152. LIVE Root-Cause Coaching – The “Good Girl” Rulebook, People-Pleasing & Pulling Out the Root Patterns
We have a very special episode for you today! Chris coaches a brave soul live on our podcast. Nikky gets coached on the deeper “why” behind her rushing, overdoing, and defaulting to “I’ll just do it” — and how these patterns can quietly suffocate your health, your joy, and your ability to live with real intention.
It’s a rare honour to listen in on a very personal coaching session, so a big thank you to Nikki for allowing us to publish this episode. And also give Nikky some virtual/energetic love and compassion, as you listen to this intimate conversation. You’ll hear how easy it is to fall into “life hacks” and coping strategies… and why real change often requires going deeper than mindset alone.
Today’s episode gives you a glimpse into our “metaphysical” side of healing, which we call “Spark”. Spark is a CRITICAL piece that is often missed in the health industry. It gets to the very root of body burnout, by identifying deep-seated beliefs and stories that are causing sickness, and keeping you stuck from healing. Essentially, the process dives deep into your brain, your nervous system and your unconscious mind, and rewires your healing abilities from within.
In today’s episode, Chris coaches Nikky on:
- Chris’s “twitch grass” metaphor (and why it’s the perfect picture of subconscious programming that spreads into every area of life)
- The hidden rulebook Nikky has been living by: “I need to do the things that need to be done” — and how it creates pressure, overwhelm, and resentment underneath the surface
- The “good girl” conditioning that can start early (being the helpful one, the compliant one, the one who keeps it together) and how it shapes adult behaviour, boundaries, and people-pleasing
- Scarcity mindset + rushing energy: why it can make you productive… but also makes you do a “pretty crappy job” when you’re trying to clear your plate fast
- Using “FUSES” (Frustrations, Uncomfortable Sensations, Emotional Situations) to find your triggers in real time — and trace them back to the belief underneath
- What it actually looks like to do the deeper work: journaling, reflection, asking better questions, and being willing to dig even when it’s inconvenient
Show Note Links:
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Join our Ending Body Burnout Method here.
Take Chris & Filly’s Ending Body Burnout Assessment here
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