs and desires.

Another application involves using challenging moments as opportunities to practice the questions that create ease in the wanting-having process. Rather than viewing difficulties as problems to be eliminated, they become invitations to deepen self-understanding and clarify authentic desires.

The Role of Awareness in Transformation

Awareness represents the foundation for all transformation, yet it's often overlooked in favour of action-oriented approaches. Our preventative health philosophy recognises that sustainable change requires first developing clear awareness of current patterns before attempting to shift them.

The practice of becoming aware of where FUSES are lit up without immediately trying to extinguish them develops this crucial capacity for awareness. Over time, this practice reveals patterns and insights that inform more effective strategies for both healing and life transformation.

This awareness-based approach differs significantly from conventional problem-solving that immediately jumps to solutions without fully understanding the situation. By taking time to develop clear awareness, individuals often discover that solutions emerge naturally rather than requiring forced effort.

Integration and Sustainable Practice

Developing the capacity to experience ease during the wanting-having process requires ongoing practice and integration. Our functional nutrition and comprehensive lifestyle approach supports this development through multiple pathways that address physical, emotional, and mental aspects of wellbeing.

The integration of this practice into daily life creates cumulative benefits that extend far beyond individual moments of ease. Over time, individuals often discover that their baseline state shifts toward greater peace and acceptance, even in the presence of ongoing challenges.

This sustainable practice doesn't require perfection or constant ease—rather, it involves developing increasing capacity to return to ease after periods of struggle or resistance. This resilience becomes one of the most valuable outcomes of consistent practice.

Moving Forward With Grace

The journey from wanting to having, from illness to health, from struggle to ease, represents one of life's most profound opportunities for growth and transformation. Our nutrition and wellness philosophy recognises this journey as sacred rather than simply a problem to be solved.

By learning to experience ease during this transitional period, individuals often discover that the journey itself becomes valuable rather than simply a means to an end. This shift in perspective can transform the entire healing experience from one of struggle and suffering to one of growth and discovery.

Ready to discover how finding ease in your healing journey could accelerate your transformation while reducing the stress and struggle that often accompany recovery? We invite you to explore how our comprehensive approach to supporting the wanting-having process could help you navigate your health challenges with greater peace and effectiveness. Book a Discovery Call with us to learn more about our guided practices and transformative methodology, or take the first step through our Connect the Dots consultation to begin experiencing greater ease in your healing journey.

Remember, the path to healing doesn't have to be one of constant struggle and resistance. When you're ready to explore how finding ease could support your transformation, we're here to guide you on your journey to vibrant health and authentic wellbeing.

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Chris Bellette  is Co-Founder of multi award-winning health practice Chris & Filly Functional Medicine. He is a Burnout Recovery Coach, Certified NLP Master Practitioner & Mind Coach.

Together with his wife Filipa Bellette, Chris has worked with over 2,500+ burned-out clients in the past combined 25+ years. Their practice is best known for ending body burnout (for good!) in “busy” people with energy, mood & gut issues. They were recently awarded as the Tasmanian State Winner & National Finalist for the Telstra Best of Business Awards 2022, as well as Winner for the Australian Women’s Small Business Champion Awards 2022. Their work is regularly featured in the media, such as nine.com.au, Forbes and Body+Soul.

Chris’s own passion for helping “busy” people have more energy, calm and connection, came from his own personal experience of body burnout, after juggling the demands of business, family & elite athleticism.

Chris is a Burnout Recovery Coach & an accredited Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner, with a Bachelor of Human Movement Science. He has existed in high-performance realms of the sporting (think national athlete) & business industries and knows what it takes to get out of hustle-and-grind culture to thriving.